Questions for the Men

[CenotaphGirl]

It wouldn't put me off. I would just say, well if I'm going to do all the driving then you are going to pay the price later tonight. Ha! ha! And, yes everything leads back to sex and intimacy for me. Keep me fed and sexed up and I'll do everything else even if I think it's stupid.

I appreciate the simplicity

 

[Finished]

I appreciate the simplicity

Actually as far as relationships go, I believe my job is to keep the other person happy. Their job is to keep me happy. Yep, I'm simple and easy to understand. No games. No hidden agendas. I will tell you what I like and ask you what you like.

 

[NoxApex(N/A)]

Okay, I'll throw down a question. I've been in and out of the dating pool since losing my husband in '07. Seems that I've always found guys that enjoy going to the gym or working out with me.
Question is: Is this because I enjoy working out and I seek like minded or do men genuinely enjoy having a female workout partner?
Disclaimer: my ex thought it was "weird" to go to the gym together. Turned out we didn't have a whole lot in common... LOLOL

I never cared about fitness until I got into my late 20s, early 30s.
Vanity and superficiality just doesn't suit my character.
I like depth and substance, to the point that it even makes people who like depth and substance uncomfortable at times. It became a thing to me as I got older, purely out of maintenance and physical decay.

Having my partner go to the gym and workout with me would actually feel kind of supportive, to be honest.

In my youth I always worked physical jobs, so it didn't really become a thing for me until after my health peaked when I turned 26. Eight years later and I'm off/on diets and workouts in between still doing physical jobs.

Kind of actually pursuing higher management specifically to get out of doing physical labor, so that I can have a workout routine that isn't at the scrutiny of my career demands.

 

[ewomack]

Okay, I'll throw down a question. I've been in and out of the dating pool since losing my husband in '07. Seems that I've always found guys that enjoy going to the gym or working out with me.
Question is: Is this because I enjoy working out and I seek like minded or do men genuinely enjoy having a female workout partner?
Disclaimer: my ex thought it was "weird" to go to the gym together. Turned out we didn't have a whole lot in common... LOLOL

I would prefer to workout with my partner. My wife and I used to work out together often (we really need to get back into it). Plus, it helps the motivation. If you're going together it's harder to make excuses not to go. And if you can't get hot and sweaty with your partner, then, well... really...

 

[Colster]

You all drive me crazy! ✌❤

 

[user 139760]

Ooh just noticed, im no bloke buttttt..... I will say, my fella hates working out with me, he gets so annoyed lol Usually he's in the weight section and im doing cardio so we dont have to see each other. Once he tried to keep up with me in cardio and then do weights on top ... and he couldn't drive home

...wuss.
I have't really trained in years, but my routine used to be about three hours, give or take, per day. One hour cardio and about two hours of weight, 5-7 days a week.
Although I used to be a madman, so there's that. Plus I'm a smoker, I'd light up exiting the gym lol

 

[CenotaphGirl]

Okay Okay I wonder what men have to say to this one... Just your personal perspectives, no need to try and answer for the whole species lol.

My research has led me to a bit of a grey area, since a young age, I have always stereotyped men to be attracted to "idiots" I can hear the girls pretending to be dumb in class to impress the guys as I type this. This leads me to my next question fellas! How do you feel about women with degrees? I have been looking deeper into this area of the dating world. Are women in education adding value in your opinion? Or truthfully do you have a preference for air heads?

 

[ardour]

Okay Okay I wonder what men have to say to this one... Just your personal perspectives, no need to try and answer for the whole species lol.

My research has led me to a bit of a grey area, since a young age, I have always stereotyped men to be attracted to "idiots" I can hear the girls pretending to be dumb in class to impress the guys as I type this. This leads me to my next question fellas! How do you feel about women with degrees? I have been looking deeper into this area of the dating world. Are women in education adding value in your opinion? Or truthfully do you have a preference for air heads?

Anyone can get a degree, repeating course material doesn't make someone intelligent.

I'd say some men are intimidated by intelligence because if a woman perceives a man as beneath her status-wise then it's usually a bad indicator. Some men have very fragile self images predicated on being in control and above women. I'd be curious as to why someone intelligent and successful would want anything to do with me, but being borderline incellish, the attention is still welcome.

 

[Adamridge79]

****, I'll quote a song from..old times ...If you wanna be happy for the rest of your life never make a pretty woman your wife, so from my particular point of view, find an ugly girl to marry you.

 

[user 135671]

Totally agree with @ardour degrees are meaningless nowadays any ' idiot ' can get one. Air heads usually bore me to death within half an hour, there's nothing hotter than a smart woman and if she has mastered the F chord on guitar that's a bonus.

 

[TheSkaFish]

Okay Okay I wonder what men have to say to this one... Just your personal perspectives, no need to try and answer for the whole species lol.

My research has led me to a bit of a grey area, since a young age, I have always stereotyped men to be attracted to "idiots" I can hear the girls pretending to be dumb in class to impress the guys as I type this. This leads me to my next question fellas! How do you feel about women with degrees? I have been looking deeper into this area of the dating world. Are women in education adding value in your opinion? Or truthfully do you have a preference for air heads?

No air heads for me. Conversation and companionship are essential, at least as much as sex or maybe more, cause just talking and keeping each other company is what we're going to be doing most of the time.

The degree, I could take or leave since, as others have said, it doesn't necessarily make you smart, or interesting. For me it's all about the mind and personality/character. Are they someone I want to talk to, someone who makes me want to know their thoughts and dreams? Can we have a conversation? And are they sweet and endearing, is this someone I can see myself caring about and feeling affection for?

Though I will say, if someone wants to get a degree, I'm all for it. I'm not anti-education by any means.

 

[Adamridge79]

****...we pander now? > checks notes<

 

[CenotaphGirl]

Anyone can get a degree. Repeating course material doesn't make someone intelligent.

I'd say some men are intimidated by intelligence because women generally marry up. If a woman perceives a man as beneath her status-wise then it's a bad indicator. Some men have very fragile self images predicated on being in control and above women. I'd be curious as to why someone intelligent and successful would want anything to do with me, but being borderline incellish, the attention is still welcome.

This is so interesting, my research me led on to Indian cultures with some of the highest successful marriage rates (for various reasons) but even there, the women spoke of not progressing in their fields, to settle for lower positions and let the men progress as the men wouldn't want to marry them if their position was too high... not the other way around. So I think the idea that women generally marry up and men sometimes feel maybe... threatened? or distrusting? of a woman from an educated background who wants level down to be with them is a fair argument. Also, I went into "urban American" cultures, and there men confessed they wouldn't get with a woman they thought was too "above them" as they thought it would be "unfair" on her, instead they would stay with a woman in a similar situation until they acquired enough wealth or education to match the women they really want to be with.

 

[Adamridge79]

Buy stock in bras, they'll be burned like the 60's

 

[CenotaphGirl]

Totally agree with @ardour degrees are meaningless nowadays any ' idiot ' can get one. Air heads usually bore me to death within half an hour, there's nothing hotter than a smart woman and if she has mastered the F chord on guitar that's a bonus.

Not the F chord! You are just... asking for too much buddy!

 

[CenotaphGirl]

No air heads for me. Conversation and companionship are essential, at least as much as sex or maybe more, cause just talking and keeping each other company is what we're going to be doing most of the time.

The degree, I could take or leave since, as others have said, it doesn't necessarily make you smart, or interesting. For me it's all about the mind and personality/character. Are they someone I want to talk to, someone who makes me want to know their thoughts and dreams? Can we have a conversation? And are they sweet and endearing, is this someone I can see myself caring about and feeling affection for?

Though I will say, if someone wants to get a degree, I'm all for it. I'm not anti-education by any means.

Oh my favourite Mr Skafish

Ugh killing me with romance yet again, the first guy I have ever heard say he likes conversation though, you should deffo get that tattoo'd somewhere lol.

It's like, what if a girl was stupid, cant really spell (uh huh) And blah blah do you think you could still love a girl like that?

Honestly I used the degree as a point, I think degrees are necessary for Doctors, Lawyers and blah blah im not talking about a degree in Beyonce lool.

 

[TheSkaFish]

Oh my favourite Mr Skafish

Ugh killing me with romance yet again, the first guy I have ever heard say he likes conversation though, you should deffo get that tattoo'd somewhere lol.

It's like, what if a girl was stupid, cant really spell (uh huh) And blah blah do you think you could still love a girl like that?

Honestly I used the degree as a point, I think degrees are necessary for Doctors, Lawyers and blah blah im not talking about a degree in Beyonce lool.

Thanks, lol. Yeah, degrees are definitely necessary for the hard-skill fields where you eventually need to get certified in some way. All of which is fine by me. I am pretty chill about who is higher-educated or higher-status whatever, in the relationship.

Spelling isn't everything either. I've met people that don't always spell their words right, but still have interesting and insightful thoughts.

Could I still love a girl who wasn't so intellectual....hmm, it might be harder, she'd have to have something else that makes me feel for her. And I don't mean just looks either. I suppose it's possible though.

And if they're giving out degrees in Beyonce these days, maybe I can get a degree in Smashing Pumpkins, Rancid, or Tame Impala.

 

[CenotaphGirl]

Thanks, lol. Yeah, degrees are definitely necessary for the hard-skill fields where you eventually need to get certified in some way. All of which is fine by me.

Spelling isn't everything either. I've met people that don't always spell their words right, but still have interesting and insightful thoughts.

Could I still love a girl who wasn't so intellectual....hmm, it might be harder, she'd have to have something else that makes me feel for her. And I don't mean just looks either. I suppose it's possible though.

And if they're giving out degrees in Beyonce these days, maybe I can get a degree in Smashing Pumpkins, Rancid, or Tame Impala.

Honestly, I think thats sweet, I think if my intelligence academically was a huge factor for most men I'd be single for life lool

I know some people like my aunt, she's not academic however, she's super supportive, she makes everything freshly for her husband, he never even eats store brought bread lol He always says her positive nature means more to him than if she understands long words or not

Lool I wish I was joking, they are giving degrees in Beyonce and David Beckham lol! I would pass that degree with flying colours!!

 

[ardour]

Oh my favourite Mr Skafish

Ugh killing me with romance yet again, the first guy I have ever heard say he likes conversation though, you should deffo get that tattoo'd somewhere lol.

It's like, what if a girl was stupid, cant really spell (uh huh) And blah blah do you think you could still love a girl like that?

Honestly I used the degree as a point, I think degrees are necessary for Doctors, Lawyers and blah blah im not talking about a degree in Beyonce lool.

We could turn this around and ask whether it matters to you and whether a blue collar tradesman would be good enough.

Not to get all trite with the evo psych, but they'll be a different answer because our 'strategy' for finding a partner is different. Higher education (used) to indicate social status and a professional occupation, and social status is important for men, at least as much as earning potential.

 

[CenotaphGirl]

We could turn this around and ask whether it matters to you and whether a blue collar tradesman would be good enough.

Not to get all trite with the evo psych, but they'll be a different answer because our 'strategy' for finding a partner is different. Higher education (used) to indicate social status and a professional occupation, and social status is important for men, at least as much as earning potential.

Hmm do you believe... in complimentary dating? Like, your short comings could be her strengths and vice versa?