Questions for the Men

[Colster]

Locally, it's £18 per hour, which is roughly twice the minimum wage.

 

[Finished]

Okay Okay I wonder what men have to say to this one... Just your personal perspectives, no need to try and answer for the whole species lol.

My research has led me to a bit of a grey area, since a young age, I have always stereotyped men to be attracted to "idiots" I can hear the girls pretending to be dumb in class to impress the guys as I type this. This leads me to my next question fellas! How do you feel about women with degrees? I have been looking deeper into this area of the dating world. Are women in education adding value in your opinion? Or truthfully do you have a preference for air heads?

How about other species? I think you are being species and don't even realize it! You are sooooooo human! But, I forgive you.

 

[Colster]

I can tell you are a caring and very proud father. I really admire that.

I hope when I have my children I can offer them everything I have and more. Most important thing I hope to offer them though...is a mothers love as I lacked that as a child, and even now to be fair. That's why being present in my fellas daughters life has always taken a priority despite what everyone else said to me about it.

Awh thats sweet, it's so nice you are way more approving than my father ever was, I have a whole list of, do not even look at ... let alone bring home

I'll say this much about parenting. There are no rules. Each generation has to learn new ways of raising children. You do your best, and hope for the best. But undoubtedly the thing that children crave is love and affection. They also do well with routine and firm boundaries. Beyond that, it is a veritable blank canvas for you to fill.

 

[CenotaphGirl]

How about other species? I think you are being species and don't even realize it! You are sooooooo human! But, I forgive you.

Play nice with me Finished, i'm sad today...

 

[CenotaphGirl]

Well, actually Colster implied it, in the bin man comment, I was actually implying foreign bin men werent a bad choice. That being said, feel free to encourage your kids to come back with the localtown drunk if you wish.
I personally don't care who or what my daughters date, except one rule; if I see bruises or marks appear, either on them or their partners, if they don't end it, I WILL. The rest is their business.

Can I ask... If your daughter came back with someone... you thought... maybe wasn't worthy of her, would you tell her or would you want her to work it out on her own?

 

[Finished]

As for me, I spent my entire life being thrifty. I actually take pride in finding the best deals on stuff and saving lots of money by doing everything myself. Because of that I saved nearly everything I made working besides other investments. So, I should be set for life.

However, I absolutely could not hang with a women that had a spendy lifestyle. I was invited several times to got to dinner with a lady friend and her family. They were very wealthy. But, I just couldn't go knowing that dinner was going to be $200 / person. I told her that and she said don't worry about it, so and so is going to pay for everybody. But, I just couldn't do it knowing that someone would be paying $200 for me to eat some food. It just goes against my very being.

So, I understand where Ceno is coming from. It just happens to be the polar opposite of how I am. It doesn't make either of us bad. It's just how we are.

 

[user 139760]

Can I ask... If your daughter came back with someone... you thought... maybe wasn't worthy of her, would you tell her or would you want her to work it out on her own?

Listen kiddo, here's my view of it; it is NONE of my business. If she would ask me, I'd be honest. But if she doesnt, my opinions would likely be unwelcomed.
I view my job as a father to make them normal human beings, ready and able to become decent adults when they hit 18. After that, I find out if I did a good job or not. Like Colster said, there really arent any rules, you cross your fingers and hope they make it. But it's not my place to judge my daughters choice, nor does it mean my views would be in any way close to correct. He could very well be the local drunk. However, despite that, who's to say that wouldnt also make him the best human being alive?
I don't think its our place to mess withh their lives. If they want help, they can ask. As hard as it is sometimes to watch them maybe make a big mistake...it's their mistake to make. Not ours.
Hope that answers your question

 

[CenotaphGirl]

As for me, I spent my entire life being thrifty. I actually take pride in finding the best deals on stuff and saving lots of money by doing everything myself. Because of that I saved nearly everything I made working besides other investments. So, I should be set for life.

However, I absolutely could not hang with a women that had a spendy lifestyle. I was invited several times to got to dinner with a lady friend and her family. They were very wealthy. But, I just couldn't go knowing that dinner was going to be $200 / person. I told her that and she said don't worry about it, so and so is going to pay for everybody. But, I just couldn't do it knowing that someone would be paying $200 for me to eat some food. It just goes against my very being.

So, I understand where Ceno is coming from. It just happens to be the polar opposite of how I am. It doesn't make either of us bad. It's just how we are.

I swear!!!! I know people like this. Also my sisters fella's are ALWAYS like that, they never let her spend anything, even though it's her money, they get upset, im not sure why though, it's like they find it wasteful, you know?

Is that how you find it? Wasteful and... maybe.. hmm?

Listen kiddo, here's my view of it; it is NONE of my business. If she would ask me, I'd be honest. But if she doesnt, my opinions would likely be unwelcomed.
I view my job as a father to make them normal human beings, ready and able to become decent adults when they hit 18. After that, I find out if I did a good job or not. Like Colster said, there really arent any rules, you cross your fingers and hope they make it. But it's not my place to judge my daughters choice, nor does it mean my views would be in any way close to correct. He could very well be the local drunk. However, despite that, who's to say that wouldnt also make him the best human being alive?
I don't think its our place to mess withh their lives. If they want help, they can ask. As hard as it is sometimes to watch them maybe make a big mistake...it's their mistake to make. Not ours.
Hope that answers your question

You know... I wish I grew up like that, making mistakes was forbidden, I take making mistakes so hard sometimes because of that. My parents, both, but especially my dad had a strict view on who I should be with, terribly strict. Sometimes, I wanted to be with the forbidden fruit lool made them more appealing I guess. But I'd never cross them though, even though my dads passed I'd never hurt him, dead or alive. My sister... she's a wild fire lol sometimes I want her freedom, but she lost everything for a man, I dont think I could do that.

 

[ewomack]

Okay Okay I wonder what men have to say to this one... Just your personal perspectives, no need to try and answer for the whole species lol.

My research has led me to a bit of a grey area, since a young age, I have always stereotyped men to be attracted to "idiots" I can hear the girls pretending to be dumb in class to impress the guys as I type this. This leads me to my next question fellas! How do you feel about women with degrees? I have been looking deeper into this area of the dating world. Are women in education adding value in your opinion? Or truthfully do you have a preference for air heads?

Here is an area where I do have a real preference: The smarter the better. A woman sitting in a corner reading (glasses a plus) will attract me more than any "dressed to kill" woman anywhere. In fact, I usually find the "dressed to kill" type a turnoff (again, learned the hard way). Women should be getting degrees, holding higher positions in politics and companies and ultimately helping to rule the world. Women have a lot of value to add, and they are. The "airhead" act (and it's pretty easy to tell when it's an act) doesn't appeal to me whatsoever and it never did. For me, brains are a part of the calculation. If she has a degree, another plus, but it's not a requirement. Degrees and intelligence don't always go together.

 

[M_also_lonely]

Okay okay a less controversial question is....

Do you think the amount of previous partners your prospective partner has had, matters?

Yes. The lesser, the better.

 

[M_also_lonely]

Okay Okay I wonder what men have to say to this one... Just your personal perspectives, no need to try and answer for the whole species lol.

My research has led me to a bit of a grey area, since a young age, I have always stereotyped men to be attracted to "idiots" I can hear the girls pretending to be dumb in class to impress the guys as I type this. This leads me to my next question fellas! How do you feel about women with degrees? I have been looking deeper into this area of the dating world. Are women in education adding value in your opinion? Or truthfully do you have a preference for air heads?

Intelligence has always been one of the most attractive traits for me. But I don't judge that by the degree she has or how successful she is in her career. Intelligence is much more than intellect.
The most attractive is the one who is intelligent, yet humble and simple.

 

[Colster]

Can I ask... If your daughter came back with someone... you thought... maybe wasn't worthy of her, would you tell her or would you want her to work it out on her own?

I'd say my piece, stand back, await the eventual fall out, and then take Mr Stick for some exercise.

 

[CenotaphGirl]

Here is an area where I do have a real preference: The smarter the better. A woman sitting in a corner reading (glasses a plus) will attract me more than any "dressed to kill" woman anywhere. In fact, I usually find the "dressed to kill" type a turnoff (again, learned the hard way). Women should be getting degrees, holding higher positions in politics and companies and ultimately helping to rule the world. Women have a lot of value to add, and they are. The "airhead" act (and it's pretty easy to tell when it's an act) doesn't appeal to me whatsoever and it never did. For me, brains are a part of the calculation. If she has a degree, another plus, but it's not a requirement. Degrees and intelligence don't always go together.

Lool honestly I couldn't stand the "air head" act, like oh no hot guy is around better start speaking like I have never read a book before lol.'

Yes. The lesser, the better.

I wanna ask... would you be jealous if she slept with a lot of guys? Or... idk?

Intelligence has always been one of the most attractive traits for me. But I don't judge that by the degree she has or how successful she is in her career. Intelligence is much more than intellect.
The most attractive is the one who is intelligent, yet humble and simple.

If she was dumb... could you work through it, be her teacher... or would it just be too much?

 

[CenotaphGirl]

I'd say my piece, stand back, await the eventual fall out, and then take Mr Stick for some exercise.

My dad used to say... "his hammer"

 

[Colster]

My dad used to say... "his hammer"

Nah, you'd be surprised where I might just happen to be walking the dog, with her trusty old hockey stick, used for launching tennis balls.... honestly officer!

 

[Colster]

Nah, you'd be surprised where I might just happen to be walking the dog, with her trusty old hockey stick, used for launching tennis balls.... honestly officer!

If you've seen Uncle Buck, you get the picture.

 

[CenotaphGirl]

If you've seen Uncle Buck, you get the picture.

You just aren't fat enough to be him Colster lol

 

[Finished]

I swear!!!! I know people like this. Also my sisters fella's are ALWAYS like that, they never let her spend anything, even though it's her money, they get upset, im not sure why though, it's like they find it wasteful, you know?

Is that how you find it? Wasteful and... maybe.. hmm?

Absolutely. It's like I just went through a lot to save $220 on something. So, that $220 means a lot to me. I can't just waste all that time and effort on something silly. I have an obligation to be respectful to every one of those dollars. Ha! ha!

Watching some celebrity blow thousands on bottles of champaign because money means nothing to them almost makes me sick. I'm like, give me the thousands, OMG! I could feed a ton of people with that money.

 

[user 139760]

If you've seen Uncle Buck, you get the picture.

Uncle Buck is awesome. I miss him

 

[Colster]

On the subject of spending. I'm not opposed to spending, even spending a lot. But somewhere there has to value. My daughter got puppies and ponies for rewards. She could have any amount of school items. But if she wanted £200 shoes, she would be expected to work for those.
Myself, I live frugally, but I don't need much. Likewise, a it affords treats when I so desire.
I couldn't date someone who was wasteful with their money. I too see things in terms of how many days I could live off the amount spent.
And here's were I contradict myself. Money is ment to be used. Just use it well.