Zorananda
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Yes. But most people don't find it perfectly and/or permanently.
Do you believe in ever after ?
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Murakami_1
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Everything in life requires work. Happy endings require hard work. Happy ever after just plain up doesnt exist. The idea of a happy ever after is just something we get forced down our throats so we keep trying forever. Hope is a powerful thing.
You can get a fulfilling live I think, but you need to put the hours in it. If its mindset or behaviour.
I wish it was easy
You can get a fulfilling live I think, but you need to put the hours in it. If its mindset or behaviour.
I wish it was easy
M_also_lonely
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Yes. But I also believe that its not for everyone. Its only for those who were happily-ever-before. Even before they met each other.
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I hold onto the hope that it exists. Certainly.
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I don't know yet, but I hope it exists.
I think that if you can both develop and nurture your sense of curiosity and kindness, then maybe your relationship could last forever (it does happen!)
I think that people are infinitely interesting, and just as our relationship with ourselves is always evolving and we are also always growing, so is the other person in the relationship. So, the idea that you could get 'bored' with someone does not need to be an issue.
It is important to choose the right person though, I think. Or at least to be so evolved that you could love anyone, despite their flaws. (This is a skill in itself)
The real skill is to know when to throw in the towel, I think. Being treated poorly forever, just because I don't have the strength of character to show them the door is more of an issue for me!
But my main thought is that if you both allow each other to grow as people and enjoy that, while letting yourselves be seen, then the relationship could last forever.
Interesting thread! Thank you!
I think that people are infinitely interesting, and just as our relationship with ourselves is always evolving and we are also always growing, so is the other person in the relationship. So, the idea that you could get 'bored' with someone does not need to be an issue.
It is important to choose the right person though, I think. Or at least to be so evolved that you could love anyone, despite their flaws. (This is a skill in itself)
The real skill is to know when to throw in the towel, I think. Being treated poorly forever, just because I don't have the strength of character to show them the door is more of an issue for me!
But my main thought is that if you both allow each other to grow as people and enjoy that, while letting yourselves be seen, then the relationship could last forever.
Interesting thread! Thank you!
Since I don't remember anything from before my birth, I doubt I'll recall much from after my death.
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It is hard, when. Society has all these preconceived notions, about.
What people should look like, think, and feel like.
What people should look like, think, and feel like.
TropicalStarfish
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I think I do believe in, 'happily ever after.' I think I even believe in Disney version crazy super happy, happily ever after.
Though, the Disney movies usually end at the beginning of the happily ever after.
Do I think the feeling of freshly falling in love lasts forever? No. Honey moon's don't last forever.
But, I do think, some people, whether with a partner, or alone, can find contentment, stability, and harmony...
I think, and I hope, and I'd like to believe, there are people on this Earth, whether secretly, whether perceptibly so, or not, are living harmoniously with their surroundings and circumstances.
I think these people are not immune to misfortune, bad circumstances, etc... Perhaps even, their harmony, could end at any moment. Perhaps some harmony is more stable than others. But, I think there are 'self-actualized,' people out there, living their best life, who are on good terms with their mortality, as well as the life right before them.
And I think some of these people are in deeply unique, intricate, and loving relationships.
And I think that's beautiful.
I also think, chasing after, 'happily ever after,' or, 'desiring it,' in the wrong way, could be a hindrance to attaining it, for some.
Can't really follow the directions off of a map, unless you take your eyes off of it for the majority of your travels.
Though, the Disney movies usually end at the beginning of the happily ever after.
Do I think the feeling of freshly falling in love lasts forever? No. Honey moon's don't last forever.
But, I do think, some people, whether with a partner, or alone, can find contentment, stability, and harmony...
I think, and I hope, and I'd like to believe, there are people on this Earth, whether secretly, whether perceptibly so, or not, are living harmoniously with their surroundings and circumstances.
I think these people are not immune to misfortune, bad circumstances, etc... Perhaps even, their harmony, could end at any moment. Perhaps some harmony is more stable than others. But, I think there are 'self-actualized,' people out there, living their best life, who are on good terms with their mortality, as well as the life right before them.
And I think some of these people are in deeply unique, intricate, and loving relationships.
And I think that's beautiful.
I also think, chasing after, 'happily ever after,' or, 'desiring it,' in the wrong way, could be a hindrance to attaining it, for some.
Can't really follow the directions off of a map, unless you take your eyes off of it for the majority of your travels.
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MrLonely86
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Meme or not to meme? XD
My peeing on toilette lasts longer than average relationship. XD
My peeing on toilette lasts longer than average relationship. XD
AFrozenSoul
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I do, but I also believe that I have a better chance of winning the lottery 10 times in a row than I do of finding happily ever after.
JJW
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First you must define your specific happy. Me, bills managed, spending time with someone that doesn't keep me on edge. Sometimes I wonder if I could be happy alone. The people in my life have always seemed the wrong people. I live in regret for not following an alternative path. Always in the wrong place with the wrong people. I might be content alone. But I'm not technically alone now and I am lonely. Happily alone might just be a fantasy.
Would another path have been any different? I think happiness is the things that distract us from misery. It's a matter of which overwhelms which.
Would another path have been any different? I think happiness is the things that distract us from misery. It's a matter of which overwhelms which.
M_also_lonely
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The consistent pattern that I have observed is:
Happy before: Happier after
Happy before: Happier after
Draven
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**** no. I believe (out of aaalllllll types of ******** to believe in) make the best of what you got going. That's that "life gives you lemons" saying. Just add sugar. Make it sweet. In other words have fun while it lasts.
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I think most people do in the beginning of a relationship no matter how many we've been in. I've been married just about 20 years now (still married) ..... but here I am in "A Lonely Life" forum. The reason I am here may be my personal answer to your question, which is: I guess I don't believe.
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The problem can be that if your partner isn't willing then "having fun while it lasts" is knowing if you are appreciated and at what point you are convinced that you are not.
I place no trust on me (less on others). Once I did it, I have less concern, because life is easy (with less trouble). Jeremiah 17:5 taught me a lesson I learned to follow up Jer. 17:7 (which is easy, too)
