user 130057 said:
Thanks user 130057, my Father had a pacemaker fitted last week and the operation didn't quite go to plan, but all looks ok now. The Dr who did it last week wants to double check everything has continued to settle down now.
What are you feeling, hoping, thinking, or remembering right now?
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Thanks user 130057, my Father had a pacemaker fitted last week and the operation didn't quite go to plan, but all looks ok now. The Dr who did it last week wants to double check everything has continued to settle down now.
ladyforsaken
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I hope it all goes well for your father, She-ra.
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Patiently waiting for the update. I hope everything went well...
^ Thank you all for your kind wishes, they are much appreciated. My Father got the thumbs up, the complications he had last week have settled down, so they aren't talking about re-doing it now. He has extreme bruising though it looks horrendous. Just glad here is still here and in great spirits.
Tealeaf
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I really hate the weakness that's cultivated in people these days.
Being unable to care for your own emotional needs, stand up for yourself, or reach a state of peace on your own is not a personality type. It is a problem.
In particular, it's a problem when it comes to relationships. A world of broken people looking for other broken people to make their lives not-broken is a broken world. Selfless love and true pro-social behavior is impossible between people who seek it for selfish reasons, such as validating themselves. Those things are only possible between equals, and no one who depends on another to defend them from their own darkness is equal to them.
The best way to change the world is to not be a pussy and prioritize changing the aspects of yourself and life that are unhappy. People have enough to do already without rescuing others. Everything you fix yourself is one thing someone else who's already tired, pressed for money and time, and in need of relief doesn't need to fix for you--material or emotional.
I have been through enough pain to fill novels, and I still believe this. I have dealt with near-poverty, sexual abuse, bullying, teenage druggies, personality disorders in parents, psychological abuse, and plenty of other honeysuckle. If you're losing the fight, it's not because you need a goddamn girlfriend or boyfriend and more romance in your life.
Being unable to care for your own emotional needs, stand up for yourself, or reach a state of peace on your own is not a personality type. It is a problem.
In particular, it's a problem when it comes to relationships. A world of broken people looking for other broken people to make their lives not-broken is a broken world. Selfless love and true pro-social behavior is impossible between people who seek it for selfish reasons, such as validating themselves. Those things are only possible between equals, and no one who depends on another to defend them from their own darkness is equal to them.
The best way to change the world is to not be a pussy and prioritize changing the aspects of yourself and life that are unhappy. People have enough to do already without rescuing others. Everything you fix yourself is one thing someone else who's already tired, pressed for money and time, and in need of relief doesn't need to fix for you--material or emotional.
I have been through enough pain to fill novels, and I still believe this. I have dealt with near-poverty, sexual abuse, bullying, teenage druggies, personality disorders in parents, psychological abuse, and plenty of other honeysuckle. If you're losing the fight, it's not because you need a goddamn girlfriend or boyfriend and more romance in your life.
feeling very sad now... and then I remember this:
boyfriend or girlfriend doesn't change anything, some regular sex, maybe someone to fix your bookshelves or fix you dinner, but the real stuff, you have to go through it by yourself, unless you get very very lucky
Tealeaf said:
boyfriend or girlfriend doesn't change anything, some regular sex, maybe someone to fix your bookshelves or fix you dinner, but the real stuff, you have to go through it by yourself, unless you get very very lucky
Tealeaf
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Peaches said:
Part of the problem is that love and happiness are not free. If people want them, they have to go start making them, forming pro-social groups and connections, and designing things of meaning to be used, or there will be none to enjoy because none was grown. People who sit there with their palms held out crying for someone to give, give, give are only adding to the poverty without creating anything to add to the equation.
And some people, heaven forbid, encourage it as being a “hopeless romantic” or some other bullshit romantic notion. It's bad enough that we have the pervasive belief that value is defined by how many material stuff you can get your hands on, whether it's hot members of the opposite sex or just money.
ladyforsaken
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user 130057 said:
Is this regarding your x-ray results? When will you know?
She-ra said:
Glad to hear that things are on the mend with your father. Sending my best wishes and hope for a speedy recovery for him.
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ladyforsaken said:
Oh, no! It was about She-ra's dad, but since you've asked, probably Thursday or Friday
ladyforsaken
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user 130057 said:ladyforsaken said:
Oh, no! It was about She-ra's dad, but since you've asked, probably Thursday or Friday
Oh, sorry, all right! Hope the results will be in your favour. Best of luck.
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You're selling your integrity at a real bargain price. Just remember that's a hefty price to pay for hanging on to old world glory. But as long as there's a demand, there always will be eager suppliers...
Just been thinking, how after a couple of dips of months, I have reached a point in my life where I feel so content. I have everything I need, but I don't need what I might want. I have such a close and loving family who look after each other. I have the two best friends I could ever wish for, and a very small group of close friends. I have some of the loveliest friends here and feel priveleged to know them. I have a job I adore and look forward going to, I have a roof over my head and can put food on my table everyday, I have the luxury of a car, I can't complain. I haven't had it easy at all, but I put into everything I treasure 100%. Yes there are some things I want, but I don't agonise over them the same as I did, if I get them I do, if I don't I have been very blessed indeed.
ladyforsaken
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She-ra said:
*hugs*
You're one hell of a strong and inspirational woman, mother, daughter and friend. It's amazing seeing what you've been through and what you pull out of and the fact that you can still stand up with your head high after all that, just speaks volumes of what an amazing character you are. Stay strong and keep believing in yourself.
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Solved.
ladyforsaken
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I didn't realise I have passed the 3-year mark being on this forum on the 7th of this month. ****. Here's to many more years ahead here.
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Feeling lonely, hoping for some sunshine, thinking about life and remembering how soft bed is awesome. Feeling tired and lazy too...
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ladyforsaken said:I didn't realise I have passed the 3-year mark being on this forum on the 7th of this month. ****. Here's to many more years ahead here.
Here are some owls cupcakes LadyF to celebrate your 3 years on the forum!*hug*
lonelyfairy said:
Just a bit of sunshine for you Lonelyfairy,to brighten your day!
*hugs*
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