Hopetracer
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lonelyfairy said:I hope your sister will listen to you someday or realize it that it's completely fine to help yourself without forgetting others either, like you said... It's all about the right balance between the two.
I agree. It's good to help others, but without forgetting your own well-being and without neglecting own needs etc. Also sometimes friendships can become a one-way street too, that I'm always the one who is listening, helping like a therapist and all that but then it doesn't happen in the other way around... .__. Still much to learn about to taking care of myself at first, then take care of others after that. Like in the airplane, you put the air mask to yourself at first and then to others.
I don't think my sister will listen to me. She's a teacher and puts her students' needs above her own needs. This influences and expands into her relationship with her friends as well.
One-sided friendships only empty out your energy and take your time away. You can survive with them only if you have someone else in life whom you can confide in and vent, to keep your energy batteries filled.
I had a classmate who kept asking me for favors but didn't even listen to me with care when I wanted to talk to him. As soon as I stopped doing favors he got mad and said I'm a crappy friend, lol. In the end I told him to look for a new friend that suits him better and wished him good luck.
Hopefully, such people stay away from your network of friends so that you can spend your energy and time on friends who would actually care.