Got so lonely I called escort

[Unbinilium]

I feel for you. In Wacky Japan, you can hire someone to be your girlfriend. She'll do the whole girlfriend-boyfriend schtick and without and sex involved. If I lived in Japan, I'd happily pay that service but not for an escort. Like you, I really don't care about sex and don't want it either (And certainly not from a prostitute) but I still want the companionship and someone to talk to.

http://www.notcliche.com/lbw/rent-a-girlfriend-service-as-low-as-¥4000
It says the lists of services one business offers includes

1. Play video games (Wii PS3 PSP XBOX DS)
2. Watch a DVD with the girl
3. Play board games or card games
4. Massage your hand
5. Lie on her lap while she cleans your ears
6. Tsundere, dere dere slap
7. Read a bedtime story (funny that their operating hours goes to 10pm latest)
8. Take a photo together
9. Handmade candy
10. Get a love letter
11. Get cellphone email from her
12. Looking at you (…looking?)
13. Bromide (this actually means buy the photo)
14. Exchange presents

I'm probably never going to get a girlfriend so I've always wondered what it is like to have a nice one and go on a date. For once, I'll be one of those lovely dovey couples i sometimes glare at in envy.

 

[Rainbows]

I think you shouldn't do it, for the obvious reason that she's an escort. There's been many documentaries about this and you're probalby just in love or infinuated (or however you spell that word) by the idea of who she is, and not who she actually is (Don't get angry at me for saying this).

Please, there's many other possibilties. I don't want you to feel bad by getting rejected.

But, Ska? "It seems that you can't pour your heart out to someone unless it is already established that you are dating, and have been dating for a long time. Otherwise girls just see it as weak and lame."

Really? That's not true. Not all women are the same person with the same personality. My friends are pouring their hearts out every single time, and I don't consider them weak. I consider them strong for being able to speak up about it; for allowing themselves to show it to people. I'm glad they let me help them. I'm glad they don't have to do it alone. As a girl, if I were interested in somebody and you see they are obviously struggling with something and they're refusing to "pour their heart out", it just feels like they're not trusting you. It's okay to talk; It's okay to speak up; It's okay to feel things. You don't have to do it alone.

Edit: if they think you are lame and weak, you're just chasing girls who aren't worthy of your attention. When are people going to understand this? You don't have to be overly manly, you don't have to be bad-***. I'm so tired of trying to explain this to people. No one wants a bad-***. People want someone they can connect with, someone who understands what they mean, without being fake! Without having to change their personality around to gain their attention, because you'll lose it in the end eventually if you change who you are. What's wrong with appreciating a connection and a place where you can be yourself without being judged and just being heard and being appreciated? You're not gonna get it all in life, unless you're Bill Gates or some super genius. Find someone who likes you for you, appreciates you for you without you having to change who you are. No one is worthy of having to change what you stand for! Dammit! Stop that negative mindset!

Edit edit: this wasn't meant offensively, it was meant kindly and supportive of staying who you are. And stuff. Just, please don't take it in an agressive way.

But, hey, that's just my opinion.

 

[Hawx79]

Edited

 

[WildernessWildChild]

WOW!

 

[stork_error]

This thread is creepy, can I say that?

 

[ladyforsaken]

This thread is creepy, can I say that?

Why do you think it's creepy?

 

[ardour]

An attempt at an emotional connection in those circumstances is weird. His obsession with a prostitute, someone who likely sees him as another 'John', shows how deluded the OP is, and yes it's kind of creepy. Has to be said...

 

[Minus]

I don't know that i find it creepy, more sad than anything. An effects of extreme loneliness.

 

[ladyforsaken]

I don't know that i find it creepy, more sad than anything. An effects of extreme loneliness.

Yeah, this is what I think too.

 

[sk66rc]

Like many others have stated, I think it's a bad idea to start a relationship with a working girl... It can't end well...

 

[reloadlife23]

I couldn't bare the loneliness anymore so I called an escort service.
She was friendly and cute. She made me feel good and felt she pulled me out of my hellhole. It wasn't the sex but her being with me and talking to me that made me feel good again.
But when she left after an hour I felt even worse, knowing I had to endure being alone once again
I don't need sex, I just want someone like that with me in my life.
After she left I started to drink myself crazy to numb myself.
I'd like to call her again one day but I know she only likes my money and not me.
I am doomed to always be alone. I don't know for how many years I can stand my life anymore

You are better off being alone these days, with people walking around with ebola.
Never know who can pass it on to you also sex diseases.
Not worth taking chances these days. Be wise.

 

[Batman55]

An attempt at an emotional connection in those circumstances is weird. His obsession with a prostitute, someone who likely sees him as another 'John', shows how deluded the OP is, and yes it's kind of creepy. Has to be said...

He's interested in a woman who is finally giving him the attention he deserves. I don't see anything odd or creepy about that.

 

[Sci-Fi]

No reason for personal attacks. Be respectful towards each other. Just because it may not be something some agree with does not give others the right to insult or put them down.

 

[ventura23]

An attempt at an emotional connection in those circumstances is weird. His obsession with a prostitute, someone who likely sees him as another 'John', shows how deluded the OP is, and yes it's kind of creepy. Has to be said...

He's interested in a woman who is finally giving him the attention he deserves. I don't see anything odd or creepy about that.

Put your spiritual glasses on.

 

[stork_error]

I apologize for calling it creepy, that was mean. Let me just say
I think its irrational and unhealthy…the expectations.
And if I was the girl, I would be creeped out. I would.

 

[ardour]

He's interested in a woman who is finally giving him the attention he deserves. I don't see anything odd or creepy about that.

She's given him attention because that's what he's paid her for. It is sad that the OP thinks his feelings could be reciprocated, but still a bit creepy to expect genuine intimacy to come out of transactional sex.

 

[Triple Bogey]

it's not healthy what he is doing. I am sure it happens quite often though.
These women are usually very sexy, young and charming.

 

[LonelySutton]

I don't know... don't we all exchange things for love and affection? In some ways cash is the most honest. I see a lot of bizzare and weird stuff, that comes out of a need for affection and such. I can't really see any reason in this day and age for prostitution to be illegal. In some ways I feel it is bizzare that it is, but giving it away, is ok. Even though so much bad comes out of that as well.

 

[Hawx79]

So she's coming today, I have prepared myself on what to say and do. I am going to tell her what I feel about her too. I don't wont to come across as a creep but I just have strong desire to be with her, care for her and make her happy, she is the one for me.
I know it is a desperate offensive that Ill probably lose. But if I cant have her, I wont be able to have anyone in my life, I am 100% convinced of this.

 

[Limlim]

Let us know how it goes man. But I strongly recommend against doing it. She probably hears stories and confessions like yours 20 times a day from people who think exactly like you do.