Questions for the Men

[CenotaphGirl]

Okay, I'll throw down a question. I've been in and out of the dating pool since losing my husband in '07. Seems that I've always found guys that enjoy going to the gym or working out with me.
Question is: Is this because I enjoy working out and I seek like minded or do men genuinely enjoy having a female workout partner?
Disclaimer: my ex thought it was "weird" to go to the gym together. Turned out we didn't have a whole lot in common... LOLOL

Ooh just noticed, im no bloke buttttt..... I will say, my fella hates working out with me, he gets so annoyed lol Usually he's in the weight section and im doing cardio so we dont have to see each other. Once he tried to keep up with me in cardio and then do weights on top ... and he couldn't drive home

 

[sparkyn98]

Well, for me, if I'm REALLY working out hard with free weights I do not want women around. But, it's been a while since I did hard lifting. My joints and prior injuries do not like that any more.

So... I totally lift predominately. And trust me, I had a fall during a run a few years back. The docs took xrays and were like, "You have severe arthritis in left knee and shoulder, take it easy." So, I listen to my body and don't EVER over do it.
That said, I've always been short and thick, sooooo I squat. hahaha
I am right there at the Marine Corps gym with kids half my age making ugly sweaty noises and faces as I work on my last set on the leg press. I DO NOT look cute at the gym. I always follow with some cardio, too.
To me, I love the idea that muscles burn more fat. That way, on days I feel totally lazy, I can tell my thighs to burn the calories while I binge Hulu... LOL

 

[CenotaphGirl]

So... I totally lift predominately. And trust me, I had a fall during a run a few years back. The docs took xrays and were like, "You have severe arthritis in left knee and shoulder, take it easy." So, I listen to my body and don't EVER over do it.
That said, I've always been short and thick, sooooo I squat. hahaha
I am right there at the Marine Corps gym with kids half my age making ugly sweaty noises and faces as I work on my last set on the leg press. I DO NOT look cute at the gym. I always follow with some cardio, too.
To me, I love the idea that muscles burn more fat. That way, on days I feel totally lazy, I can tell my thighs to burn the calories while I binge Hulu... LOL

My bestie got addicted to lifting, her shoulder was messed up and she was all signed up to get breast implants but the doctors said she'd have to stop lifting for months so she had to cancel it. I think I look like a wreck at the gym lool but... sweat can be a nice foundation lol

 

[sparkyn98]

My bestie got addicted to lifting, her shoulder was messed up and she was all signed up to get breast implants but the doctors said she'd have to stop lifting for months so she had to cancel it. I think I look like a wreck at the gym lool but... sweat can be a nice foundation lol

Yeah, that's what I was saying in another thread, I see some younger folks lifting SO very heavy and tbh, imho, if you're not trying to compete professionally, I don't see the point of wrecking your joints. You can look good and be in shape without deadlifting 400+... ugh
Same thing goes for running, though. I love the weight it takes off, but it is SO rough on your joints. Even your skin. I run because it keeps the weight down like walking NEVER did for me. However, I have long distance runner friends my age that look 10 years older. It REALLY does a number on your skin...
I just never had that runner's high and I used to do a 5 mile out and back every day. LOL

 

[Finished]

Yeah, that's what I was saying in another thread, I see some younger folks lifting SO very heavy and tbh, imho, if you're not trying to compete professionally, I don't see the point of wrecking your joints. You can look good and be in shape without deadlifting 400+... ugh
Same thing goes for running, though. I love the weight it takes off, but it is SO rough on your joints. Even your skin. I run because it keeps the weight down like walking NEVER did for me. However, I have long distance runner friends my age that look 10 years older. It REALLY does a number on your skin...
I just never had that runner's high and I used to do a 5 mile out and back every day. LOL

You just didn't push yourself hard enough. Ha! Ha! Whimp! Just kidding!

When I was younger that was my drug of choice. When I felt like I couldn't go any further I pushed myself more. Then body parts went numb, my mind became clear, my breathing become a strong steady pace, and I could just keep going. But, I mostly exercised on bikes, hiked, or climbed. Sometimes I would combine everything when possible.

My ankles started off bad. But, kicking my toes and feet into crevices when climbing gave me lots of arthritis. Ever step I take now hurts. My toes twisted and now I have ingrown nails that I continually have to dig out and cut way back. So, running, although I still do some and did quite a bit of it when I was younger, is not a good thing. I need to always keep my ankle braces handy too.

 

[sparkyn98]

You just didn't push yourself hard enough. Ha! Ha! Whimp! Just kidding!

Literally what EVERY runner friend I have says. Like, you didn't go far enough. hahahaha

AND every time I would get in a pace and think, Sweet... I would start trying to see how I was breathing which would lead to me being AWARE of my breath, which would lead me to panting and then I would be all off cadence....
^^how an over-thinker runs^^ LOLOL

 

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Literally what EVERY runner friend I have says. Like, you didn't go far enough. hahahaha

AND every time I would get in a pace and think, Sweet... I would start trying to see how I was breathing which would lead to me being AWARE of my breath, which would lead me to panting and then I would be all off cadence....
^^how an over-thinker runs^^ LOLOL

How did / do you stay so motivated? The high is what keeps most people going. I know I woudn't have done all that I did if I didn't get the buzz. I'm still able to get the high sometimes. But, my muscles tire out before my lungs and heart do. My lungs and heart are very strong and have always been, knock on wood.

 

[sparkyn98]

How did / do you stay so motivated? The high is what keeps most people going. I know I woudn't have done all that I did if I didn't get the buzz. I'm still able to get the high sometimes. But, my muscles tire out before my lungs and heart do. My lungs and heart are very strong and have always been, knock on wood.

I do enjoy a post-workout high. I enjoy how well I sleep at night when I work out. So, it's not a question of what keeps me motivated to work out versus what I lost when I do.
Pile that on top of turning 50, I needed to do something again. This go around, I don't run more than a mile or so most days and try to do interval sprints and walking.
I was about 60 pounds over weight last January. I have lost just over 30, but have been working on these last 30. Started dating an Italian guy who loves to work out but can cook like a god, so, we're finding the balance. LOL

 

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I do enjoy a post-workout high. I enjoy how well I sleep at night when I work out. So, it's not a question of what keeps me motivated to work out versus what I lost when I do.
Pile that on top of turning 50, I needed to do something again. This go around, I don't run more than a mile or so most days and try to do interval sprints and walking.
I was about 60 pounds over weight last January. I have lost just over 30, but have been working on these last 30. Started dating an Italian guy who loves to work out but can cook like a god, so, we're finding the balance. LOL

Oh, interesting. I usually feel sick after the work out when the buzz wears off. My muscles are in pain and want to cramp. I just want to die. Sometimes I loose the entire next day in order to recouperate. But, yeah, the night sleep is definitely good.

50 sucks. But, I hear after a certain age, usually 65 or so, a lot of one's pain goes away or is deminished because one's nerves aren't so sensative any more.

Ha! ha! Loosing weight with a SO that cooks well. Good luck with that! Ha! ha! I love Italian food.

 

[sparkyn98]

Oh, interesting. I usually feel sick after the work out when the buzz wears off. My muscles are in pain and want to cramp. I just want to die. Sometimes I loose the entire next day in order to recouperate. But, yeah, the night sleep is definitely good.

Okay, so this was me a couple of years ago. I have a friend who is an acupuncturist and she started helping me chose better supplements. I have hypothyroid and hashimotos (autoimmune which is thyroid related) and she started me on this adrenal support regime. After a year I finally quit needing 2 days to recover and sore like I'd been hit by a bus rather than just lifting...
Although, I am not discounting that you may have just wrecked your joints early. LOL

 

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Okay, so this was me a couple of years ago. I have a friend who is an acupuncturist and she started helping me chose better supplements. I have hypothyroid and hashimotos (autoimmune which is thyroid related) and she started me on this adrenal support regime. After a year I finally quit needing 2 days to recover and sore like I'd been hit by a bus rather than just lifting...
Although, I am not discounting that you may have just wrecked your joints early. LOL

Naaaa... Just sore muscles from repetitive over usage. No not that silly!

BTW, can your friend get me large quantities of some good ****? I won't say where I got it from. Ha! hA!

 

[CenotaphGirl]

Heres a question for the fellas! Driving, do you mind if your partner wants you to do all the driving?

Truthfully my fella taught me how to drive, we never argued which was shocking, im a good student lol To be honest he is the most confident driver I've ever met, he fills my car up for me, I have never been to a gas station and filled my own car up...ever... god help me the day I do go to one for the first time lol

So... im not the most confident driver even though I passed my test with flying colours first time, I just have no confidence behind the wheel. I have vision problems and anxiety issues so I think im better to be a passenger, my partner has always said he's happy to drive, but recently... he kinda hinted that he doesn't wanna do all the driving... I just get an uber when he starts complaining, but... that doesn't seem to be the issue, it's like he just wants me to drive sometimes, is that weird?

 

[NoxApex(N/A)]

Heres a question for the fellas! Driving, do you mind if your partner wants you to do all the driving?

Truthfully my fella taught me how to drive, we never argued which was shocking, im a good student lol To be honest he is the most confident driver I've ever met, he fills my car up for me, I have never been to a gas station and filled my own car up...ever... god help me the day I do go to one for the first time lol

So... im not the most confident driver even though I passed my test with flying colours first time, I just have no confidence behind the wheel. I have vision problems and anxiety issues so I think im better to be a passenger, my partner has always said he's happy to drive, but recently... he kinda hinted that he doesn't wanna do all the driving... I just get an uber when he starts complaining, but... that doesn't seem to be the issue, it's like he just wants me to drive sometimes, is that weird?

Hello no, I love travelling.
I've been through 35/50 U.S. states.
I lived the touring musician caravan life for a couple years, plus I used to work in wholesale distribution, so I'm so used to being in cars for long hours that it doesn't really effect me anymore. A 4 - 6 hour car ride isn't **** to me, 7 or 8 is pushing my limits though. But I've done 12 and 18 hours in a car before.
For a while I actually considered getting a minibus and converting it into a mobile home because it's cheaper than rent, mortgages + property taxes. Only problem is that admittedly I'm not *that* mechanically-inclined. Cars are honestly kind of a pain in the *** to do repairs on as well. I can do a little work on them, but not much. I won't touch transmission repair, simply because well **** that. Nor am I gonna get into piston replacements with the engine, etc. But you know, alternator. radiator, brakes, that kind of **** I can all do. Obviously nothing with the muffler or emission control, because you've gotta have a welding torch for that ****, but I understand it because I worked in that field for a little bit. Cars are actually just as much of a pain in the *** as a house, ironically, as they are as expensive as a house these days.

 

[CenotaphGirl]

Hello no, I love travelling.
I've been through 35/50 U.S. states.
I lived the touring musician caravan life for a couple years, plus I used to work in wholesale distribution, so I'm so used to being in cars for long hours that it doesn't really effect me anymore. A 4 - 6 hour car ride isn't **** to me, 7 or 8 is pushing my limits though. But I've done 12 and 18 hours in a car before.
For a while I actually considered getting a minibus and converting it into a mobile home because it's cheaper than rent, mortgages + property taxes. Only problem is that admittedly I'm not *that* mechanically-inclined. Cars are honestly kind of a pain in the *** to do repairs on as well. I can do a little work on them, but not much. I won't touch transmission repair, simply because well **** that. Nor am I gonna get into piston replacements with the engine, etc. But you know, alternator. radiator, brakes, that kind of **** I can all do. Obviously nothing with the muffler or emission control, because you've gotta have a welding torch for that ****, but I understand it because I worked in that field for a little bit. Cars are actually just as much of a pain in the *** as a house, ironically, as they are as expensive as a house these days.

Ugh you can sayyyyyy that again!!! I have no idea how cars even work lol sometimes I forget to turn the stupid engine on

 

[TheRealCallie]

Heres a question for the fellas! Driving, do you mind if your partner wants you to do all the driving?

Truthfully my fella taught me how to drive, we never argued which was shocking, im a good student lol To be honest he is the most confident driver I've ever met, he fills my car up for me, I have never been to a gas station and filled my own car up...ever... god help me the day I do go to one for the first time lol

So... im not the most confident driver even though I passed my test with flying colours first time, I just have no confidence behind the wheel. I have vision problems and anxiety issues so I think im better to be a passenger, my partner has always said he's happy to drive, but recently... he kinda hinted that he doesn't wanna do all the driving... I just get an uber when he starts complaining, but... that doesn't seem to be the issue, it's like he just wants me to drive sometimes, is that weird?

I feel like that would be what a lot of guys prefer.

But how about the opposite, guys? How would you feel if your woman wanted to drive all the time?

 

[CenotaphGirl]

I feel like that would be what a lot of guys prefer.

But how about the opposite, guys? How would you feel if your woman wanted to drive all the time?

Lmao, they wouldn't if it was me driving

 

[TropicalStarfish]

I feel like that would be what a lot of guys prefer.

But how about the opposite, guys? How would you feel if your woman wanted to drive all the time?

I'd welcome it, excluded certain circumstances...

 

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I feel like that would be what a lot of guys prefer.

But how about the opposite, guys? How would you feel if your woman wanted to drive all the time?

I don't care either way. Normally I just assume I'd be the one driving. But, sometimes the other person asks if they can drive. So, I say okay. Sometimes if I'm in the other person's vehicle I just assume they are going to drive. But, sometimes, I've had co-worker women that asked me to drive their car. The believed a man should drive. Again, I had no problem with that. It was kind of fun driving someone elses car. But, sometimes it's nice to just be the passenger. You can veg and just look at the scenery. However, I do NOT like driving in traffic. I had an arrangement with one woman I dated. I would do all the driving unless we hit traffic. Then she would take over. Or if she wanted to drive at any time she could. That worked out well for the both of us.

 

[CenotaphGirl]

I don't care either way. Normally I just assume I'd be the one driving. But, sometimes the other person asks if they can drive. So, I say okay. Sometimes if I'm in the other person's vehicle I just assume they are going to drive. But, sometimes, I've had co-worker women that asked me to drive their car. The believed a man should drive. Again, I had no problem with that. It was kind of fun driving someone elses car. But, sometimes it's nice to just be the passenger. You can veg and just look at the scenery. However, I do NOT like driving in traffic. I had an arrangement with one woman I dated. I would do all the driving unless we hit traffic. Then she would take over. Or if she wanted to drive at any time she could. That worked out well for the both of us.

You know... I think thats positive, but what if she said she will never drive no matter what, would that put you off?

 

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You know... I think thats positive, but what if she said she will never drive no matter what, would that put you off?

It wouldn't put me off. I would just say, well if I'm going to do all the driving then you are going to pay the price later tonight. Ha! ha! And, yes everything leads back to *** and intimacy for me. Keep me fed and sexed up and I'll do everything else even if I think it's stupid.