I got flirted with today....

[Montreal Skye]

It's interesting to see people's attitudes regarding this subject. Since that happened to me, even though I was pretty confused and surprised, it ultimately made me feel good about myself. I wasn't expecting anything from it and at this point, I wouldn't have wanted anything to happen in reality. But it was nice for my ego. I could have looked at it negatively and dismissed it as him just being a serial-flirt. Instead I decided to think about my positive attributes, despite my tendency to be self-critical. It really got me to be more accepting of what I normally consider my flaws. My confidence got a much needed boost and that helped me to really be comfortable with myself and open up even more. I guess years of therapy has taught me to always look for the lesson in everything and apply it to my life in a positive way. I'm doing that and this week I've felt happier than I have in a long time.

 

[IgnoredOne]

alot of women flirt with me. I don't really take it seriously because it never is. It's just usual the customer / worker banter you get in shops.

I don't know about that, I've never heard of that, and certainly where I work that kind of behavior would be soon postmarked with a dismissal for unprofessionalism.

 

[Montreal Skye]

alot of women flirt with me. I don't really take it seriously because it never is. It's just usual the customer / worker banter you get in shops.

I don't know about that, I've never heard of that, and certainly where I work that kind of behavior would be soon postmarked with a dismissal for unprofessionalism.

I can see this as being the norm in a bar or pub. I mean, bartenders tend to flirt with customers to make them feel good to get more tips, but in other situations, I think it just may be people being friendly.

 

[putter65]

It's interesting to see people's attitudes regarding this subject. Since that happened to me, even though I was pretty confused and surprised, it ultimately made me feel good about myself. I wasn't expecting anything from it and at this point, I wouldn't have wanted anything to happen in reality. But it was nice for my ego. I could have looked at it negatively and dismissed it as him just being a serial-flirt. Instead I decided to think about my positive attributes, despite my tendency to be self-critical. It really got me to be more accepting of what I normally consider my flaws. My confidence got a much needed boost and that helped me to really be comfortable with myself and open up even more. I guess years of therapy has taught me to always look for the lesson in everything and apply it to my life in a positive way. I'm doing that and this week I've felt happier than I have in a long time.

I'm glad your feeling happier

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alot of women flirt with me. I don't really take it seriously because it never is. It's just usual the customer / worker banter you get in shops.

I don't know about that, I've never heard of that, and certainly where I work that kind of behavior would be soon postmarked with a dismissal for unprofessionalism.

I work in a small shop. We are told to chat to the customers. Alot of the customers know me because I have been there for years. It's part of the job I like. People come in to talk about their day. Some of them come to my till on purpose to chat. They all know my name. The men usually talk about football. The women it's more flirty jokes etc.

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alot of women flirt with me. I don't really take it seriously because it never is. It's just usual the customer / worker banter you get in shops.

I don't know about that, I've never heard of that, and certainly where I work that kind of behavior would be soon postmarked with a dismissal for unprofessionalism.

I can see this as being the norm in a bar or pub. I mean, bartenders tend to flirt with customers to make them feel good to get more tips, but in other situations, I think it just may be people being friendly.

we are told to chat with the customers. We have mystery shoppers who come in and they mark us on how friendly we are. This goes to our bonus, so money is involved. I guess I am like a bartender.

My work personality is so different to my normal one. I am quiet everywhere except work.

 

[Astral_Punisher]

@OP

It sounds like you had a very cool experience that day, congrats .

 

[AFrozenSoul]

Its because we actually care for your opinions. This is one of the frustrating parts of communicating with you; you are essentially extremely passive aggressive, claiming in one thread that you don't want any replies or attention, and then stating how no one ever answers you. At least figure out what you want; honesty to others is a blessing, but honesty to oneself is an absolute necessity.

The only time I seek attention is when I make my own threads. When I post in someone else's thread it is not something I expect. However, if people reply to me I reply back. That is just how I am. You guys can just ignore me in threads that are not my own.

 

[Astral_Punisher]

The only time I seek attention is when I make my own threads. When I post in someone else's thread it is not something I expect. However, if people reply to me I reply back. That is just how I am. You guys can just ignore me in threads that are not my own.

Posts will be read, even if you do not want them to be read.
You speak, and people will hear and pay attention to you.
If you seek the chance to be ignored, then do not post in the first place.

Or you can post, and people will read your post, and we can have a conversation.

 

[AFrozenSoul]

Astral_Punisher: Yes I know, that is why I reply when I am spoken too. I have a thing about dangling questions. However, why should I change my disposition to life when I am talking on here? [/align]