What are you thinking right now?

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^ That's because everybody else, like you, is alone and hiding at home. They are all walled in and don't trust others enough to share real thoughts and feelings with someone else. You'll have to do an endless amount of work if you really want to become part of a group.

 

[ewomack]

Yes, it's hard. I've always felt like I was born on the wrong planet. People seem to wrapped up in things that don't really matter than meaningful relationships seem hard to come by, mostly because people seem to have forgotten what a meaningful relationship consists of. It doesn't mean having the same stuff, the same beliefs, the same outlook on life, etc., it consists of respecting people for who they are and not trying to force ideas or lifestyles down their throat. I see a lot of the same online. I was even on a Japanese language chat today and someone came on trying to "convert" people. Sigh.

 

[Quietus]

It's incredible how fickle people are.

 

[TheSkaFish]

I'm glad everything worked out with the tropical storm, we didn't get hit that hard by it. Which is a good thing. Now I'm hoping it won't hit us again, but I know it's hard to control things like that, haha.

I'm glad it didn't hit you, either. Stay safe out there

 

[Quietus]

I think that I am done lending effort, and energy to others (strangers).

I'll never find what I'm looking for in any of these places, if anywhere at all.

The truth is that people in general are vapid, and all the great ones are already dead.

And anyone on these sites are here because there is something dysfunctional about them.

No one comes to ALL just because they are a little lonely in the moment. They're hiding their flaws.

They curate their responses to appear to be rational, normal people who just happen to be in a rut, or unable to find friends, but the reality is, normal functioning people who are able to build and maintain relationships don't hide away online. They don't have the time to.

People come here to use others for emotional labor, or bait people into a response, just to then ignore them when they do so.

This is why 99% of the new registers do not stick around.

I'm officially done with this place.

 

[Finished]

I think that I am done lending effort, and energy to others (strangers).

Yes, I can see from your 19 post count that you put a lot of effort into this forum.

I'll never find what I'm looking for in any of these places, if anywhere at all.

Maybe you're looking for the wrong things.

The truth is that people in general are vapid, and all the great ones are already dead.

Maybe, but it's easy to make dead people flawless. Besides I really don't think my responses are dull (vapid).

And anyone on these sites are here because there is something dysfunctional about them.

I can't speak for anybody else about that. However, I am dysfunctional. I'm no longer part of the functional society. But, now that I'm on the outside I can see how F..ked up it really is. I don't want back in.

No one comes to ALL just because they are a little lonely in the moment. They're hiding their flaws.

I disagree. Although that's true in my case. I believe others do get lonely from time to time and come here just for a little interaction or just to read what others write. Sometimes that's enough for them.

They curate their responses to appear to be rational, normal people who just happen to be in a rut, or unable to find friends, but the reality is, normal functioning people who are able to build and maintain relationships don't hide away online. They don't have the time to.

Well, I'm not hiding just online. I'm hiding in real life too. Ha! Ha! But, I can still put together logical responses and include links to backup my point of view. It's called debating. Also normal functioning people have plenty of problems too. Sometimes even more and they have better ways of hiding them. Other times it's just an escape from real life, which sucks a lot of the time.

People come here to use others for emotional labor, or bait people into a response, just to then ignore them when they do so.

This is why 99% of the new registers do not stick around.

People come here for various reasons. Personally it's the only interaction I have with other human beings. I don't expect anything from any of the users. But, I'm happy with the interactions when they occur. I try hard not to ignore other's response. But, It happens sometimes. I'm sorry you feel ignored. I know that hurts. But, it doesn't help you to take it personally.

I think many new registered users don't stick around very long due to a lack of immediate responses. People nowadays want everything right now not in a few hours or the next day. More then likely you fall into that category. This site has a slower response then other sites. But, it's also tailored to a very specific crowd so one can't expect it to be hugely popular even though, IMO, there are millions of lonely people in this world.

I'm officially done with this place.

Well, thank you for posting this both to your diary page AND to this page so that way we can respond to it. Good luck and I wish you well. Maybe you can take a breather on the sideline and try again later with a more forgiving attitude.

BTW, I like the personal icon you are using. It reminds me of a song and video I really like.

[video=youtube]http://watch?v=Q5KLj2a47ow[/video]

 

[Lacrecia]

I think that I am done lending effort, and energy to others (strangers).

I'll never find what I'm looking for in any of these places, if anywhere at all.

The truth is that people in general are vapid, and all the great ones are already dead.

And anyone on these sites are here because there is something dysfunctional about them.

No one comes to ALL just because they are a little lonely in the moment. They're hiding their flaws.

They curate their responses to appear to be rational, normal people who just happen to be in a rut, or unable to find friends, but the reality is, normal functioning people who are able to build and maintain relationships don't hide away online. They don't have the time to.

People come here to use others for emotional labor, or bait people into a response, just to then ignore them when they do so.

This is why 99% of the new registers do not stick around.

I'm officially done with this place.

Bold of you to think that normal people exist.

 

[ewomack]

Many forums have the same problem: a lot of new people don't stick around. I've seen it time and time again on multiple forums. I haven't been here too long yet, but I've seen less baiting and emotional vampirism here than on many other forums. It gets much worse. This place seems small, but still relatively stable.

 

[TheRealCallie]

I'm pretty sure most people here say what their issues are. lol

In addition to that, regardless of where you are, you generally tend to get what you give. There are a lot of fantastic people on this forum. Sometimes you just have to put in a little effort to find them because most people here have issues with trust.

 

[Just Games]

Still having problems conquering my Social anxiety.There I was waiting outside the pet shop with my little dog with his problem that was really annoying waking me up in the middle of the night.Bad enough his weak bladder was pi$$ing me off too why cant he hold it in and go during the day.
So this sweet brunette sees me and said 'Do they sell dog coats in there or should I go pet city".I said no give it a try ,they sell pretty much everything else in there".So she smiles at me again a couple of times after I've said this and that's it I look straight ahead,I could have just talked to her,but no it all kicks in again.So I'm in the shop  now explaining whilst holding him up that he will not stop biting and licking his balls.The nice lady has a quick look at them and said I got a good cream for that it'll settle them down.The sweet brunette smiled at me again and gave him a stroke,I just froze couldn't think what to say,so disappointing and the little fcuker is still licking them in the middle of the night.

 

[Myra]

Still having problems conquering my Social anxiety.There I was waiting outside the pet shop with my little dog with his problem that was really annoying waking me up in the middle of the night.Bad enough his weak bladder was pi$$ing me off too why cant he hold it in and go during the day.
So this sweet brunette sees me and said 'Do they sell dog coats in there or should I go pet city".I said no give it a try ,they sell pretty much everything else in there".So she smiles at me again a couple of times after I've said this and that's it I look straight ahead,I could have just talked to her,but no it all kicks in again.So I'm in the shop  now explaining whilst holding him up that he will not stop biting and licking his balls.The nice lady has a quick look at them and said I got a good cream for that it'll settle them down.The sweet brunette smiled at me again and gave him a stroke,I just froze couldn't think what to say,so disappointing and the little fcuker is still licking them in the middle of the night.

Have you asked a vet what might cause him to do that?

Is your SA worse with people of the opposite sex/ people you find attractive?

But don't beat yourself up. You did your best.

 

[Just Games]

Still having problems conquering my Social anxiety.There I was waiting outside the pet shop with my little dog with his problem that was really annoying waking me up in the middle of the night.Bad enough his weak bladder was pi$$ing me off too why cant he hold it in and go during the day.
So this sweet brunette sees me and said 'Do they sell dog coats in there or should I go pet city".I said no give it a try ,they sell pretty much everything else in there".So she smiles at me again a couple of times after I've said this and that's it I look straight ahead,I could have just talked to her,but no it all kicks in again.So I'm in the shop  now explaining whilst holding him up that he will not stop biting and licking his balls.The nice lady has a quick look at them and said I got a good cream for that it'll settle them down.The sweet brunette smiled at me again and gave him a stroke,I just froze couldn't think what to say,so disappointing and the little fcuker is still licking them in the middle of the night.

Have you asked a vet what might cause him to do that?

Is your SA worse with people of the opposite sex/ people you find attractive?

But don't beat yourself up. You did your best.

No they quite expensive here so tried local pet shop first.Anyway maybe working now didn't do it tonite or he's had a mouthful of cream,who knows.Thanks I'm  over it now sort of but was making progress recently  but not so much now.I think probably equally bad with both.I actually have been going to a games night for over twenty five years with my brother and his mates and I'm always  the quiet one,but they like having me there so not so bad.How about you do you have the same problem?. I do envy people like yourself who express themselves so well,make alot of sense and seem to find it so easy.I just try to make jokes in many situations not good at the art of conversation, I suppose this is how I get round my lack of experience with people except customers and family.Thanks.

I think  I'll try and log on with a Social anxiety forum again ,been here too long I don't think it's really helped me but my stupid loyalty to things ,well it's just stupid. I know it has meet-ups it being mostly British people on there hope I can try and attend one they all having the same problem.

 

[Myra]

No they quite expensive here so tried local pet shop first.Anyway maybe working now didn't do it tonite or he's had a mouthful of cream,who knows.Thanks I'm  over it now sort of but was making progress recently  but not so much now.I think probably equally bad with both.I actually have been going to a games night for over twenty five years with my brother and his mates and I'm always  the quiet one,but they like having me there so not so bad.How about you do you have the same problem?. I do envy people like yourself who express themselves so well,make alot of sense and seem to find it so easy.I just try to make jokes in many situations not good at the art of conversation, I suppose this is how I get round my lack of experience with people except customers and family.Thanks.

I think  I'll try and log on with a Social anxiety forum again ,been here too long I don't think it's really helped me but my stupid loyalty to things ,well it's just stupid. I know it has meet-ups it being mostly British people on there hope I can try and attend one they all having the same problem.

That's good that he's not been doing it. I was worried it might be a health thing, so it's good he's ok.
That's really nice that you do the game nights. And yeah many people appreciate quiet people.

Haha thanks but no, I definitely don't find it easy to express myself.  I feel uneasy around people and nervous when I have to talk to them.  I even stutter sometimes. I leave letters out of words when I say them out loud and then wonder why did my brain do that? It always surprises me how it finds new ways to mess up something as simple as a sentence of just a few words! I also don't know what to say in small talk, though I don't really care because fact is it's best for me to just say nothing. 

I used to be on a social anxiety forum too. I hope you don't abandon us. But I understand if you're not getting much out of this site.

 

[alexandra93]

What I am thinking right now... Hmmm.... Pretty much this:
[font=Roboto, HelveticaNeue, Arial, sans-serif]"I'll walk through fire to save my life. And I want it, I want my life so bad, I'm doin' everything I can.."  [/font]

 

[Finished]

It's Christmas time!

 

[Lacrecia]

wtf, I have more posts than I remember

 

[Just Games]

Trump wants pardons for his family and his attorney. What have they don
Jesus "Just stop talking and listen for a change,anyone would think your a troll."Who you calling a troll ,besides they don't let them on anymore....no ones been banned for ages.

 

[Finished]

It's about time for a few hamburgers.

 

[Just Games]

^No not good for you full of crushed up cows gonads it's better to eat the veggie ones^

I don't mind my oldest nicking my deodorant,hair slick and shave foam because he cant protest when I nick his expensive sweet smelling aftershave which I love so much

 

[Finished]

Or...... Turkey Burgers. I've sure eaten a lot of those.