LoneKiller
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That's what I plan to do.LeaningIntoTheMuse said:
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LeaningIntoTheMuse
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Limlim said:
Ooh baby...yeah yeah yeah....
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LoneKiller
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@perfanoff.
I'm not sure what you mean.
I'm not sure what you mean.
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Jason, I think you need to just realize that there will be people who dislike you, and move on from there.
I am what used to be a hardcore people pleaser. I hated it when people disliked me, and negatively projected it onto me. But I'm coming to realize who my real friends are, and I know that if someone dislikes me, it's not always my fault. Some people were just not meant to be friends, and that's okay.
Plus, if you want to be friends with every single person in the world...Charles Manson? Jeffrey Dahmer? There are a lot of sick people in this world, who probably would not want to be your friend, and would be poor choices in friends to begin with.
Just stop stressing! Life is too short to worry about crap like this. Be happy!
I am what used to be a hardcore people pleaser. I hated it when people disliked me, and negatively projected it onto me. But I'm coming to realize who my real friends are, and I know that if someone dislikes me, it's not always my fault. Some people were just not meant to be friends, and that's okay.
Plus, if you want to be friends with every single person in the world...Charles Manson? Jeffrey Dahmer? There are a lot of sick people in this world, who probably would not want to be your friend, and would be poor choices in friends to begin with.
Just stop stressing! Life is too short to worry about crap like this. Be happy!
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LoneKiller said:
Have you watched the movie Inception?
LoneKiller
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You're absolutely right. All of you are. The fact that all of you took the time to help is a positive sign. Besides, who wants a stressed out paranoid LK around?LeaningIntoTheMuse said:
Greb
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Well, I haven't been here long enough to know who you are, uh, Jason is it? Aparently so. I'll refer to you as LoneKiller though, since the ID's on the website are unique but many people could share Jason as the name. Admittedly at the moment I'm mostly judging peoples forum presence by the ONE TRUE DESIGNATOR; the post count. And by that reckoning, you should be gate keeper or key master or something. At the moment that makes me the peasant selling bread for a few gold pieces in order to make it through the day. Soon I may be "tavern bound bard" or possibly the "tavern keeper" or maybe even "blacksmith" but it's unlikely I'll ever reach "intrepid adventurer" though.
Ahem, anyway.
Regardless, you seem like a nice guy, and pretty intelligent, though grammar isn't always a defining factor on a persons intelligence, you seem well versed and you compose your posts well, which is a plus in my opinion. So do most of the people on this website also, and that's pretty awesome, as well.
We never had a slate to clean, really. Since we've never really met. But I shall consider your already pristine and serene slate cleaned once more.
It's basically glass now. Glass that's been thoroughly cleaned with industrial strength glass cleaner.
Don't worry so much about the computer thing...though I guess posting in a tech forum with minimal knowledge is a little fruitless, but it doesn't really matter at the great scheme of things, ever tiny bit of contribution is worth it. Unless you were posting in there with like LOL COMPUTERS NEED ELECTRICITY or something, but still. I don't know massive amounts about most things, but still. Everyone has a specialty.
Heh, my doctor thinks I'm paranoid too. Well, he hasn't told me yet but I know he's thinking it.
..yeah, sorry.
Paranoia can be a dangerous tool but also an ally...the only problem is paranoia can be easily defeated by liars, example some of the people in this thread could of mocked the hell out of you between private messages but claim not to, which will reassure you...but since I've said I've not been here long I wouldn't know so you should really take anything I say as crucial information or something. You can never be sure people are being 100% honest, even in reality, so you could say your paranoia is normal and healthy, if you wanted. We've all got our little problems.
Yeah I have to keep rereading your post to find something new to say and...have to admit because I don't know you other than this post it's HARD to think of anything to put. I don't want to do the typical agony aunt routine (which I might have just done about paranoia) because people tend to get annoyed by that and advice is never taken no matter how good it is, etc. It's also not really my place to say what you should be/could be/are.
I guess I'll say I don't really mind what people do because the rule "each to their own" applies heavily with me? If that helps. So confused
I guess changing pictures and signatures often can be irritating if you've got a really obvious and eye catching one, such as LeaningToTheMuse, I've come to know the Willow (or it's Hollow, never watched Buffy) animation as being him/her instantly. Not that I've ever paid any attention to their posts, but still. Regardless I don't think someone wanting to vary their projections from time to time anything worth hating.
I'll end this comment here because since I don't know you, I feel like I'm making a fool of myself even more with every single word I type. I tried making it long so I didn't look like a "ooh, free post count pretending I cared" poster, but yeah.
Ahem, anyway.
Regardless, you seem like a nice guy, and pretty intelligent, though grammar isn't always a defining factor on a persons intelligence, you seem well versed and you compose your posts well, which is a plus in my opinion. So do most of the people on this website also, and that's pretty awesome, as well.
We never had a slate to clean, really. Since we've never really met. But I shall consider your already pristine and serene slate cleaned once more.
It's basically glass now. Glass that's been thoroughly cleaned with industrial strength glass cleaner.
Don't worry so much about the computer thing...though I guess posting in a tech forum with minimal knowledge is a little fruitless, but it doesn't really matter at the great scheme of things, ever tiny bit of contribution is worth it. Unless you were posting in there with like LOL COMPUTERS NEED ELECTRICITY or something, but still. I don't know massive amounts about most things, but still. Everyone has a specialty.
Heh, my doctor thinks I'm paranoid too. Well, he hasn't told me yet but I know he's thinking it.
..yeah, sorry.
Paranoia can be a dangerous tool but also an ally...the only problem is paranoia can be easily defeated by liars, example some of the people in this thread could of mocked the hell out of you between private messages but claim not to, which will reassure you...but since I've said I've not been here long I wouldn't know so you should really take anything I say as crucial information or something. You can never be sure people are being 100% honest, even in reality, so you could say your paranoia is normal and healthy, if you wanted. We've all got our little problems.
Yeah I have to keep rereading your post to find something new to say and...have to admit because I don't know you other than this post it's HARD to think of anything to put. I don't want to do the typical agony aunt routine (which I might have just done about paranoia) because people tend to get annoyed by that and advice is never taken no matter how good it is, etc. It's also not really my place to say what you should be/could be/are.
I guess I'll say I don't really mind what people do because the rule "each to their own" applies heavily with me? If that helps. So confused
I guess changing pictures and signatures often can be irritating if you've got a really obvious and eye catching one, such as LeaningToTheMuse, I've come to know the Willow (or it's Hollow, never watched Buffy) animation as being him/her instantly. Not that I've ever paid any attention to their posts, but still. Regardless I don't think someone wanting to vary their projections from time to time anything worth hating.
I'll end this comment here because since I don't know you, I feel like I'm making a fool of myself even more with every single word I type. I tried making it long so I didn't look like a "ooh, free post count pretending I cared" poster, but yeah.
LoneKiller
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Thank you Greb. It's nice to meet you. Thank all of you for the support.Greb said:Well, I haven't been here long enough to know who you are, uh, Jason is it? Aparently so. I'll refer to you as LoneKiller though, since the ID's on the website are unique but many people could share Jason as the name. Admittedly at the moment I'm mostly judging peoples forum presence by the ONE TRUE DESIGNATOR; the post count. And by that reckoning, you should be gate keeper or key master or something. At the moment that makes me the peasant selling bread for a few gold pieces in order to make it through the day. Soon I may be "tavern bound bard" or possibly the "tavern keeper" or maybe even "blacksmith" but it's unlikely I'll ever reach "intrepid adventurer" though.
Ahem, anyway.
Regardless, you seem like a nice guy, and pretty intelligent, though grammar isn't always a defining factor on a persons intelligence, you seem well versed and you compose your posts well, which is a plus in my opinion. So do most of the people on this website also, and that's pretty awesome, as well.
We never had a slate to clean, really. Since we've never really met. But I shall consider your already pristine and serene slate cleaned once more.
It's basically glass now. Glass that's been thoroughly cleaned with industrial strength glass cleaner.
Don't worry so much about the computer thing...though I guess posting in a tech forum with minimal knowledge is a little fruitless, but it doesn't really matter at the great scheme of things, ever tiny bit of contribution is worth it. Unless you were posting in there with like LOL COMPUTERS NEED ELECTRICITY or something, but still. I don't know massive amounts about most things, but still. Everyone has a specialty.
Heh, my doctor thinks I'm paranoid too. Well, he hasn't told me yet but I know he's thinking it.
..yeah, sorry.
Paranoia can be a dangerous tool but also an ally...the only problem is paranoia can be easily defeated by liars, example some of the people in this thread could of mocked the hell out of you between private messages but claim not to, which will reassure you...but since I've said I've not been here long I wouldn't know so you should really take anything I say as crucial information or something. You can never be sure people are being 100% honest, even in reality, so you could say your paranoia is normal and healthy, if you wanted. We've all got our little problems.
Yeah I have to keep rereading your post to find something new to say and...have to admit because I don't know you other than this post it's HARD to think of anything to put. I don't want to do the typical agony aunt routine (which I might have just done about paranoia) because people tend to get annoyed by that and advice is never taken no matter how good it is, etc. It's also not really my place to say what you should be/could be/are.
I guess I'll say I don't really mind what people do because the rule "each to their own" applies heavily with me? If that helps. So confused
I guess changing pictures and signatures often can be irritating if you've got a really obvious and eye catching one, such as LeaningToTheMuse, I've come to know the Willow (or it's Hollow, never watched Buffy) animation as being him/her instantly. Not that I've ever paid any attention to their posts, but still. Regardless I don't think someone wanting to vary their projections from time to time anything worth hating.
I'll end this comment here because since I don't know you, I feel like I'm making a fool of myself even more with every single word I type. I tried making it long so I didn't look like a "ooh, free post count pretending I cared" poster, but yeah.
P.S. You wanna see a high post count? Check out Minus' total!
EveWasFramed
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25,993 He's awesome.
He's awesome.
LoneKiller
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I know that he has been here a long time, but holy ****! He should have called himself the "Post Master" or something.EveWasFramed said:25,993
Can't say I have. I'll go to IMDB for info.perfanoff said:
ladyforsaken
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LeaningIntoTheMuse said:
I like that quote.
Jason, you know we want you here. You're a kind-hearted person with interesting ideas for starting threads and discussions and you stand up for what you believe is right. I think like what you say, some of it has got to do with your paranoia and worry about whether people like you or not. Let it go, and don't bother if people don't bother about you. You are who you are, and no matter what you do, your sigs or way of responding to people are what makes you, you.
So don't change, well if you do, at least work on the negative things that bug you and change them for the better, but I really would prefer you to just be yourself as much as you can. *hugs*
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I think you're wrong, Jason.
You say you need a thicker skin, but i think you're avoiding the problem there. You said that you have problems with hurting people because you have hurt people in the past and pretty much hate yourself for it.
Well, there's your answer. You need to properly deal with your past, mentally, to be able to move forward. If you just say you need to grow a thicker skin, it either won't work or it won't work well, because the issue is still there.
If i get a heart attack, and i'm saved, and continue to live just as i did before, since i was saved anyway, i'll be ignoring the real cause. Do you understand what i mean?
If you don't do that, you'll become "people who say they don't care but i think they do."
Good luck man, i'm there for you.
You say you need a thicker skin, but i think you're avoiding the problem there. You said that you have problems with hurting people because you have hurt people in the past and pretty much hate yourself for it.
Well, there's your answer. You need to properly deal with your past, mentally, to be able to move forward. If you just say you need to grow a thicker skin, it either won't work or it won't work well, because the issue is still there.
If i get a heart attack, and i'm saved, and continue to live just as i did before, since i was saved anyway, i'll be ignoring the real cause. Do you understand what i mean?
If you don't do that, you'll become "people who say they don't care but i think they do."
Good luck man, i'm there for you.
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Exactly Rosebolt
Greb
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I did some rooting but I could only come up with one thing I dislike about you, actually. Well, two, but one of them is irrelevant and stupid, like disliking a puppy for not knowing where to **** or something.
The quality of your posts are indeed excellent, and your opening statements in the topics you make, but the way you use a capital letter on every word, even the bridging minor words like AND or THE and such, really grates on my particular block of brain cheese. It's just a habit that is only slightly less annoying than people who like to talk in chat in broken up sentences, example;
Greb: So how are you guys feeling?
Greb: I was thinking of maybe doing
Greb: Something really awesome today
Greb: Like building a rocket.
Instead of just saying it all in one throw. It's also slightly less annoying than people who abuse the comma so much they make me think they're wearing a respirator and iron lung. Anyway that's irrelevant.
I know I've not been here long so what I think is generally worthless, but still. That's the only thing I've been able to find (other than the other thing, which is stupid to be annoyed by anyway) so I'm just going to grin and assume your paranoia is baseless.
I don't know any better, anyway.
The quality of your posts are indeed excellent, and your opening statements in the topics you make, but the way you use a capital letter on every word, even the bridging minor words like AND or THE and such, really grates on my particular block of brain cheese. It's just a habit that is only slightly less annoying than people who like to talk in chat in broken up sentences, example;
Greb: So how are you guys feeling?
Greb: I was thinking of maybe doing
Greb: Something really awesome today
Greb: Like building a rocket.
Instead of just saying it all in one throw. It's also slightly less annoying than people who abuse the comma so much they make me think they're wearing a respirator and iron lung. Anyway that's irrelevant.
I know I've not been here long so what I think is generally worthless, but still. That's the only thing I've been able to find (other than the other thing, which is stupid to be annoyed by anyway) so I'm just going to grin and assume your paranoia is baseless.
I don't know any better, anyway.
LoneKiller
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You all have posted some very honest and good advice. I appreciate it a lot. I do have a lot of trouble with living in the past. After reading your guys' words and through prayer, I've come to realize one thing that is important. Forgiving myself for all of the pain I've caused over the years.
I've got the tools I need to help me. All I need to do now is use them. Thanks you all for giving me the tools.
I've got the tools I need to help me. All I need to do now is use them. Thanks you all for giving me the tools.
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I think paranoia stemming from too much time on here and the few cases in the past where it might have been true about sums it up. Your desire to constantly put yourself out there via threads has made you think you're the subject of everyone's thoughts and quips, when most people are too busy thinking about other things while goofing around.
LoneKiller
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You all make good points.
I've noticed something. Especially in the issues section. We all seem to give great advice to help others with the very same problems we are suffering from. If we are able to offer such great advice to others, why can't we take that same advice and use it to get well ourselves? Why join a forum such as this if we all have the solutions?
I've noticed something. Especially in the issues section. We all seem to give great advice to help others with the very same problems we are suffering from. If we are able to offer such great advice to others, why can't we take that same advice and use it to get well ourselves? Why join a forum such as this if we all have the solutions?
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Because we need the strength to believe in ourselves
