Who gives the women those excuses? Their friends/sisters/mothers?
TBH, I have always thought it to be much worse if a female cheats than a male.
Yes, it's a product of the old fashioned values I grew up with.
But there is some logic to it.
Males simply scr*w around for fun/something different/not "getting enough" (or any) at home. We can easily do this without making any emotional connection. And the husbands still come home, pay the bills, take the kids to their sports games, etc...
Whereas females almost always do this with emotional connection.
Not to mention the whole pregnancy thing.
Here in the US there are many states that will NOT alleviate child support for a divorced husband even if a DNA test proves the wife had the child with another man while she was married. If he signed the birth certificate, he HAS to pay. So there are much more dire consequences to a female cheating.
Off topic but interesting:
Regarding the "not getting any at home" thing, many of my monger friends first went to escorts & massage girls because when their wives hit a certain age (around menopause) they decided they did not want to have *** anymore. Still wanted to be married, but no ***. And believe it or not these guys SNEAK AROUND! They make excuses like playing golf, business meeting, going to Home Depot. And they use burner cell phones so the wife does not find out. To me that is crazy. If a wife decides "no more ***", to me that's basically like giving the guy a direct order to fool around. But I guess they see it very differently.
I feel like women get the benefit of the doubt, from society as a whole, also it's always okay to be much harsher with men, a lot of guys have called this out, like the fact that their ex girlfriends and bash them to high heavens say whatever they like but if the reverse happened everyone would be shocked and appalled lol.
Okay so... unpopular opinion but my older sister lives "the life" call it what you will... so many married men come for a hug, a talk...It's actually kinda sad, they didn't even "cheat" in the sense of the word. I could almost say it was the majority, and she's not the only one to tell me guys act like this. I say all this to say, men cheat emotionally, for sure, they may not admit it to their friends but they do.
Men also bring babies... they cant just easily walk away like they used to, I put a story on here I think around a family friend who came crying because she found out her fella has another kid and only confessed after she bought a massive house with him that she cannot afford on her own.
However, despite all of this I think a woman is cheating is worse, I feel this way because men are just allowed to cheat in my book it's just what they do, and you hope and pray that his wallet has enough in it to make you forget. I couldn't sleep with my ex for a period of time, it wasn't my fault but nevertheless I couldn't. He cheated and I remember being so "fake angry" about it... he apologised like 100000,00000,00000 times paidddddd for it I spent so much money his bank called him lol I remember thinking, eh im not actually that mad about this, how long do I have to pretend lol I asked the lovely people of ALL and they were like "you are mad" (in a round about way). My dad told me, couples make agreements, he said it's important to have an agreement and stick to it. The only thing I was mad about is that if we made an agreement I would have agreed to almost anyone than who he chose to sleep with, even my own mother, I joke lol but thats was the only thing.