Questions for the Men

[CenotaphGirl]

Well, thought I'd ask another question after flicking through my mental stereotypes about men lol. Now... this is mainly from my upbringing but I wanted to know if you fellas feel this is true to you...

Do you struggle to say sorry when you are in the wrong?.

Context - My dad was like a pilar of everything a man should be to me, however, the man had his flaws lol He'd never say "I'm sorry" he'd rather give you his teeth. No matter if it was clear as day that he was wrong, as I went through life I noticed men rarely say sorry in my circles, is this by design?

In terms of research I watched some feminist make a speech that women say sorry too much, and gave examples of what men said instead of saying sorry, I was mind blown... also dating advice to accept gestures as apologies from men because they just aren't gonna say it lol Hmm this is interesting, wanna discuss?

 

[Colster]

Well, thought I'd ask another question after flicking through my mental stereotypes about men lol. Now... this is mainly from my upbringing but I wanted to know if you fellas feel this is true to you...

Do you struggle to say sorry when you are in the wrong?.

Context - My dad was like a pilar of everything a man should be to me, however, the man had his flaws lol He'd never say "I'm sorry" he'd rather give you his teeth. No matter if it was clear as day that he was wrong, as I went through life I noticed men rarely say sorry in my circles, is this by design?

In terms of research I watched some feminist make a speech that women say sorry too much, and gave examples of what men said instead of saying sorry, I was mind blown... also dating advice to accept gestures as apologies from men because they just aren't gonna say it lol Hmm this is interesting, wanna discuss?

Honestly, I wouldn't know. I suppose this would be best answered by somebody else who knew me. I am aware that I have been a moody person of past. Yet, I would like to think that I am honest about my flaws, and apologise where necessary.

 

[CenotaphGirl]

Honestly, I wouldn't know. I suppose this would be best answered by somebody else who knew me. I am aware that I have been a moody person of past. Yet, I would like to think that I am honest about my flaws, and apologise where necessary.

To be fair Colster, I never thought I said sorry too much, until I watched this feminists bloody speech about it. I had a "my god...she's right!" moment lol My dad always used to hit me with "dont be wrong and strong" and "never be too big to say sorry" the only advice he could never follow himself though lol .

Do you feel that most men would say sorry to you in your day to day circles?

 

[Colster]

I guess not. Well not men of my generation, it's just not something we were encouraged to do. Never trust a copper, never admit guilt. You only said sorry to your mum, or when forced to in school.

 

[user 139760]

Well, thought I'd ask another question after flicking through my mental stereotypes about men lol. Now... this is mainly from my upbringing but I wanted to know if you fellas feel this is true to you...

Do you struggle to say sorry when you are in the wrong?.

Context - My dad was like a pilar of everything a man should be to me, however, the man had his flaws lol He'd never say "I'm sorry" he'd rather give you his teeth. No matter if it was clear as day that he was wrong, as I went through life I noticed men rarely say sorry in my circles, is this by design?

In terms of research I watched some feminist make a speech that women say sorry too much, and gave examples of what men said instead of saying sorry, I was mind blown... also dating advice to accept gestures as apologies from men because they just aren't gonna say it lol Hmm this is interesting, wanna discuss?

Yes, it is very true that people, in general, are allergic to the words "I'm sorry" or "I was wrong". I don't know which Feminist speech you were watching exactly, but the irony isn't lost on me that it's also a category of people who has trouble with it. I was watching a speech about veganism where the consumption of meat was compared to women's ****, it felt like I was having an out of body experience...we could probably all of us work to be better at that, that being said, manyndenounce it but have zero interest in self-reflection, and admitting either remorse or lack of knowledge is something alien to them. Ego gets in the way far too often.

 

[CenotaphGirl]

I guess not. Well not men of my generation, it's just not something we were encouraged to do. Never trust a copper, never admit guilt. You only said sorry to your mum, or when forced to in school.

You know... thats interesting, yeah, this man at one acting job kinda hunched towards me in a threatening manner because I kinda got him in serious trouble with his manager, not my fault I was just telling the truth, but he was fed up and kinda lied to me so it all ended up blowing up... it was funny, all I demanded from him was an apology... nothing more and nothing less. HR offered me money, they offered me everything under the sun... He literally resigned lol rather than just say "I'm sorry, I shouldn't have been threatening towards you for doing your job". Thats all I wanted.

 

[Colster]

That's absurd, and yet totally believable. We can be absolute dicks sometimes.

 

[CenotaphGirl]

Yes, it is very true that people, in general, are allergic to the words "I'm sorry" or "I was wrong". I don't know which Feminist speech you were watching exactly, but the irony isn't lost on me that it's also a category of people who has trouble with it. I was watching a speech about veganism where the consumption of meat was compared to women's ****, it felt like I was having an out of body experience...we could probably all of us work to be better at that, that being said, manyndenounce it but have zero interest in self-reflection, and admitting either remorse or lack of knowledge is something alien to them. Ego gets in the way far too often.

You know what... I see your point here, what do you think of the idea from the dating coaches to just accept "gestures" as apologies from men, as well.. they just won't say sorry? A load of crap, or some ring to it?

 

[Finished]

Well, thought I'd ask another question after flicking through my mental stereotypes about men lol. Now... this is mainly from my upbringing but I wanted to know if you fellas feel this is true to you...

Do you struggle to say sorry when you are in the wrong?.

Context - My dad was like a pilar of everything a man should be to me, however, the man had his flaws lol He'd never say "I'm sorry" he'd rather give you his teeth. No matter if it was clear as day that he was wrong, as I went through life I noticed men rarely say sorry in my circles, is this by design?

In terms of research I watched some feminist make a speech that women say sorry too much, and gave examples of what men said instead of saying sorry, I was mind blown... also dating advice to accept gestures as apologies from men because they just aren't gonna say it lol Hmm this is interesting, wanna discuss?

I'm sorry, did you just insinuate that I was ever wrong? Ha! ha!

I have no problem saying I'm sorry. I also have no problem hearing what I did wrong so I can correct myself. It's funny how many people only want to hear praise and then continually make the same mistake or doing the wrong thing over and over again.

It would bug the **** out of me when someone evaluating my work or performance just said I'm doing fine and just keep doing what I'm doing. I would say that doesn't mean ****. What am I doing correctly and what am I not doing correctly. If they couldn't come up with answers then I said I must be doing outstanding.

 

[user 139760]

You know what... I see your point here, what do you think of the idea from the dating coaches to just accept "gestures" as apologies from men, as well.. they just won't say sorry? A load of crap, or some ring to it?

Load of crap. Yet, at the end of the day, it depends on what you want from a man and what you're willing to accept. Some men will never apologise, but if that's okay with you, thats fine. But it shouldnt be used as an excuse to not change that behavior on the mans part itself.
Lol dating coaches....another useless profession. Roosh V used to pass himself as one.

 

[CenotaphGirl]

That's absurd, and yet totally believable. We can be absolute dicks sometimes.

Honestly this story was ridiculous, I didn't open this whole section for the children because I couldn't get something to work, he is the IT guy, he tells me he'll be right back, im waiting and waiting turning the poor children away for ages, and his manager comes and starts quizzing me, so I say im waiting for the guy he said he's coming back... but never did, maybe he's looking for a new wire? His manager knew he was doing nothing of the sort, called him, they kinda got into it in front of me (which is wrong in my opinion) he started calling me stupid... and this and that sort of trying to get me to say something, I said nothing... im submissive like that lol he hunched towards me anyway and I started crying... he knew... he was in deep **** when I started crying lol.

 

[CenotaphGirl]

I'm sorry, did you just insinuate that I was ever wrong? Ha! ha!

I have no problem saying I'm sorry. I also have no problem hearing what I did wrong so I can correct myself. It's funny how many people only want to hear praise and then continually make the same mistake or doing the wrong thing over and over again.

It would bug the **** out of me when someone evaluating my work or performance just said I'm doing fine and just keep doing what I'm doing. I would say that doesn't mean ****. What am I doing correctly and what am I not doing correctly. If they couldn't come up with answers then I said I must be doing outstanding.

You're never wrong darling. You know it's true, I like to hear the full truth about me, I dont jump to conclusions and get offended I just wanna know straight, if im wrong then just let me be wrong lol.

Load of crap. Yet, at the end of the day, it depends on what you want from a man and what you're willing to accept. Some men will never apologise, but if that's okay with you, thats fine. But it shouldnt be used as an excuse to not change that behavior on the mans part itself.
Lol dating coaches....another useless profession. Roosh V used to pass himself as one.

I'm an excellent dating coach... just do what he says... and laugh at his awful jokes.. Cant go wrong lmao.

 

[Colster]

Honestly this story was ridiculous, I didn't open this whole section for the children because I couldn't get something to work, he is the IT guy, he tells me he'll be right back, im waiting and waiting turning the poor children away for ages, and his manager comes and starts quizzing me, so I say im waiting for the guy he said he's coming back... but never did, maybe he's looking for a new wire? His manager knew he was doing nothing of the sort, called him, they kinda got into it in front of me (which is wrong in my opinion) he started calling me stupid... and this and that sort of trying to get me to say something, I said nothing... im submissive like that lol he hunched towards me anyway and I started crying... he knew... he was in deep **** when I started crying lol.

A gentleman of such pedigree would probably find the janitorial version of Mr Stick, and would be on the receiving end thereof.

 

[CenotaphGirl]

A gentleman of such pedigree would probably find the janitorial version of Mr Stick, and would be on the receiving end thereof.

Hmm I have a question, would you accept money or stick to your guns about an apology?

 

[Colster]

Hmm I have a question, would you accept money or stick to your guns about an apology?

When I was young and stubborn, I would have been he'll bent upon an apology. But in later life, and a few lessons learned. One of the hardest ways you can hurt someone is financially. Viz: the current Prince Andrew saga. Thus, take the money, enjoy a both wine and a takeaway, and bask in righteous indignation.

 

[Colster]

Oh, maybe give a week or two, and then staple the *******'s hand to a table. Honestly, I'm so clumsy in my old age.

 

[CenotaphGirl]

Oh, maybe give a week or two, and then staple the *******'s hand to a table. Honestly, I'm so clumsy in my old age.

Lol sure you didn't used to work for the mafia Colster? I was gonna ask, what's your opinion on accepting gestures from men instead of apologies whilst in a relationship, groundless or... good advice?

 

[Colster]

Lol sure you didn't used to work for the mafia Colster? I was gonna ask, what's your opinion on accepting gestures from men instead of apologies whilst in a relationship, groundless or... good advice?

If someone has caused some form of upset or obstruction, any means of apology or compensation are valid. It is irrelevant whether you are in a relationship or not. Likewise, it can be in your advantage either way you play it. Possibly, assuming it's a gentleman, he might be more generous if he thinks you are single and forgiving. Although, the same could be said of he thought your dashing chap was a very short tempered boxer. It is all dependent upon the individual situation. But, I am certain you and your fella could laugh about it, wine in hand.

As for the mafia, they won't have me. I'm over qualified.

 

[CenotaphGirl]

If someone has caused some form of upset or obstruction, any means of apology or compensation are valid. It is irrelevant whether you are in a relationship or not. Likewise, it can be in your advantage either way you play it. Possibly, assuming it's a gentleman, he might be more generous if he thinks you are single and forgiving. Although, the same could be said of he thought your dashing chap was a very short tempered boxer. It is all dependent upon the individual situation. But, I am certain you and your fella could laugh about it, wine in hand.

As for the mafia, they won't have me. I'm over qualified.

I only accept "sorry"... I want nothing more, I just think it's important to be able to say "I was wrong, I shouldn't have done that". If you cant say it, I think... you dont agree, like you think you was right, and that just makes me go insane lool I know its not true for everyone though.

 

[Colster]

I only accept "sorry"... I want nothing more, I just think it's important to be able to say "I was wrong, I shouldn't have done that". If you cant say it, I think... you dont agree, like you think you was right, and that just makes me go insane lool I know its not true for everyone though.

This is what happens when schools hand out gold medals just for participation.

I'll suggest you develop a natural flair for being clumsy with a stapler, boiling hot sugared coffee, and so on. Offices are dangerous workspaces.