What are you thinking right now?

[ladyforsaken]

It doesn't mean I'm moving on, it's more like giving up.

If you wanna stop and let go of all these girls from your past, you ARE trying to move on. Why don't you just move on, and not give up, but focus on yourself first and make yourself happy. When you get to the stage where you're genuinely happy in life on your own, it might bring in some opportunities in your social interactions with other women. I just feel like, if you try too hard wanting something, it doesn't happen. But when you give it a rest, and try to bring your focus elsewhere, which benefits you.. a lot will come about after you achieve that.

and now he invites me for dinner but completely ignored my request for help about what I am working on - nice guy? nope, just desperate

why am I so bad at reading the signals earlier?

anyway, I said: sure, let's go with X and Y, it'll be fun

hope he gets the message - it's so sad, I really enjoyed his conversation

taking a break from dating is a good enough excuse? It's actually true

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and now he writes about : the sting of rejection? after meeting once? run, run as fast as you can

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Oh dear...
I guess it's just not meant for friendship either. :\

boring, I am just, boring, that's the cause of everything

And no Peaches dear, you're not boring. I've chatted with you before - you're such a lovely person to talk to and absolutely entertaining and humorous!

 

[lonelyfairy]

Why I can't be just healthy? Both physically and mentally? I'm only 20... I'm so sick of meeting doctors.

 

[ladyforsaken]

Why I can't be just healthy? Both physically and mentally? I'm only 20... I'm so sick of meeting doctors.

I feel you, fairy. *hugs*
Stay strong okay?

 

[Tulip23]

Why I can't be just healthy? Both physically and mentally? I'm only 20... I'm so sick of meeting doctors.

Sorry to hear that lonely fairy. I hope you feel better soon

 

[TheRealCallie]

Holy ****, are stop signs optional today? :club:

 

[1andonly1]

This is a constant, but, I wonder how I'm going to die and what happens after life.

 

[lonelyfairy]

Why I can't be just healthy? Both physically and mentally? I'm only 20... I'm so sick of meeting doctors.

I feel you, fairy. *hugs*
Stay strong okay?

Aww, thank you Ladyf. I try to. *hugs* :/

Why I can't be just healthy? Both physically and mentally? I'm only 20... I'm so sick of meeting doctors.

Sorry to hear that lonely fairy. I hope you feel better soon

Aw, thank you. Kittens always make days better.

 

[Triple Bogey]

my Dad (bless him) but he calls **** out of the team I support.
He goes on and ******* on.
I hope we win the big match coming up.
Just to shut him up !

 

[WildernessWildChild]

The games people play.....

 

[TheSkaFish]

It doesn't mean I'm moving on, it's more like giving up.

If you wanna stop and let go of all these girls from your past, you ARE trying to move on. Why don't you just move on, and not give up, but focus on yourself first and make yourself happy. When you get to the stage where you're genuinely happy in life on your own, it might bring in some opportunities in your social interactions with other women. I just feel like, if you try too hard wanting something, it doesn't happen. But when you give it a rest, and try to bring your focus elsewhere, which benefits you.. a lot will come about after you achieve that.

That makes sense. I haven't really been having extra happiness to give away. I figured there was some reason these girls started noticing me, but I haven't really been doing anything that interesting or conversation-worthy, so I don't have a competitive advantage. Some people I've grown up with have done some very noteworthy things, such as climbing mountains in Nepal, playing in bands, flying fighter jets, starting businesses, producing unique art projects...meanwhile, I haven't really done too much with myself. This is probably my problem, right here.

It just sucks because I feel like I had my chance and blew it. Social opportunities with other women wouldn't be much of a prize though, cause that means accepting just okay as the best I'll get. I don't want to be like everyone else, stuck in an unfulfilling life with no chance to move up. All I can do now is hope I get a chance, and wait.

Thanks for your concern, in any case. I know I must come across as difficult but I don't want to learn to lower my expectations.

 

[Dexter]

I can't stand it any longer. I am getting so sick of all that sh*t
And I feel so helpless about my situation

 

[Peaches]

Why I can't be just healthy? Both physically and mentally? I'm only 20... I'm so sick of meeting doctors.

I feel you, fairy. *hugs*
Stay strong okay?

Aww, thank you Ladyf. I try to. *hugs* :/

Why I can't be just healthy? Both physically and mentally? I'm only 20... I'm so sick of meeting doctors.

Sorry to hear that lonely fairy. I hope you feel better soon

Aw, thank you. Kittens always make days better.

Lonelyfairy, I feel for you. Life is so unfair sometimes

 

[Nicolelt]

hmmmm....kinda happy today.

 

[TheRealCallie]

I don't want to work :club:
Also, I need a maid, because I don't want to clean either.

 

[ladyforsaken]

That makes sense. I haven't really been having extra happiness to give away. I figured there was some reason these girls started noticing me, but I haven't really been doing anything that interesting or conversation-worthy, so I don't have a competitive advantage. Some people I've grown up with have done some very noteworthy things, such as climbing mountains in Nepal, playing in bands, flying fighter jets, starting businesses, producing unique art projects...meanwhile, I haven't really done too much with myself. This is probably my problem, right here.

It just sucks because I feel like I had my chance and blew it. Social opportunities with other women wouldn't be much of a prize though, cause that means accepting just okay as the best I'll get. I don't want to be like everyone else, stuck in an unfulfilling life with no chance to move up. All I can do now is hope I get a chance, and wait.

Thanks for your concern, in any case. I know I must come across as difficult but I don't want to learn to lower my expectations.

Well I'm glad you know what you can do to make yourself happier and perhaps when you do those things and feel happier, you will start attracting others.

So when you're ready to stop hanging on to this "shoulda, woulda, coulda" stage - you'll get there. Good luck.

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Why doesn't my sister ask about her own daughter's whereabouts and why she's home late on a school night - wait, no, on an exam week? Why do I seem to care more than she does? How messed up is this? I hate how I can only be the one to observe and not the one to say anything. Ugggghhhh.

 

[TheSkaFish]

Well I'm glad you know what you can do to make yourself happier and perhaps when you do those things and feel happier, you will start attracting others.

So when you're ready to stop hanging on to this "shoulda, woulda, coulda" stage - you'll get there. Good luck.

Yea. I know I need to have more to show for myself and that might take a while. I need to make myself interesting, and thus, competitive. To be perfectly straight, most of the time, I'm bored with myself. I couldn't blame these girls if they found me boring, because they are all interesting people themselves with loads of thoughts and ideas and stories. Like I wish I was, too.

Problem is, by the time I am on their level, I'm afraid they will be gone for good. I don't really want to attract others, because it wouldn't be very exciting. I don't want to spend my one life being a someone who settles for less. So I guess I'm in limbo. I can't spend my days sitting here hoping they'll break up with whoever they're with because I can't have my happiness depend on something that might not come true. I'd run the risk of spending the rest of my youth in misery. But at the same time, I can't let myself sink into hopelessness that they won't, either, because if I can't have my ideal then it means that things will only ever be so good, that I'll never have it all. That all I can hope for is a boring, lukewarm relationship like everyone else has. All I can do is just turn off the goal of being in a relationship until they're single again, if that ever happens.

 

[Triple Bogey]

I'm thinking about that hour long conversation I had with that woman today. Never met her before. We chatted non stop on the bus journey from start to finish.
Doesn't usually happen. She was kind, sweet, caring, interesting and lonely. I am wondering if I should have offered her my mobile number ?

 

[Edward W]

I'm thinking about that hour long conversation I had with that woman today. Never met her before. We chatted non stop on the bus journey from start to finish.
Doesn't usually happen. She was kind, sweet, caring, interesting and lonely. I am wondering if I should have offered her my mobile number ?

Can you try catching the same bus at the same time tomorrow (or possibly same day next week) to see if she's on it again. If the same happens then I say go for it.

 

[Triple Bogey]

I'm thinking about that hour long conversation I had with that woman today. Never met her before. We chatted non stop on the bus journey from start to finish.
Doesn't usually happen. She was kind, sweet, caring, interesting and lonely. I am wondering if I should have offered her my mobile number ?

Can you try catching the same bus at the same time tomorrow (or possibly same day next week) to see if she's on it again. If the same happens then I say go for it.

No she was on holiday and I was on this day trip. I won't see her again. Something seemed to click though. She reminded me of someone from here. Just a nice, lonely person.

 

[WildernessWildChild]

If I lived in Ohio I'd be dead meat right now- luckily there's an 1800 mile buffer zone and The Red Serge protection thingy as well....