Got so lonely I called escort

[ardour]

He wasn't bashing her so why would we not show compassion?

Um.. because the idea of purchasing a women's body (prostitution) would be offensive to a lot of women? Because the life of a prostitute is pretty grim and he's contributing towards that?

 

[DVEUS]

she knows you're vulnerable as i'm sure you've told her so or at least implied it...therefore she will suck the life's blood out of you just because she can...isn't there some other way...???

i hope things get better

 

[SofiasMami]

He wasn't bashing her so why would we not show compassion?

Um.. because the idea of purchasing a women's body (prostitution) would be offensive to a lot of women? Because the life of a prostitute is pretty grim and he's contributing towards that?

You don't speak for me or any other woman for that matter. And stop kicking Hawk while he's down.

-Teresa

 

[ardour]

You don't speak for me or any other woman for that matter. And stop kicking Hawk while he's down.

-Teresa

Actually I have some sympathy, since he got emotionally involved, but it's still definitely not a sane solution for loneliness.

 

[SofiasMami]

You don't speak for me or any other woman for that matter. And stop kicking Hawk while he's down.

-Teresa

Actually I have some sympathy, since he got emotionally involved, but it's still definitely not a sane solution for loneliness.

Sanctimonious judging (before you edited it out) is rarely helpful in any issue, including thisone. Your side comment about feminists, apropos of nothing, was quite revealing about you.

Back to the OP, give it some time and your strong feelings that she can be your girlfriend will probably fade a bit. I still think you shouldn't try to pursue her. Maybe dive into some other interests to distract yourself.

-Teresa

 

[SophiaGrace]

Honestly it's surprising that that women on these forums, self-described feminists included, have displayed so much compassion for him.

I guess this bursts your perception of women?

We do feel you know...

 

[ardour]

*crawls away with tail between legs* (apologies OP.)

 

[1000lifetimes]

I'd like to thank everyone who has been supportive and understanding towards me.

She said to me that she wasn't interested in a relationship for the moment, but then she added, that she doesn't know me that well. To me that sounded the same as, "try harder and I might in the future".
She isn't gonna do this escorting for long, perhaps for year orso. Then she will wanna settle and consider a relationship. I told her she could come visit and live with me for nothing in return and she said ill remember it.
I do not feel as a stalker because she has the right to tell her agency to decline me. And she hasn't so far. My guts tell me I need to go for it, you only live once, and I will try one last time, but for now im giving her space.
And she isn't all that into the money because the last time when her hour was up, I told her if she could stay for an hour longer, she refused. I hardly touched her, I just held her hand for a bit and kissed her only once and the rest we talked. I noticed she had gotten a bit bored and said she needed to leave.
I know everyone advice is to forget her, but I CANNOT! She is the only one for me and with all my heart. She is sweet and so pretty as a flower. Without her it feels as if there will always be absence of light in my life.
I'll tell her if she doesn't want to see me again, ill accept it and leave her alone forever, which I truly will.

Oh hawk - you poor misguided soul. If you truly love this woman - let her go. If she comes back to you on her own ... she is yours. If she doesn't ... she never was or will be.

 

[Rainbows]

He wasn't bashing her so why would we not show compassion?

Um.. because the idea of purchasing a women's body (prostitution) would be offensive to a lot of women? Because the life of a prostitute is pretty grim and he's contributing towards that?

Uhhh..

I don't think, you know, that it works like that. If he had started a thread complaining about the fact that this girl is an escort and la la la la - then he would've gotten comments, because a woman is free to do with her body as she pleases. He didn't bash her at all.

I feel sad for hawx. I feel sad that he feels this lonely. I feel sad that this has knocked him down even further.

Poor guy.

 

[ardour]

true. moralizing when someone's at rock bottom was inappropriate.

 

[TheLonelyNomad]

I couldn't bare the loneliness anymore so I called an escort service.
She was friendly and cute. She made me feel good and felt she pulled me out of my hellhole. It wasn't the sex but her being with me and talking to me that made me feel good again.
But when she left after an hour I felt even worse, knowing I had to endure being alone once again
I don't need sex, I just want someone like that with me in my life.
After she left I started to drink myself crazy to numb myself.
I'd like to call her again one day but I know she only likes my money and not me.
I am doomed to always be alone. I don't know for how many years I can stand my life anymore

I feel your pain and understand where you're coming from, Hawx79.

I am getting older, in my lower 30's, and have just started my second career in another industry.

I have dated in the past, but my relationships have not lasted more than a month.

I have been dumped/rejected/broken up many times, and it was done by the female partner.

Recently, I was paired up with the help of my mother's friend, who knew a single girl, who turned out to be somebody I used to go Friday night youth Bible study with. Well, I met up with and we had dinner. She then invited me to go camping with her and her friends. Two weeks later, I ask her out for dinner. She then called me four days later and told me that she does not want to continue dating me. It's like the 5th rejection I've faced this year!

Anyhow....getting back to the topic of this thread, if you feel the need to get an escort, I'd say go for it.

I have tried an expensive escort twice. It's freaking amazing! With all the girls turning us guys down, it's a huge plus to have a GFE (girlfriend experience) with these escorts.

Please stay away from street walkers/hookers. They are usually drug addicts, and many of them (at least in my area), are fugly. Some of them are tranny's too, so that's something to look out for too when dealing with street hookers.

If I can't get an expensive escort due to my income and having to pay back student loans, I go for "Golden Spa's" around my area. You know what I mean. These places are still expensive, so don't get me wrong. But at least you can have a nice looking chick rub you down, talk to you, make you increase your self-esteem.

---

I want to call her again and this time letting her know how much I want her in my life, as I want to do anything for her. I could tell her I'd provide and support her so she doesn't need to continue being an escort.
From the last meeting she wasn't personally interested in me, but she did answer all my personal questions truly. I asked about her family and real name and her plans for the future. She is a student and want to become a English teacher.
If only she would love me back, she would give purpose back into my life.
But big chance she wont

I know, im desperate, thats only because im at the ends of my wits...
I just don't want to live lonely miserable days anymore.
Apart from her job, she is everything I wanted in a woman and I absolutely believe she can be the one for me, if she only allow me into her life...

Hawx79, one more thing after reading this posting of yours.

Do NOT get too romantically attached to parlor providers or escorts.

They are only in this business for money. Money to pay back their loans or make money to support their education endeavors and miscellaneous everyday cost.

However, just for a GFE or to not be a freaking 40 year old virgin (yes, people make fun of you for being a virgin, esp towards guys), it's okay to occasionally have some "fun" at these establishments, or to call up an escort service to have some romantic adventure within your house/apartment.

 

[Rainbows]

true. moralizing when someone's at rock bottom was inappropriate.

glad we could agree

 

[Punisher]

He wasn't bashing her so why would we not show compassion?

Um.. because the idea of purchasing a women's body (prostitution) would be offensive to a lot of women? Because the life of a prostitute is pretty grim and he's contributing towards that?

You don't speak for me or any other woman for that matter. And stop kicking Hawk while he's down.

-Teresa

I think you will find plenty of women would agree with ardour, and they would be happy for him speaking for them.

 

[VanillaCreme]

He wasn't bashing her so why would we not show compassion?

Um.. because the idea of purchasing a women's body (prostitution) would be offensive to a lot of women? Because the life of a prostitute is pretty grim and he's contributing towards that?

I suppose one is fine thinking this if that's truly how they feel. My opinion against it is only strong for those forced into the way of life. Which leads me to saying this... She was not offended (to our knowledge) on what she does, so why should anyone else be? I'm sure she's capable of handling herself, and the way she explained her relationship reasons to the OP, she certainly handled herself well. She definitely doesn't need anyone being offended for her.

Just my two cents, and it's not meant to be rude, so apologizes if it comes off that way.

 

[TheSkaFish]

I think you will find plenty of women would agree with ardour, and they would be happy for him speaking for them.

Yeah, I would think so as well. I'd think that more people in general would take a more dim view of prostitution and people who turn to it, both as a career choice and as a service to use. If I had a sister or a daughter, I would not want them to turn to prostitution, or even stripping for that matter. I guess there would be little I could do to actually stop it, but it seems to me that it isn't a career choice which boosts one's self-worth. Also, it's very dangerous.

I also thought prostitution was kind of like smoking - something that used to be more common in the past, but has fallen into decline with the rise of health education.

Anyway. I don't bear Hawx, or anyone else here that has said that they have used escort services any ill will. I just wish you could find other ways of taking care of your desires, that were less risky to you and also helped you grow as a person. As you are, you can 100% get out of your ruts and into a happy life with a relationship, it might not be overnight success but I absolutely believe you can do it. But if you get sick, you'll have to live with that for the rest of your lives, which will be severely shortened, no doubt. It only takes one mistake to make the quality of your life infinitely worse. Even celebrities have met a bad end due to this same activity.

This is the last thing I'll say on the matter. Please, for your own sakes, stop this while you still can turn your lives around.

 

[reloadlife23]

I couldn't bare the loneliness anymore so I called an escort service.
She was friendly and cute. She made me feel good and felt she pulled me out of my hellhole. It wasn't the sex but her being with me and talking to me that made me feel good again.
But when she left after an hour I felt even worse, knowing I had to endure being alone once again
I don't need sex, I just want someone like that with me in my life.
After she left I started to drink myself crazy to numb myself.
I'd like to call her again one day but I know she only likes my money and not me.
I am doomed to always be alone. I don't know for how many years I can stand my life anymore

I feel your pain and understand where you're coming from, Hawx79.

I am getting older, in my lower 30's, and have just started my second career in another industry.

I have dated in the past, but my relationships have not lasted more than a month.

I have been dumped/rejected/broken up many times, and it was done by the female partner.

Recently, I was paired up with the help of my mother's friend, who knew a single girl, who turned out to be somebody I used to go Friday night youth Bible study with. Well, I met up with and we had dinner. She then invited me to go camping with her and her friends. Two weeks later, I ask her out for dinner. She then called me four days later and told me that she does not want to continue dating me. It's like the 5th rejection I've faced this year!

Anyhow....getting back to the topic of this thread, if you feel the need to get an escort, I'd say go for it.

I have tried an expensive escort twice. It's freaking amazing! With all the girls turning us guys down, it's a huge plus to have a GFE (girlfriend experience) with these escorts.

Please stay away from street walkers/hookers. They are usually drug addicts, and many of them (at least in my area), are fugly. Some of them are tranny's too, so that's something to look out for too when dealing with street hookers.

If I can't get an expensive escort due to my income and having to pay back student loans, I go for "Golden Spa's" around my area. You know what I mean. These places are still expensive, so don't get me wrong. But at least you can have a nice looking chick rub you down, talk to you, make you increase your self-esteem.

---

I want to call her again and this time letting her know how much I want her in my life, as I want to do anything for her. I could tell her I'd provide and support her so she doesn't need to continue being an escort.
From the last meeting she wasn't personally interested in me, but she did answer all my personal questions truly. I asked about her family and real name and her plans for the future. She is a student and want to become a English teacher.
If only she would love me back, she would give purpose back into my life.
But big chance she wont

I know, im desperate, thats only because im at the ends of my wits...
I just don't want to live lonely miserable days anymore.
Apart from her job, she is everything I wanted in a woman and I absolutely believe she can be the one for me, if she only allow me into her life...

Hawx79, one more thing after reading this posting of yours.

Do NOT get too romantically attached to parlor providers or escorts.

They are only in this business for money. Money to pay back their loans or make money to support their education endeavors and miscellaneous everyday cost.

However, just for a GFE or to not be a freaking 40 year old virgin (yes, people make fun of you for being a virgin, esp towards guys), it's okay to occasionally have some "fun" at these establishments, or to call up an escort service to have some romantic adventure within your house/apartment.

---

hawk eye
your hawk/eyes are blind, you are not lonely, you need your eyes examined by a spiritual surgeon. You are in danger of losing your soul.
Go to: antidoteforall.com
It is a 7 minuet meditation and it is free. I recommend you try it.

 

[TheRealCallie]

I have a few friends that are or used to be a stripper. They make good money, said money puts them through college and/or allows them to care for their children better than a job at McDonald's would. My one friend that used to be a stripper now has a VERY reputable job.
Speaking lowly of them is disrespectful. Escorts and strippers are people too. Who cares if YOU don't like what they do, it's not your right to judge them. If you don't like it, that's fine, but don't make people feel like they are ruining their lives for doing it, because they aren't. You can get ebola or the measles or the flu just by walking outside your house....well, I guess you should never go anywhere, you might ruin your life.

I think you will find plenty of women would agree with ardour, and they would be happy for him speaking for them.

I'm not sure any of the feminist women Ardour was referring to would appreciate him speaking for them. lol
I know I wouldn't, and I'm not a feminist.

 

[reloadlife23]

I couldn't bare the loneliness anymore so I called an escort service.
She was friendly and cute. She made me feel good and felt she pulled me out of my hellhole. It wasn't the sex but her being with me and talking to me that made me feel good again.
But when she left after an hour I felt even worse, knowing I had to endure being alone once again
I don't need sex, I just want someone like that with me in my life.
After she left I started to drink myself crazy to numb myself.
I'd like to call her again one day but I know she only likes my money and not me.
I am doomed to always be alone. I don't know for how many years I can stand my life anymore

I feel your pain and understand where you're coming from, Hawx79.

I am getting older, in my lower 30's, and have just started my second career in another industry.

I have dated in the past, but my relationships have not lasted more than a month.

I have been dumped/rejected/broken up many times, and it was done by the female partner.

Recently, I was paired up with the help of my mother's friend, who knew a single girl, who turned out to be somebody I used to go Friday night youth Bible study with. Well, I met up with and we had dinner. She then invited me to go camping with her and her friends. Two weeks later, I ask her out for dinner. She then called me four days later and told me that she does not want to continue dating me. It's like the 5th rejection I've faced this year!

Anyhow....getting back to the topic of this thread, if you feel the need to get an escort, I'd say go for it.

I have tried an expensive escort twice. It's freaking amazing! With all the girls turning us guys down, it's a huge plus to have a GFE (girlfriend experience) with these escorts.

Please stay away from street walkers/hookers. They are usually drug addicts, and many of them (at least in my area), are fugly. Some of them are tranny's too, so that's something to look out for too when dealing with street hookers.

If I can't get an expensive escort due to my income and having to pay back student loans, I go for "Golden Spa's" around my area. You know what I mean. These places are still expensive, so don't get me wrong. But at least you can have a nice looking chick rub you down, talk to you, make you increase your self-esteem.

---

I want to call her again and this time letting her know how much I want her in my life, as I want to do anything for her. I could tell her I'd provide and support her so she doesn't need to continue being an escort.
From the last meeting she wasn't personally interested in me, but she did answer all my personal questions truly. I asked about her family and real name and her plans for the future. She is a student and want to become a English teacher.
If only she would love me back, she would give purpose back into my life.
But big chance she wont

I know, im desperate, thats only because im at the ends of my wits...
I just don't want to live lonely miserable days anymore.
Apart from her job, she is everything I wanted in a woman and I absolutely believe she can be the one for me, if she only allow me into her life...

Hawx79, one more thing after reading this posting of yours.

Do NOT get too romantically attached to parlor providers or escorts.

They are only in this business for money. Money to pay back their loans or make money to support their education endeavors and miscellaneous everyday cost.

However, just for a GFE or to not be a freaking 40 year old virgin (yes, people make fun of you for being a virgin, esp towards guys), it's okay to occasionally have some "fun" at these establishments, or to call up an escort service to have some romantic adventure within your house/apartment.

---

hawk eye
your hawk/eyes are blind, you are not lonely, you need your eyes examined by a spiritual surgeon. You are in danger of losing your soul.
Go to: antidoteforall.com
It is a 7 minuet meditation and it is free. I recommend you try it.

---

Callie
You need professional help.

 

[VanillaCreme]

Reloadlife, don't start with the insults. She was stating her point of view, which everyone here has. You get one warning. This is your one warning.

 

[ardour]

I have a few friends that are or used to be a stripper. They make good money, said money puts them through college and/or allows them to care for their children better than a job at McDonald's would. My one friend that used to be a stripper now has a VERY reputable job.
Speaking lowly of them is disrespectful. Escorts and strippers are people too. Who cares if YOU don't like what they do, it's not your right to judge them. If you don't like it, that's fine, but don't make people feel like they are ruining their lives for doing it, because they aren't. You can get ebola or the measles or the flu just by walking outside your house....well, I guess you should never go anywhere, you might ruin your life.


I'm not sure any of the feminist women Ardour was referring to would appreciate him speaking for them. lol
I know I wouldn't, and I'm not a feminist.

Many feminists view the commodification of women's bodies as problematic. The arguments for and against are all out there, I'm merely repeating it. As for making good money - you could say that about selling drugs; good money but ultimately harmful to those involved, except with prostitution the harm is primarily borne by women who will likely suffer long-term psychological damage. I get that saying this as a male might make me sound like a sanctimonious prick, but just to be clear I wasn't judging them rather the demand for their services. That doesn't mean the OP must be a terrible person though, he's obviously at a low point and desperate for anything that passes for affection.