Questions for the Men

[ardour]

But its interesting, do you think it takes men long to feel butterflies?

If I can butt in, it takes about one tenth of a second to register women as attractive.

*** with a stranger is still uncomfortable and awkward, not something every man would automatically want.

 

[CenotaphGirl]

Guys do have butterflies. And I hate nightclub / tinder / hook up culture.

I am gasped I cannot believe men get butterflies!! Do you think of it as a nice or cringey sensation?

If I can butt in, it takes about one tenth of a second to register women as attractive.

*** with a stranger is still uncomfortable and awkward, not something every man would automatically want.

oh I take it you’re done with trying to find reasons not to like me today?

 

[ardour]

I am gasped I cannot believe men get butterflies!! Do you think of it as a nice or cringey sensation?

oh I take it you’re done with trying to find reasons not to like me today?

I don't dislike you, you're just from a different world and it seems like you do not socialize with many "average" people either. (It's what it is, not a judgement.).

 

[CenotaphGirl]

I don't dislike you, you're just from a different world and it seems like you do not socialize with many "average" people either. (It's what it is, not a judgement.).

Honestly Ardour, stop assuming things about me, if you wanna know me better just take me on a date.. your treat and I have expensive taste sweetheart.

Just incase it goes over ya head… im obviously joking but yes you deff have an issue with me but I have no idea why.

 

[NoxApex(N/A)]

Lool you’re lucky this is public I was about to say something wildly inappropriate

But its interesting, do you think it takes men long to feel butterflies?

Depends on the guy.
I catch feels and fall at the drop of a feather, but because of that, I practice non-attachment as a life management practice so that I don't end up with the wrong person and getting taken advantage of. It also helps me minimize damage and do damage control for when and if I do end up with the wrong person and get taken advantage of. It's a little bit like mental gymnastics.

 

[CenotaphGirl]

Depends on the guy.
I catch feels and fall at the drop of a feather, but because of that, I practice non-attachment as a life management practice so that I don't end up with the wrong person and getting taken advantage of. It also helps me minimize damage and do damage control for when and if I do end up with the wrong person and get taken advantage of. It's a little bit like mental gymnastics.

Have you always been that way? Do you form strong friendship bonds quickly too?

 

[NoxApex(N/A)]

Have you always been that way? Do you form strong friendship bonds quickly too?

Yes, I have, and yes I do.

 

[CenotaphGirl]

Yes, I have, and yes I do.

Dr Grave Girl thinks… this is gonna keep her up all night on youtube researching, my fella is a bit like this he thinks everyone is his best mate so now he avoids making any friends which i think is sad

 

[NoxApex(N/A)]

Dr Grave Girl thinks… this is gonna keep her up all night on youtube researching, my fella is a bit like this he thinks everyone is his best mate so now he avoids making any friends which i think is sad

It's less to do with men and more to do with the human experience.
If the circumstances were the same for a woman she'd react similarly.
General Misanthropy is a dislike and/or distrust of mankind as a whole as a result of being taken advantage of too many times. It's developmental psychology.

 

[TheSkaFish]

Question for today is… do men feel the butterflies to? I will look at men very differently if you do lolz Also because im a question addict have any of you men…wanted a connection first before wanting this to get physical … like the opposite of hook up culture?

I'm not the kind of person who can do hook-up culture - I don't have enough looks to get by on looks alone, and I don't have "game" - bantering and teasing and all that, I just don't do it, my mind doesn't think that way, I have no instinct or drive to do it. I don't have that kind of personality.

So a connection is the only way for me, not like that is easy either, because it's not easy to get people to want to connect with me, because I haven't decided who I am because I don't feel like I'm good at anything or that I can be, and I don't know what will get me into a better life, so I don't know what to be.

Another thing I like about a connection, and not hookup culture, is that with a connection, you're on your way somewhere. With hookup culture, you have to keep doing the same thing over and over again, and when it's done, you're right back where you started from. That doesn't appeal to me.

 

[CenotaphGirl]

It's less to do with men and more to do with the human experience.
If the circumstances were the same for a woman she'd react similarly.
General Misanthropy is a dislike and/or distrust of mankind as a whole as a result of being taken advantage of too many times. It's developmental psychology.

Interesting I dont know many women who act like this most women I know think everyone hates them men are typically more trusting in my opinion

 

[TheSkaFish]

I hate nightclub / tinder / hook up culture.

Same here. It's part of the MAGAverse, because it's all about cold, hard, uncaring competition and survival of the fittest, hierarchies, some people are better than others, it's all about what you were born with, life is predetermined by genetics, etc. And I don't like that stuff at all, never have never will.

 

[CenotaphGirl]

I'm not the kind of person who can do hook-up culture - I don't have enough looks to get by on looks alone, and I don't have "game" - bantering and teasing and all that, I just don't do it, my mind doesn't think that way, I have no instinct or drive to do it. I don't have that kind of personality.

So a connection is the only way for me, not like that is easy either, because it's not easy to get people to want to connect with me, because I haven't decided who I am because I don't feel like I'm good at anything or that I can be, and I don't know what will get me into a better life, so I don't know what to be.

Another thing I like about a connection, and not hookup culture, is that with a connection, you're on your way somewhere. With hookup culture, you have to keep doing the same thing over and over again, and when it's done, you're right back where you started from. That doesn't appeal to me.

Oh my ska I was lost without you on this mean forum

Right so do you think that hook up culture ruins long term relationships ? Like after being exposed to that lifestyle for a while it would reduce the value and promote the struggle of commitment ?

 

[TheSkaFish]

Oh my ska I was lost without you on this mean forum

Right so do you think that hook up culture ruins long term relationships ? Like after being exposed to that lifestyle for a while it would reduce the value and promote the struggle of commitment ?

I mean, I can see how it can.

But I really think it's more a question of what you want, what you're in the mind-space to want.

The only thing is, you would have to find a very open-minded, and very rare person, to be OK with you wanting both those things at the same time.

I've never been able to be in that lifestyle for one thing. But even if I was, I just don't like the idea of fooling around and not getting anywhere. I'd feel like I was spinning my wheels getting nowhere. The time you spend hooking up with someone, could have been spent getting to know someone you actually like as a person. And that's worth more to me.

 

[CenotaphGirl]

I mean, I can see how it can.

But I really think it's more a question of what you want, what you're in the mind-space to want.

The only thing is, you would have to find a very open-minded, and very rare person, to be OK with you wanting both those things at the same time.

I've never been able to be in that lifestyle for one thing. But even if I was, I just don't like the idea of fooling around and not getting anywhere. I'd feel like I was spinning my wheels getting nowhere. The time you spend hooking up with someone, could have been spent getting to know someone you actually like as a person. And that's worth more to me.

What about the wholeeee notion of friends with benefits? The idea of just not putting a label on things? Do you think that labels can derail a relationship from the pressure?

 

[TheSkaFish]

What about the wholeeee notion of friends with benefits? The idea of just not putting a label on things? Do you think that labels can derail a relationship from the pressure?

I think not labeling things can get rid of SOME pressure, especially to live up to being exactly what the other person wants. But at the same time, I think it can cause trouble because I feel like eventually one person will always want more, will always feel more of a connection. And when the other person finds their "real" relationship person, the "friend with benefits" might feel discarded and betrayed. So I think while it might seem like a short term answer, it has the potential for hurt down the line.

Idk just my off the cuff opinions. I have no real experience with these things. I'm just saying how I imagine it would be.

 

[NoxApex(N/A)]

Interesting I dont know many women who act like this most women I know think everyone hates them men are typically more trusting in my opinion

The solution to the situation from the masculine perspective is just to be more cognitive about decisions. If a man wants kids, then yeah, that makes sense for him to be all over hookup culture. But if a man doesn't want kids, then that doesn't really make much sense, does it?

Because if you don't want kids, but you're having *** with a lot of women, logic and math would dictate that would increase the probability of an unwanted pregnancy.

MOST men, don't think about it that much.
They're usually just like "bobs and vajene" and forget what life is.
But they'll snap out of it when they get hit with the child support papers.

 

[CenotaphGirl]

I think not labeling things can get rid of SOME pressure, especially to live up to being exactly what the other person wants. But at the same time, I think it can cause trouble because I feel like eventually one person will always want more, will always feel more of a connection. And when the other person finds their "real" relationship person, the "friend with benefits" might feel discarded and betrayed. So I think while it might seem like a short term answer, it has the potential for hurt down the line.

Idk just my off the cuff opinions. I have no real experience with these things. I'm just saying how I imagine it would be.

Awh thats so sad, I know a lot of people who have been left heart broken in that situation though. Do you think that its better than

The solution to the situation from the masculine perspective is just to be more cognitive about decisions. If a man wants kids, then yeah, that makes sense for him to be all over hookup culture. But if a man doesn't want kids, then that doesn't really make much sense, does it?

Because if you don't want kids, but you're having *** with a lot of women, logic and math would dictate that would increase the probability of an unwanted pregnancy.

MOST men, don't think about it that much.
They're usually just like "bobs and vajene" and forget what life is.
But they'll snap out of it when they get hit with the child support papers.

I’d die of shock if i hooked up with a guy and he wanted me pregnant but… i wouldnt blame him if i was a guy i’d want a baby with me too im mummy material Do you think a lot of guys wanna get multiple women pregnant but dont wanna actually be fathers? I was looking at a psychology piece on this

 

[NoxApex(N/A)]

I’d die of shock if i hooked up with a guy and he wanted me pregnant but… i wouldnt blame him if i was a guy i’d want a baby with me too im mummy material Do you think a lot of guys wanna get multiple women pregnant but dont wanna actually be fathers? I was looking at a psychology piece on this

It's instinct. But if you don't have any money as a man, it's well, kind of an instinct that'll just make your life harder than it already is, right?
It also depends a but on worldview, methinks.
Morality, or lack thereof, depending upon the person.
There is also the factor that *** is a physical act, and just like any physical labor, you only get better at it by practice and doing it more. That could also be a motivator for a guy who hooks up with a lot of women: He's trying to suck less in bed.
You can accomplish that though with a monogamous relationship just by ******* your woman though!

 

[MrLonely86]

Same here. It's part of the MAGAverse, because it's all about cold, hard, uncaring competition and survival of the fittest, hierarchies, some people are better than others, it's all about what you were born with, life is predetermined by genetics, etc. And I don't like that stuff at all, never have never will.

I like when people meet in old fashioned way. Or in ordinary places like school / college , or via friends.