What should I do

[donghoa]

I'm in the bad mood right now. today, I know from friends that my boyfriend (living in other country) is taking vacation and flied to another country.
He did not tell me anything last week about this trip.

I feel like getting betray! I feel hurt very much.
I try to call him many times, but his phone is turned off.

What should I do?

 

[freedom]

i would continue to keep calling him and trying to get in contact with him. when i got in contact with him, i would give him the opportunity to explain himself. i can't think of a single reason why he would leave the country on vacation and not tell you about it, but he still deserves a chance to explain his actions. who knows, maybe your friends are lying to you and he's still in the country. good luck.

-freedom

 

[sadface]

hm are you sure his phone just doesent....work in any other country?

not to say that excuses him not telling you about this but

its worth considering

 

[Sweetlucyblvd]

I bet his cell phone's service doesn't extend to the country he's in. There's hardly any excuse for him not telling you about the trip before he left, but maybe there's a legitmate reason he can't pick up your calls.

 

[eris]

People generally dont leave the country without telling their girlfriend...

Id be pretty PO'd if I were you.

My husband doesnt even go to the store without telling me (although I wish he would sometimes !!!)

 

[donghoa]

Thank you very much for your advices and sharing. Maybe, for me, sharing is much more important in this moment.
I'm sure that his phone can be used in other countries.
He even does not send me any email this time. I feel not only sad but also silly
But I'm still so much in love with him, maybe I should wait and get his explain first

 

[donghoa]

By the way, the information about his leaving to abroad is correct. My friend already checked carefully before telling me.
How much I wish she had wrong information, but it is not this case.

 

[Yukhi]

Hi donghoa! And... that is a super inconsiderate thing to do

Before breaking up with him xD, I suggest you let him explain things first... and then break up with him There's probably only a dropper-ful of reasons why someone would just fly to another country without saying, not to mention you're his girlfriend. Geez! And he should expect that you're gonna call him, why does he have his phone off?

Anyways, I hope things go well for you. Update us ok!

 

[donghoa]

In love, sometime, our heart does not let us do in the way we think it should be

I know you are much more clear-sighted than me. I should take your advices.

 

[Yukhi]

Awwww

You should do whatever you decide to do donghoa. You can listen to our advice but only you've got the hold of the situation. I hope you make the right choice. No one can actually give the "right" advice in a strict sense

 

[donghoa]

Thanks a lot Yukhi. I'm getting lost

 

[Yukhi]

Ummm...I hope I didn't say anything wrong xD

 

[donghoa]

No, don't worry. I know I'm the one to take care myself and I have to consider what I should do

However, all people's advices and sharing are valuable for me coz that help me to consider my next action and I have someone to talk about my problem, that helps a lot

 

[donghoa]

Today, I got an sms from him, he sent me kissss I sent sms back to ask him chat with me, then I see that he already turned off the mobile
I decided to write an email to say everything I think and ask him a number of questions that hanging in my mind. I feel little better

 

[VanillaCreme]

At least he responded to you. Although, I don't see why he'd just up and leave at all. That seems kind of sneaky.

 

[donghoa]

I got his short email Friday afternoon. I think coz I sent sms on that day to ask him online and chat with me.
He told me not worry coz he loves me and cares about me a lot. But he did not answer any of my questions on where he is, what he's doing?...
And yesterday, he did not send me any more explaination or sms!

I also feel some kind of sneaky here.

I sent another mail to tell him that I'm waiting for his answers. But I really do not know that is correct thing to do or I should ignore him. It is hard to do that when I'm still in love.

 

[donghoa]

I think I need to leave him asap.

How bitterness, how painful I feel now!

What should I do to get out of these feelings soon?

 

[SofiasMami]

Hi-
I'm sorry to hear that you're in love with someone who's insensitive to your feelings. I think you already know what to do with this guy, take a deep breath, get your courage up and do it.
As for getting out of these feelings soon? If this guy is breaking your heart, there's no easy and fast way through it. But cutting off all communication and saying "no" every time he asks to get back together (which he will try to do, trust me) would be a good start.
Good luck and keep us posted.

Teresa

 

[donghoa]

Dear Teresa

Your sharing encourages me now.

I'm in so much bad mood in current time. I tried to call two persons, my friends, and hope I could cry with them, talk with them. Unluckily, both of them are away from city and busy this time. Maybe God punishes me for sometime I'm not good enough.

I know I should stop contact him immediately and forget him asap. But it is too much hard to do! It often take time, terrible time.
I wish I could find a strength to do it. I wish I could find the way to jump out of this terrible feeling.

I want to cry coz it may make me feel better, but I could not. my eyes're just tired, dried and not obey me at all. But my heart's bleeding.

My dream about faithful love is devastated unregrettedly!

how is hard to have a faithful love! Did I expect too much?

 

[grainofrice24]

I'm probably the last guy who should give advice on this thing, but maybe it'll change your mind, hopefully people wont hate me for saying this, but I welcome discourse.

As a guy, I often do things which I later genuinely regret. I've never cheated on anyone in my life, but sometimes I get swept up in the moment and do stupid things. Like if I had a group of buddy's that came up to me and said "we got tickets to Cuba this weekend, you wanna come?!?!?1", I'd just be like "Hells yeah lets go". It wouldn't make me stop loving my girlfriend. He probably had a few too many drinks and his buddy's were giving him a hard time "oh you gotta ask permission to go HAAHAHA ". I know, it's dumb...but it's just the way guys are!

I'm not saying it's right, or that it's not a rotten thing to do his girlfriend, but if you really want to be with him, maybe cut him a LITTLE slack for now...you're his girlfriend, just talk to him first...don't talk to him with the INTENTION of doing anything drastic right off the bat. Trust your instincts!