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I never stated anything about generations, nor did I mention anything about age - I mentioned our species as a whole. If you wish to interpret my original two line post in the way that you have, then that's entirely up to you.

I genuinely wonder whether the Internet has changed us all for the worse or if we've always been such a whiny, self-obsessed, entitled species and it's just that we didn't have an outlet to voice our feelings.
 
Dont be mean amy (╥﹏╥), i missed you.
Besides im always around, i just read through the forum
 
Rodent said:
The term safe-space has become somewhat of an abomination these days. Originally it was LGBT-related, but not anymore in a broader sense. They deal with people's feelings, going as far as protecting them...but from what? Basically from all criticism or opposing ideas, because certain people can't stand viewpoints which oppose their own or that not everyone in this world thinks the way they do in their very own heads. Which is a way to censor the rational opposition as well, because for some reason feelings are more important than reality or reason.

Yeah. When I looked up the term on Wikipedia all I found was something about spaces where LGBT people could be free from homophobia. I didn't see why that was a problem.




Paraiyar said:
The first sentence of your last paragraph kind of invalidates it because you've misunderstood what is actually being referred to with the term "Safe space." As Rodent pointed out in other words, it's basically a place where parasite SJW's think they can prevent all opposition to their opinions, not because they can fault it logically but because it offends them. Nothing about that, or the SJW movement in general is something worth comparing to unions trying to end child labour or most of the other examples that you make. That is not what this forum is at all, the purpose of this forum is indeed closer to what you describe in your bottom sentence though it isn't a place where people have the right not to have others disagree with them which is what a safe space.

What I sympathise with in your post however is the fact that these people only represent a relatively small portion of our generation but members of older generations that complain about us tend to make it out to like we're all this way. But Cavey's comment was still somewhat valid because a lot of these people have managed to get way more influence than they deserve. Anita Sarkeesian is just one example that comes to mind.

I wasn't trying to equate the SJW movement to unions. I guess I caused some confusion because I was making two points at once. One was that the older generations had all of the same faults, and the other was that anything that people have done to make life more civilized and pleasant was at one point considered an entitlement, a luxury that those in power felt that people did not deserve. Now we take some of these things for granted to the point that we don't think about them at all.

I still don't see what's so bad about the safe spaces. If a person is having a bad day, maybe they don't want to listen to the opposing point of view. Maybe they just need a space to vent without criticism which would only make them madder. For example, if a person has had a bad day at work, I don't think it would be too helpful if someone said they should thank their boss for their job. They just need to let the anger out. Again I could be misinterpreting the use of the safe spaces since I don't know much about it, but that's how it seems to me.




VanillaCreme said:
I think that bit invalidates the point. Because it's that exact attitude about it that makes someone say a generation is "entitled" in the first place. Why be pissed off at that? It's obviously said for a reason, even if it's not a very agreeable thing to say. And just because you don't agree with it doesn't mean that it can't be applied. Okay, maybe you're not entitled, but could you see, for two seconds, why someone older than you, who's gone through more in their lifetime, would say that? Seeing it through someone else's eyes can definitely open up a different view.

Because like I said, the older generations were just as irresponsible, just as pleasure-seeking and work-averse and like I said, for them to say my generation is a bunch of stupid whiners and spoiled brats when they were just as bad and they know it, especially as it relates to my generation wanting the same opportunities for betterment that they had and took for granted themselves, is a slap in the face. They said the same things, had the same attitudes. The details have changed but that's about it. So I can't see them saying that with a straight face. Either they forgot how they were themselves or chose to selectively ignore it.




Cavey said:
I never stated anything about generations, nor did I mention anything about age - I mentioned our species as a whole. If you wish to interpret my original two line post in the way that you have, then that's entirely up to you.

I genuinely wonder whether the Internet has changed us all for the worse or if we've always been such a whiny, self-obsessed, entitled species and it's just that we didn't have an outlet to voice our feelings.

Usually this topic is brought up in a generational context so maybe I jumped the gun. For me, the idea of the things you mentioned, whining, self-obsession, and entitlement being something unique to modern times has been boiling for a while. My answer then would be that we have always been that way but didn't have the outlet. It's not just the Internet.
 
Sorry in advance for yet another post, just one final clarification please...

TheSkaFish said:
I still don't see what's so bad about the safe spaces. If a person is having a bad day, maybe they don't want to listen to the opposing point of view. Maybe they just need a space to vent without criticism which would only make them madder. For example, if a person has had a bad day at work, I don't think it would be too helpful if someone said they should thank their boss for their job. They just need to let the anger out. Again I could be misinterpreting the use of the safe spaces since I don't know much about it, but that's how it seems to me.

You are misinterpreting this, but it's not your fault. It's because of how that word has been abused. This is not about venting after a bad day at work or about an annoying friend/relative bothering you...this is about people wanting their own protected space where they're protected from opposing views, can express their unbacked opinions on topics with highly political relevance and possibly at the same time slander the opposition in the crudest possible way: by labeling them as sexists, racists, rapists, ableists and Cthulhu knows what else. And no one should be protected from exhibiting this kind of behavior.

As edgy as urbandictionary is, the top results there provide a much more contemporary definition of the term.
 
I'm officially down 40 pounds in the last 5-6 months from changing nothing really. I just check every so often and it keeps going down for whatever reason. Woo... I guess... :/
 
TheSkaFish said:
VanillaCreme said:
I think that bit invalidates the point. Because it's that exact attitude about it that makes someone say a generation is "entitled" in the first place. Why be pissed off at that? It's obviously said for a reason, even if it's not a very agreeable thing to say. And just because you don't agree with it doesn't mean that it can't be applied. Okay, maybe you're not entitled, but could you see, for two seconds, why someone older than you, who's gone through more in their lifetime, would say that? Seeing it through someone else's eyes can definitely open up a different view.

Because like I said, the older generations were just as irresponsible, just as pleasure-seeking and work-averse and like I said, for them to say my generation is a bunch of stupid whiners and spoiled brats when they were just as bad and they know it, especially as it relates to my generation wanting the same opportunities for betterment that they had and took for granted themselves, is a slap in the face. They said the same things, had the same attitudes. The details have changed but that's about it. So I can't see them saying that with a straight face. Either they forgot how they were themselves or chose to selectively ignore it.

And who better to listen to if not someone who actually went through it themselves? And was like that in their day too? There's some truth when it's said that younger generations are spoiled. We are. And I guarantee you that you'll think the exact same thing of the younger generation after us. Because they are spoiled, even if some don't act that way. It's not a slap to the face. It's reality and truth. We are a spoiled generation. That's not to say that you as an individual has to be rotten to the core, and you know you're not. So why take offense to it? I think that was Cavey's point to begin with, or what I took from it. Everyone's so quick to be offended, or way too quick to jump up and be offended for other people. It's quite the entitled attitude when someone thinks they have the right to not be offended.
 
VanillaCreme said:
And who better to listen to if not someone who actually went through it themselves? And was like that in their day too? There's some truth when it's said that younger generations are spoiled. We are. And I guarantee you that you'll think the exact same thing of the younger generation after us. Because they are spoiled, even if some don't act that way. It's not a slap to the face. It's reality and truth. We are a spoiled generation. That's not to say that you as an individual has to be rotten to the core, and you know you're not. So why take offense to it? I think that was Cavey's point to begin with, or what I took from it. Everyone's so quick to be offended, or way too quick to jump up and be offended for other people. It's quite the entitled attitude when someone thinks they have the right to not be offended.

I just really don't want to listen to smug, condescending lectures on hard work, responsibility, modesty, sacrifice, and hard times from the generation of easy money and sex drugs rock 'n roll, with a smirk on their face. Especially after they slammed shut and locked all the doors of opportunity that they took for granted themselves, stumbling through in a haze of alcohol, dope, sex, and coasting by while being completely average in every regard. And they say that we are the slackers. The irony is too much for me.

I am angry because it's not at all like they're trying to teach us a lesson by saying it either. They aren't giving us any warnings or owning up to any faults or shortcomings they had. They're just saying "we had our fun and that's all that matters, f you!"

I don't think I will say that the next generation is entitled either. One because I will remember how much that word pissed me off. I'm not going to lie and paint my generation in some kind of saintly, holier-than-thou image of self-sacrificing puritans who viewed work as its own reward. I'm not going to lie and say I wanted anything other than to have a good time. And two, because I won't care. It doesn't matter to me if they work hard or not. I will just keep trying to find the answers that work best for me and what I want to do.




Though I will concede that being offended for other people is a big waste of energy and time. I don't really want to be like the super-political people who get really offended all the time because they tend to be a buzzkill and nobody likes that. I do, after all, want to have a good time. Even this anger outburst was a waste of time because it doesn't change anything, and it was not fun so it is not in line with my desire to be someone who enjoys life more. So there's that.
 
kamya said:
I'm officially down 40 pounds in the last 5-6 months from changing nothing really. I just check every so often and it keeps going down for whatever reason. Woo... I guess... :/

That's a lot of weight to lose without trying. It would have been nice if that happened to me when I was overweight, no such luck, I had to lose weight the old-fashioned way. :D

-Teresa
 
VanillaCreme said:
You don't have to sit there and listen to it. But there is some truth to it.

^^ Agreed.

I started working when I was 13 years old. In my later teens, I worked two jobs.
I worked and I worked and I worked. From the time I was about 17, my parents were not supporting me. No one has ever purchased a car for me, helped me buy a house or gotten me a job. If I wanted something I didn't have the money for, I worked more hours. I worked for a roof over my head, clothes to wear and food to eat. I did not do drugs, rarely drank and didn't party. I didn't ask for, nor expect anyone to give me anything - least of all my parents.
I'm one of the "older" people and while I won't say that no one in the generations that came after me worked as hard and as long, just to support themselves,
I'll just say that (in my experience/location) you just don't see that any longer and haven't in years.
Perhaps it's because "my" generation didn't want our children and our children's children to have to work as hard as we did?
I don't think "entitled" means a person didn't get into mischief, party, etc.
Just my two cents.
 
EveWasFramed said:
I don't think "entitled" means a person didn't get into mischief, party, etc.
Just my two cents.

I think it does, because it's them saying we need to take more personal responsibility when they themselves did not. If someone were truly a responsible person they would not want to do things like drink, get high, do mischief, or party. They would mostly be interested in working, and what little leisure they allow themselves would be well within the lines. It's just very ironic for me to hear about responsibility from the inventors of slacker culture as we know it today. It bothers me because it is like I've said before, "I've had my fun and that's all that matters, **** you" and "do as I say, not as I did (or still do)". It's self-righteous and in my opinion, ********.

I also think there's nothing wrong at all with wanting the same opportunities that people enjoyed in the past. Things are supposed to get better with time, that is the definition of progress. If you were to buy a new computer, you would not want one that performs on the level of a 1980s computer. You would expect it to be up to modern standards, some level of improvement in quality. You certainly wouldn't expect it to be worse. I think the same goes for the world. I think if we don't expect things to get better then they will ultimately get worse.
 

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