Hey everybody i'm new on the forum. anyway i'd like to ask advice about dating sides. i recently signed up to plenty of fish and would like to hear advice about how to write a first message to someone and just any other tips you guys may have. it's my first time trying one of these sites. thanks in advance.
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Brian
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The few times I have, I just say something like:
Hi,
Whats up? I saw your profile and you sound like someone I might like to know. [Generic comment regarding mutual interest or something]. Let me know if you want to talk more.
Cheers,
Brian
Note that I have never found a date off of either of the dating sites I've tried, so take my advice with a grain of salt.
Hi,
Whats up? I saw your profile and you sound like someone I might like to know. [Generic comment regarding mutual interest or something]. Let me know if you want to talk more.
Cheers,
Brian
Note that I have never found a date off of either of the dating sites I've tried, so take my advice with a grain of salt.
FillyTheBish
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Are there any free dating sites? And I mean really free, like you don't have to pay to use all the features like sending messages to people.
I've signed up to a few, they say it's free and then you have to pay to send a message
I've signed up to a few, they say it's free and then you have to pay to send a message
I sent messages to 3 girls last night, 1 of them read my message and didn't respond and another read and deleted my message so i'm expecting this to be an exercise in futility. I guess it's stupid to think that someone would be intrested in me online when no one seems to be in real life, or maybe i just give up too easily. i guess i'll keep trying but i'm not very optimistic about it.
kimberleykat
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I dont know whether it counts as a dating site or not but maybe you can check it out? badoo.comLonely89 said:
Love is not easy to find huh..
I guess I am suffering from it..
FillyTheBish
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I just signed up to plentyoffish, haven't sent any messages, will wait and see.
I've had one person view my profile so far, but no messages yet.
Heres my profile name, don't think I can add a link from outside the website > LeeTheLonely or try this link http://www.plentyoffish.com/viewprofile.aspx?profile_id=17193424
I've had one person view my profile so far, but no messages yet.
Heres my profile name, don't think I can add a link from outside the website > LeeTheLonely or try this link http://www.plentyoffish.com/viewprofile.aspx?profile_id=17193424
Heck Filly, I'd hit you up if you were on the same continent as me. Not bowling though...how about ice skating? I've always wanted to try that.
I have a friend that uses online dating sites and all the women he's met up with IMHO were pretty damn scary. But I also know a woman who met her husband through match.com.
I have a friend that uses online dating sites and all the women he's met up with IMHO were pretty damn scary. But I also know a woman who met her husband through match.com.
i thought you set your expectation a little high, with all you're achievements and stuff. i mean some girls might be scared of being too boring for you.
maybe i am jaleous, what do i know, i tried date.com, and did not wrote a little essay to say anything about me, thought i would sound too monotonous...too ordinary. anyway i post a picture and i hope that's enough,
yeah i also have to pay for to be able to do more, bummer
maybe i am jaleous, what do i know, i tried date.com, and did not wrote a little essay to say anything about me, thought i would sound too monotonous...too ordinary. anyway i post a picture and i hope that's enough,
yeah i also have to pay for to be able to do more, bummer
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Yeah, I've never done anything with dating sites. I've personally never witnessed a relationship spawn from online dating. For my situation face to face contact from the beginning is probably the best way to go for me anyway.
duality
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FillyTheBish said:
You're good-looking enough to get a girl. I don't think you'll have a hard time attracting women.
FillyTheBish
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Thanks for the support guys.
I am dubious of what will happen with this online dating thing and to be honest, most womens profiles I look at, they come off realy shallow.
And if my lifes experiences are anything to go by, I probably won't get much further than a first date when I find someone I like.
But I guess it's all swings and roundabouts. Some guys with little personality don't get any luck, but then neither do some girls who are physically ugly/fat.
I guess we are all shallow in our own way. I'm only really interested in the "pretty" girls, so I'm no better I suspect.
I'd hate to meet a girl and spend weeks dating only to find she has zero interest in the things I like.
I've just finished a 4 year relationship with someone like that, we were like polar opposites and it was probably the biggest waste of my life ever. She would even make me feel guilty about spending tme at the gym or doing my Uni assignments, it was horrible when I think back to it.
And they aren't realy achievements, just hobbies that I would like to share with someone who also enjoyed them.
How can I meet someone who is like me, if I don't say anything about myself? Maybe this is why so many people complian of bad meets?
I am dubious of what will happen with this online dating thing and to be honest, most womens profiles I look at, they come off realy shallow.
And if my lifes experiences are anything to go by, I probably won't get much further than a first date when I find someone I like.
But I guess it's all swings and roundabouts. Some guys with little personality don't get any luck, but then neither do some girls who are physically ugly/fat.
I guess we are all shallow in our own way. I'm only really interested in the "pretty" girls, so I'm no better I suspect.
I thought about that too, but I want to reduce the chance of "bad" meetings.viviana said:
I'd hate to meet a girl and spend weeks dating only to find she has zero interest in the things I like.
I've just finished a 4 year relationship with someone like that, we were like polar opposites and it was probably the biggest waste of my life ever. She would even make me feel guilty about spending tme at the gym or doing my Uni assignments, it was horrible when I think back to it.
And they aren't realy achievements, just hobbies that I would like to share with someone who also enjoyed them.
How can I meet someone who is like me, if I don't say anything about myself? Maybe this is why so many people complian of bad meets?
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Hey Filly, if I didn't know you were on a site for lonely people I'd think you were a total player... you should do good just don't expect women to make the first move. It's a numbers game and the guy is in the driver's seat. If you want some advice... you should set your "body type" to something or else women will think you're hiding that you're overweight.
I skim the girls in my area on that site but it's so depressing... half the women I find attractive totally kill it when they do the kissy face (nothing turns me off faster) or dress like sluts and the other half look like my type but look so complete/happy it intimidates me.
I skim the girls in my area on that site but it's so depressing... half the women I find attractive totally kill it when they do the kissy face (nothing turns me off faster) or dress like sluts and the other half look like my type but look so complete/happy it intimidates me.
FillyTheBish
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I am not a player, I find it very hard to talk to and connect with people.
thanks for the heads up about body type, I missed that one.
I don't realy have many friends, mainly because I don't enjoy going out or socialising, thats why I'm lonely. I have zero social life beyond going to the gym and my clubs. I have opportunities to go out, but I just can't, it's like a social anxiety.
I know what you mean about being intimidated by some women. But how I deal with it, is that I understand that they are human like me, they have insecurities and problems like me.
Might sound wierd, but I try to imagine that women are just pretty blokes, or I'm talking to a family member and that helps a lot.
thanks for the heads up about body type, I missed that one.
I don't realy have many friends, mainly because I don't enjoy going out or socialising, thats why I'm lonely. I have zero social life beyond going to the gym and my clubs. I have opportunities to go out, but I just can't, it's like a social anxiety.
I know what you mean about being intimidated by some women. But how I deal with it, is that I understand that they are human like me, they have insecurities and problems like me.
Might sound wierd, but I try to imagine that women are just pretty blokes, or I'm talking to a family member and that helps a lot.
you know you 're doing the righ hings. my t is fighing wih me righ now. don't mind my opinion especially if you had an experience with a relationship before, you know what o look for now, better luck to you
FillyTheBish
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Wow the people on these dating sites are so shallow!
I've been browsing the Plenty of Fish forum and there is a section for profile reviews; so many people are asking what they should change in their profile to attract more people and the advice they get is to practically re-write their entire personality.
I sent mine in to be reviewed and I was told to remove certain parts, change my username and I would of ended up sounding like a totally different person.
I hope they are not all like that, but a lot of womens profiles seem to be about 1 line or 2 that say the same things, it's like an army of clones.
I've been browsing the Plenty of Fish forum and there is a section for profile reviews; so many people are asking what they should change in their profile to attract more people and the advice they get is to practically re-write their entire personality.
I sent mine in to be reviewed and I was told to remove certain parts, change my username and I would of ended up sounding like a totally different person.
I hope they are not all like that, but a lot of womens profiles seem to be about 1 line or 2 that say the same things, it's like an army of clones.
