Most overused attempt of advice ever "You are still young".

[Felix]

The worst advice is "suck it up", I hate that.

 

[9006]

The worst advice is "suck it up", I hate that.

Yeah.. or "Just deal with it".

 

[Sci-Fi]

^ Man I hate both of those, just shows that the person you are talking to has no understanding of how you are feeling.

 

[ardour]

"harden up"

 

[9006]

Yeah.. or "Just deal with it".

I genially only just realized that it says this in Felix's sig, haha.

 

[Felix]

^ Man I hate both of those, just shows that the person you are talking to has no understanding of how you are feeling.

It's really frustrating when you open up and find zero emphaty with this kind of answers.

Yeah.. or "Just deal with it".

I genially only just realized that it says this in Felix's sig, haha.

lol I tought of that too. In my defense, is not meant for this kind of situations, I wouldn't say that in real life...

 

[kamya]

The worst advice is "suck it up", I hate that.

Actually that is probably the best advice. It's the only thing that gets a lot of us through life. It's definitely something my kids are going to have drilled into them as they grow up. Too many useless whiners out there already. Life isn't fair. Get over it.

 

[Cucuboth]

Ugh. Advice. It's a particular bug-bear with me. I think some people might be doing it because they genuinly think that they are being helpful. But they are a very, very, very small minority. Most people give cliched advice to ease their own concience. To feel that they have helped, but with as minimal effort as possible. And then if you don't follow their 'advice', they get all ****** and accuse you of being ungrateful. Or maybe that's just my experience ....

"There's someone out there for you". "You'll meet someone when your not looking". "You just have to put yourself out there". "Man up". "Harden up". "Your still young ...". "It will happen one day". Not to forget the contridictory "Just be yourself", and "Fake it until you make it". Just how are you supposed to be yourself AND pretend to be something your not, all at the same time? (although any relationship or even a friendship shouldn't be started on something fake, IMO)

But one of the worst things to say when someone is giving advice is to add the two words "I promise ...". Ah. No. Don't promise ANYTHING unless your going to do it, or help with it, yourself.

 

[WildernessWildChild]

I guess it's the best advice some people can give, and if I say it what I would mean is that there is still time to change things as has been stated.

I've seen statements from people on here from 15, 16 who think nothing can change. Trust me things can change at any time. Who knows what another year, month, week, even a day can bring. What if tomorrow someone moves into the house next door who will one day be your wife/husband? Next week a new company starts up that one day you end up running.

Life and the future are possibilities waiting to be discovered

We all get down, and maybe I don't understand this as much as some of the people on here, but I do believe in positive thinking, if you are young you still have much to discover about the world and yourself, you may not even discover things about yourself until much later in life, like I have.

You have to try to stay strong, stay positive and do your best to make your future as bright as you can.

Time is precious, treasure it and make it count.

The Emperor pretty much said word for word what I would've said. The only thing I'm going to add is how pleased I am when I (at 46) get told "You are still young yet...", I take that as major encouragement and I'm somewhat flattered as well.

 

[Felix]

Ugh. Advice. It's a particular bug-bear with me. I think some people might be doing it because they genuinly think that they are being helpful. But they are a very, very, very small minority. Most people give cliched advice to ease their own concience. To feel that they have helped, but with as minimal effort as possible. And then if you don't follow their 'advice', they get all ****** and accuse you of being ungrateful. Or maybe that's just my experience ....

"There's someone out there for you". "You'll meet someone when your not looking". "You just have to put yourself out there". "Man up". "Harden up". "Your still young ...". "It will happen one day". Not to forget the contridictory "Just be yourself", and "Fake it until you make it". Just how are you supposed to be yourself AND pretend to be something your not, all at the same time? (although any relationship or even a friendship shouldn't be started on something fake, IMO)

But one of the worst things to say when someone is giving advice is to add the two words "I promise ...". Ah. No. Don't promise ANYTHING unless your going to do it, or help with it, yourself.

The problem is that all those phrases are generic advice. Is annoying becasue it feels like the person is telling you that just becasue he/she feels like he/she has got to say something at the moment. If you don't know the person that well or you lack emphaty, you shouldn't be giving advice, unless you're asked.

 

[randomdude]

Ugh. Advice. It's a particular bug-bear with me. I think some people might be doing it because they genuinly think that they are being helpful. But they are a very, very, very small minority. Most people give cliched advice to ease their own concience. To feel that they have helped, but with as minimal effort as possible. And then if you don't follow their 'advice', they get all ****** and accuse you of being ungrateful. Or maybe that's just my experience ....

"There's someone out there for you". "You'll meet someone when your not looking". "You just have to put yourself out there". "Man up". "Harden up". "Your still young ...". "It will happen one day". Not to forget the contridictory "Just be yourself", and "Fake it until you make it". Just how are you supposed to be yourself AND pretend to be something your not, all at the same time? (although any relationship or even a friendship shouldn't be started on something fake, IMO)

But one of the worst things to say when someone is giving advice is to add the two words "I promise ...". Ah. No. Don't promise ANYTHING unless your going to do it, or help with it, yourself.

Those advices actually never got to me and people are saying the same all over and over again. But i i appreciate their time even bothering to respond.