TheSolitaryMan
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Man, I really did hope I wouldn't be posting here again for a while. But I just feel completely like crap at the moment, frankly, and I need to share all the bottled up melancholy!
I'm in my last year of college. In a few months I'll be 23...and yet I still haven't had any kind of non-platonic relationship with a girl. I still haven't had a real romantic kiss and it just feels absolutely, crushingly pathetic. I actually feel like I'm just fundamentally different in some awful way to other human beings, like some sort of machine or outcast of some sort.
The irony is that I seem to have lots of friends. My guy friends frequently turn to me for advice regarding girls (lol) and seem to think I'm popular with them! In fact, my advice usually seems to work too, which is completely ironic.
My non-single female friends sometimes tell me when I bring up relationships that I'd make a really awesome boyfriend, or even that I should definitely ask crushes of mine out more, because they'd be really likely to say yes. Yet despite all this encouragement and seemingly good stuff, I get let down by girls over and over again.
Girls who are attracted to me just seem to want instant sexual gratification, and spend a few weeks really being all over me before just suddenly losing interest.
I'm not at all comfortable with one night stands, at the very least not for my first sexual experience, I want someone who actually cares about me more than that. So the end result is I just have a nice pile of sexual frustration, because one-night-deals are all people seem to want from me. I've had other girls just blatantly try to manipulate me. They flirt with me like crazy when they need something, then ignore me completely.
I can't seem to find anyone "normal" who just wants to have some food with me, go watch a movie, or actually kiss me before wanting to tear my clothes off and bounce around on my netherregions like some kind of predatory animal.
Anyway, I sent my first ever Valentine's Card this year. It was to someone who seemed really special, and both her friends and mine were encouraging me to ask her out because she seemed really into me.
She said thanks for the gesture, then just rejected me on the grounds that she doesn't like "dating".
I have no idea what that means. I guess it means she just doesn't like me. She left other bits of her message really ambiguous, and it just makes me feel ****. It feels almost like she's said: "I prefer just sleeping randomly with other guys, but merely going to have food with you is an insane proposition."
When did attraction just become about f***ing people before you go on a date or even kiss them? Everyone around me seems to do this other than me, and it really makes me feel utterly alone in every sense of the word.
I just want to hold someone in my arms, kiss someone, talk to someone...have a girlfriend, not a "f***buddy", and absolutely no one my age seems to want that too.
Sorry for being so down guys. Feel free to tear into me if you wish
I'm in my last year of college. In a few months I'll be 23...and yet I still haven't had any kind of non-platonic relationship with a girl. I still haven't had a real romantic kiss and it just feels absolutely, crushingly pathetic. I actually feel like I'm just fundamentally different in some awful way to other human beings, like some sort of machine or outcast of some sort.
The irony is that I seem to have lots of friends. My guy friends frequently turn to me for advice regarding girls (lol) and seem to think I'm popular with them! In fact, my advice usually seems to work too, which is completely ironic.
My non-single female friends sometimes tell me when I bring up relationships that I'd make a really awesome boyfriend, or even that I should definitely ask crushes of mine out more, because they'd be really likely to say yes. Yet despite all this encouragement and seemingly good stuff, I get let down by girls over and over again.
Girls who are attracted to me just seem to want instant sexual gratification, and spend a few weeks really being all over me before just suddenly losing interest.
I'm not at all comfortable with one night stands, at the very least not for my first sexual experience, I want someone who actually cares about me more than that. So the end result is I just have a nice pile of sexual frustration, because one-night-deals are all people seem to want from me. I've had other girls just blatantly try to manipulate me. They flirt with me like crazy when they need something, then ignore me completely.
I can't seem to find anyone "normal" who just wants to have some food with me, go watch a movie, or actually kiss me before wanting to tear my clothes off and bounce around on my netherregions like some kind of predatory animal.
Anyway, I sent my first ever Valentine's Card this year. It was to someone who seemed really special, and both her friends and mine were encouraging me to ask her out because she seemed really into me.
She said thanks for the gesture, then just rejected me on the grounds that she doesn't like "dating".
I have no idea what that means. I guess it means she just doesn't like me. She left other bits of her message really ambiguous, and it just makes me feel ****. It feels almost like she's said: "I prefer just sleeping randomly with other guys, but merely going to have food with you is an insane proposition."
When did attraction just become about f***ing people before you go on a date or even kiss them? Everyone around me seems to do this other than me, and it really makes me feel utterly alone in every sense of the word.
I just want to hold someone in my arms, kiss someone, talk to someone...have a girlfriend, not a "f***buddy", and absolutely no one my age seems to want that too.
Sorry for being so down guys. Feel free to tear into me if you wish