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21st Century Boy
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My missus is two inches taller than me when she comes to bed in her 7 inch heels .... hummm maybe this explains why I can't get it up
My missus is two inches taller than me when she comes to bed in her 7 inch heels .... hummm maybe this explains why I can't get it up
We are not speaking about doctors though-we are speaking about attraction and regardless of how you wish to phrase it you judge taller men as being superior to shorter men. You claim not to be very visual but have extremely specific and very narrow requirements for how a man should look and he just happens to have to be in the top 1% of all men. Is it reasonable to require a man to be a minimum of a foot taller than you? Again, most women have this extreme bias against short men so you are in the vast majority only being interested in the very best of the best and considering the rest of us unworthy & not worth your time or attention.So I consider tall men superior, so if I was sick I would go to a taller doctor? Nah... my mind doesn't work like that, who catches my eye has nothing to do with anyone being superior. I find taller men more attractive, that's it. I dont consider myself very visual as long as he is tall, blue/green eyed and pale then theres room to talk.
The vast majority of men dont care about height? Let's be real, no statistics back that. Taller women talk about their dating market value too. Thanks @Unsigned I promise you arent the only man who feels that way...at least you admit it.
Lol as if I want a man who wears coloured contact lenses. If you tell me my standards are high then you are saying if I date a shorter man, I have to lower my standards... I would never want to be with a man who saw me as a step down, would you want to be with a woman who saw you that way?
Ah I get it, if I dont date someone then I think they are inferior to the men I date… strange… I cant just respectfully be uninterested ?We are not speaking about doctors though-we are speaking about attraction and regardless of how you wish to phrase it you judge taller men as being superior to shorter men. You claim not to be very visual but have extremely specific and very narrow requirements for how a man should look and he just happens to have to be in the top 1% of all men. Is it reasonable to require a man to be a minimum of a foot taller than you? Again, most women have this extreme bias against short men so you are in the vast majority only being interested in the very best of the best and considering the rest of us unworthy & not worth your time or attention.
As long as a women is fit, most men simply do not care about a women's height. The problem is that most taller women tend to weight much more. If she is tall & overweight then many men will not be interested but if she is 6' & slim or athletic then men won't care about her height.
You are the one saying that dating a short man would lower your standards for men and most women feel this way. What I may or may not want is a moot point since I don't have any options anyway because I don't measure up height or face wise.
As always I will only speak for myself.Why would a short man want my attention if he’s not attractive to me…
Of course not. Haven't you realized we are all shallow evil creatures who all think the same and want the same type of guy?Ah I get it, if I dont date someone then I think they are inferior to the men I date… strange… I cant just respectfully be uninterested ?
But are you flattered by the fact that someone finds you attractive and gives you attention or are you just annoyed by it?And the converse is true. A female to whom I am not attracted showing attention/attraction towards me elicits no response. It doesn't happen often, but when it does, I pretty much ignore them. They get the message rather quickly.
Not flattered at all.But are you flattered by the fact that someone finds you attractive and gives you attention or are you just annoyed by it?
Sorry sorry I got lost around chapter 6 and was afraid to say anythingOf course not. Haven't you realized we are all shallow evil creatures who all think the same and want the same type of guy?
It's like you haven't been paying attention at all.
This is the side of men thats scary lol but in all honesty my point is what would be the point of her showing you attention if sleeping with you was out of the question? Like if there was no chance of anything?As always I will only speak for myself.
AFAIAC, this is an incorrect assumption on your part.
Again, only speaking for myself.
I have a definite type I find attractive.
- Young (18-25, but I will go up to 29)
- Petite (short and thin - fun sized if you will)
- Very pretty face (based on what I consider pretty. For example, I find Amanda Seyfried to have a very pretty face, but I find Scarlet Johanson plain looking, Julia Roberts below average and Sandra Bullock downright ugly)
Now...I KNOW the types of girls I described above want NOTHING TO DO WITH ME.
Doesn't matter that they are not attracted to me.
Those are the types I am attracted to and want to "sleep with" (a dumb expression, but good in mixed company I suppose).
So I do what I have to do to get that done.
And the converse is true. A female to whom I am not attracted showing attention/attraction towards me elicits no response. It doesn't happen often, but when it does, I pretty much ignore them. They get the message rather quickly.
It really is that simple. You may be in denial of it but you considered a short man to be the equal of a taller man then you would consider dating him. You like taller men because you find short men unttractive i.e. inferior. Just being so attracted to only very tall men is a very visual preference, correct? Not to mention very tall men of a particular race with a particular hair color. All of your requirements are visual only.Ah I get it, if I dont date someone then I think they are inferior to the men I date… strange… I cant just respectfully be uninterested ?
Equal... inferior... instead of unattractive.. I dont understand... why not just use the correct word?It really is that simple. You may be in denial of it but you considered a short man to be the equal of a taller man then you would consider dating him. You like taller men because you find short men unttractive i.e. inferior. Just being so attracted to only very tall men is a very visual preference, correct? Not to mention very tall men of a particular race with a particular hair color. All of your requirements are visual only.
Why is it scary? I am only attracted to the girls I find physically attractive. I see nothing scary about it.This is the side of men thats scary
I 100% understand why you as a female would not show attention to a male you do not find attractive. I get that.but in all honesty my point is what would be the point of her showing you attention if sleeping with you was out of the question?
My guess is that you likely suffer from what can be best described as Pretty Privilege. The plight of unattractive men is so outside your realm of experience that it does not compute on any level. It would be like a person who grew up knowing only extreme wealth & luxury trying to relate to families trying to survive on welfare & food stamps.Equal... inferior... instead of unattractive.. I dont understand... why not just use the correct word?
I was only listing my few visuals white, blue eyes, tall... thats it. I live in the UK so thats pretty common over here. Personality wise is a long list. Women who wont date you dont all dislike you, you are just not the kinda man they're looking for. Leaving you for someone that'll see the best in you is a beautiful thing
Why is it scary? I am only attracted to the girls I find physically attractive. I see nothing scary about it.
I 100% understand why you as a female would not show attention to a male you do not find attractive. I get that.
What I was trying to relay to you was that for me (and I suspect a good percentage of all men), we don't care if the girls we are attracted to reciprocate to us. Guys go about trying to sleep with these women in different ways.
- Very rich guys use money & power. Think guys like Harvey Weinstein.
- Other guys use "gift of gab" / funnyman game. Think any comedian. They are almost all homely/funny looking.
- Still other guys pester the girl continually until she wears down and gives in. This is your local neighborhood pub rat type.
- And a rare few of us...just go to escorts. That's me.
I get your point, and yes I think spending time, money and effort is ridiculous of the guy knows there is no chance in hell of closing the deal.
But...a LOT of guys are able to wear girls down that everyone else thinks are way out of their league. It happens all the time. Do you really think any of those girls found Harvey Weinstein attractive in any way???
I feel like the male experience is completely beyond my comprehensionMy guess is that you likely suffer from what can be best described as Pretty Privilege. The plight of unattractive men is so outside your realm of experience that it does not compute on any level. It would be like a person who grew up knowing only extreme wealth & luxury trying to relate to families trying to survive on welfare & food stamps.
Btw, practically there is no difference between being invisible to women or being disliked by them as the end result is the exact same in both cases. If there is actually a women that exists who would see the best in me I will never meet her or she will already have a partner.
OK I am trying to get my head around this.I dont find preferences scary I find men not caring about the women they likes feelings scary.
I'd just like to point out that not all middle aged bags are fat. LolThat's my philosophy. Why waste my life on some fat middle aged bag when I can cash in on the fruits of my labor???
How can it not be when you have guys coming here feeding everyone a bunch of baseless "facts"....I feel like the male experience is completely beyond my comprehension
No I get it.I'd just like to point out that not all middle aged bags are fat. Lol
ETA...No I'm not calling you out or anything, just a little joke. Lol
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