Do you have a fear of being single for the rest of your life?

[HellsLittleAngel]

No, I'm fine with being single. I love being single. Being single and having a relationship both have their pros and cons. Don't get me wrong, I'd be happy being with the right person, but I'm also content with my own self too.

 

[MrLonely86]

I won't be alive in 5 years time, so no.

 

[HellsLittleAngel]

I won't be alive in 5 years time, so no.

How do you know this?

 

[MrLonely86]

How do you know this?

" ... inevitably one or more will eventually progress and give rise to cancer (7% risk by age 21, rising to 87% by age 45 and 93% by age 50). "

I'm in early 30s for the context. So yeah, for sure I will be dead by 40s.

 

[HellsLittleAngel]

" ... inevitably one or more will eventually progress and give rise to cancer (7% risk by age 21, rising to 87% by age 45 and 93% by age 50). "

I'm in early 30s for the context. So yeah, for sure I will be dead by 40s.

You shouldn't listen to hearsay. Just live your life the best that you can. The more you focus on negative hearsay, the more you're going to become fixated on it, and worry for the rest of your existence. Just enjoy what you have and make the most of it.

 

[MrLonely86]

First time I was like 3-4 months away from cancer , I was lucky enough to buy myself ...... 8 years at this point. I think next 5 years is me asking too much for. xD But yeah, I'm in peace with it, I already decided to decline cancer therapy when the time comes. I'm in peace with it, it's all that matters. But yeah, reincarnation is real, so nothing to worry about, and future is garbage, so I didn't miss anything. xD

 

[HellsLittleAngel]

First time I was like 3-4 months away from cancer , I was lucky enough to buy myself ...... 8 years at this point. I think next 5 years is me asking too much for. xD But yeah, I'm in peace with it, I already decided to decline cancer therapy when the time comes. I'm in peace with it, it's all that matters. But yeah, reincarnation is real, so nothing to worry about, and future is garbage, so I didn't miss anything. xD

Good luck in life.

 

[TheSkaFish]

Yes, I worry about it often.

I worry that I just won't be able to come up with the right mix of career, interests/achievements, temperament, conversation pieces, thoughts/ideas, opinions, feelings, stories/experiences, to impress and interest someone with me - to get them to feel strongly enough about me in the right ways.

I'm afraid that I'll guess and guess and guess but never find the right things to make me a match for the ones I like and will spend my whole life on a lonely wild goose chase.

I also worry that I'll never have a life that I feel that great about, and therefore won't be able to give off good vibes.

I really hope I'm wrong, but I don't know. I haven't been right yet. Whatever I've come up with hasn't been enough.

It's so frustrating, because while there are women I talk to that I have similar interests and natures as me, where I think we could fit together/enjoy the same things/agree on most issues and views/feel the same way, I don't know what else I need to think, say, do, what I need to get interested in, HOW I need to come across, how I need to set up my life, to punch through to the next level.

I don't want to go through life always being the friend, never the boyfriend, because I just can't figure out the right answers.
I WOULD change myself for someone - not like fake-fitting myself in, like pretending to change my tastes or attitudes, but actual self-improvement.
I just don't know what exactly I need to do.

 

[HellsLittleAngel]

It's so frustrating, because while there are women I talk to that I have similar interests and natures as me, where I think we could fit together/enjoy the same things/agree on most issues and views/feel the same way, I don't know what else I need to think, say, do, what I need to get interested in, HOW I need to come across, how I need to set up my life, to punch through to the next level.

I don't want to go through life always being the friend, never the boyfriend, because I just can't figure out the right answers.
I WOULD change myself for someone - not like fake-fitting myself in, like pretending to change my tastes or attitudes, but actual self-improvement.
I just don't know what exactly I need to do.

NEVER change yourself for anyone but YOU!

 

[TheSkaFish]

NEVER change yourself for anyone but YOU!

I meant like, good changes.
Like how to stop being boring and unimpressive.

Not pretending to change stuff like my music tastes, my demeanor, my beliefs, etc. to try to impress/fit in with someone.

I know that won't work.

 

[HellsLittleAngel]

I meant like, good changes.
Like how to stop being boring and unimpressive.

Not pretending to change stuff like my music tastes, my demeanor, my beliefs, etc. to try to impress/fit in with someone.

I know that won't work.

No, I mean everything. Don't change yourself to blend and fit in to another's world. Let someone like you for your natural, and real self, no matter what. So, what if you're boring to others, that's not the type of attention you want then. If you have to change your own self to fit into someone else's box, then that person shouldn't be in your circle to begin with. NEVER EVER do that!