MentalDiscomfort
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I'm 21 and still a virgin. I get highly uncomfortable by just talking to females, so I don't see it happening very soon either. Same thing with relationships, don't want it.
there is no hope said:Yeah, stepping back it's quite silly to be too upset about the lack of women in my life. It's usually the reasons why we're trapped in this that are the problem, rather than the status of my thing.
At this point, I couldn't go through with that act anyway, not that there are any women who would want to.
Nethic said:The Healthy are allowed to breed, and the shy, and nervous are stuck holding their dicks in their hands. It's messed up and mildly depressing. I'm worried if it keeps going on like this I'm going to be on anti-depressants.
It's hard to stay positive when life just keeps ******* you in the ass.
Batman55 said:But you basically make it seem as if it's "proper" to label oneself as a loser, or unfit, due to an oversensitive nervous system. That doesn't make any sense to me. Even if it makes you less popular... it is what it is, and you need to accept it and still like yourself, right?
lmph8885 said:I wonder what is worse, being a virgin over 20 years old or having meaningful sex in order to fill up a void.... I think the second is worse.
there is no hope said:Several years ago I tried to meet women just to get it out of the way (without paying for it). It didn't work as well as I had hoped, but at least I know some women would have liked me enough if I weren't such a honeysuckle-up, and realized that women weren't nearly as harsh as I had feared.
ladyforsaken said:lmph8885 said:I wonder what is worse, being a virgin over 20 years old or having meaningful sex in order to fill up a void.... I think the second is worse.
How is the latter worse?
AnonymousMe said:By the way, I am a 25-year-old virgin and that makes me a piece of sh*t.
Batman55 said:AnonymousMe said:By the way, I am a 25-year-old virgin and that makes me a piece of sh*t.
Well given the emoji you may be a bit sarcastic, but if not, no use for pointless comparisons and value judgments because you still have virginity at 25. That's just ridiculous.
Start liking yourself a bit more. It will take a while. But once you really believe in your value, other good things will happen, including loss of virginity. I almost guarantee it.
looking glass said:I have had quite contrary experiences throughout.
I personally do not really care that I'm a virgin at almost 27 but others are somehow really put off by that. My close friends aren't but people I don't know so well are, if they find out.
I also always hear/read that liking yourself is important because it leads to good things, like relationships. That is blatantly false. Only because you like yourself it doesn't mean that you can expect to land a girl/boyfriend the next days/weeks/years. Also liking yourself doesn't really change that much how others see you. If you like yourself but the other person isn't into you then that won't help you.
However, it is important to like yourself regardless of these reasons. It is important to like yourself to be at peace with yourself and to have self-confidence. It will help in any area of life. To tell someone they need to like themselves to land a relationship is dangerous in the sense that it falsely gets ones hopes up.
It is important to like yourself without an immediate goal to achieve. What you want is you want to be content with yourself and have self-worth. THAT is why it's important to like yourself.
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