AlexandraOcean
Member
Hi there,
As the title states, I'm here because I'm struggling to fulfill my need for deep connection and it leaves me feeling lonely even when I'm around people, even when im with the people I love most in the world.
I've been struggling with PMDD for a few years now meaning I have bouts where I am bed bound and unable to get out and connect with the world.
I'm struggling with a few different things
- ageing - as a woman in my late forties I'm noticing my youthful beauty fading, I know that there is so much more to me than just my looks but the more I feel 'unseen' for who I am on the inside the more I find myself relying on my external to capture attention and appreciation and the greater my fear is of losing my looks
- no strings attached yet deep connection - I go in and out of wanting / needing deep connection. I struggle with friendships because I can't always be there for my friends and they can't always be there for me when I need them so I love the idea of having online connections that I can call upon and visa versa but that don't carry the weight of expectation or attachment.
- meeting like minded men and women - I thrive and thoroughly enjoy deep and honest conversations, my hubby is the polar opposite and it has me feel really sad. He is happiest talking about topics that are not about him, or me or us and it leaves me feeling disconnected. Whrn he talks about himself its usually about the past. I really hope in time we can learn to enjoy speaking each other's languages. Whilst this is my main priority to deepen my connection with him, I think that connecting deeply with others will feed this need taking the pressure of my relationship (if that makes sense).
- overeating
I've been turning to food to deal with my loneliness and I want to break out of this unhealthy habit by replacing it with satisfying connections
Looking forward to hearing from you soon and tackling our loneliness together one deep juicy connected conversation at a time
Thanks for reading and thanks to the founders for creating this forum!
As the title states, I'm here because I'm struggling to fulfill my need for deep connection and it leaves me feeling lonely even when I'm around people, even when im with the people I love most in the world.
I've been struggling with PMDD for a few years now meaning I have bouts where I am bed bound and unable to get out and connect with the world.
I'm struggling with a few different things
- ageing - as a woman in my late forties I'm noticing my youthful beauty fading, I know that there is so much more to me than just my looks but the more I feel 'unseen' for who I am on the inside the more I find myself relying on my external to capture attention and appreciation and the greater my fear is of losing my looks
- no strings attached yet deep connection - I go in and out of wanting / needing deep connection. I struggle with friendships because I can't always be there for my friends and they can't always be there for me when I need them so I love the idea of having online connections that I can call upon and visa versa but that don't carry the weight of expectation or attachment.
- meeting like minded men and women - I thrive and thoroughly enjoy deep and honest conversations, my hubby is the polar opposite and it has me feel really sad. He is happiest talking about topics that are not about him, or me or us and it leaves me feeling disconnected. Whrn he talks about himself its usually about the past. I really hope in time we can learn to enjoy speaking each other's languages. Whilst this is my main priority to deepen my connection with him, I think that connecting deeply with others will feed this need taking the pressure of my relationship (if that makes sense).
- overeating
I've been turning to food to deal with my loneliness and I want to break out of this unhealthy habit by replacing it with satisfying connections Looking forward to hearing from you soon and tackling our loneliness together one deep juicy connected conversation at a time
Thanks for reading and thanks to the founders for creating this forum!
Good to see another Aussie here. Welcome to you.
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