ardour
Well known loser
TheSkaFish said:As you can see this is a bit of a sensitive issue for me as well. I strongly believe that we don't have to resign ourselves to the social role that others try to relegate us into, though - especially when we're not coming off the way we want to because we just don't know how, or that we're doing anything wrong in the first place. I hope that my findings can help someone get out of that, as I learn how to get out of it myself.
It's like you think people are in some sort of collective agreement about “your place” and want to keep you there...
True, the best way to get people to think again without confronting them is to stop trying. Still be interested in talking, but have a ‘take it or leave it’, ‘I’ve other people I can talk to’ attitude. Or depending on their attitude, just stop talking to them full stop. Most people change tack once that becomes clear.
Everyone has weaknesses, why should you be expected to accept theirs if they won’t accept yours? Isn't that fundamentally assuming a “lower place”?