When You Send a message to people on dating sites, do you prefer they ignore you or..

[AmytheTemperamental]

So there is room for you to make a new thread

 

[Restless soul]

So there is room for you to make a new thread

No no..i appreciate that you created this thread on my behalf 
It was very thoughtful of you.

 

[AmytheTemperamental]

I could create a new one on your behalf. I bet it would get closed faster than this one.

 

[Restless soul]

I could create a new one on your behalf. I bet it would get closed faster than this one.

Lets keep positive

 

[Restless soul]

Hi, this belongs in avoiding people about a comment.
But this thread already has similair posts. I will get right to the point. I obbsess about a lot of things. My apperance being one
I woman who didn't reject, ignore me. Says ' you shoukd get a haircut shave you will look more attractive,'

This is online by the way. So I am thinking. Wtf? My hair is short ftesh haircut . Then she says. Looks like you are loosing your hair
And trying to hide it. ( not losing hair. Have nice hair thank god )
My hair is very good. When short it appears fine. So right there
A comment like that. Just plays on all my insecurities. That my hair is not good. She thinks i am loosing it. So?? Why am I freaking out?? Anyone??

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If someone said that to you. You being a guy or girl.
How would you take it?

 

[AmytheTemperamental]

Oh, I would get therapy. That would destroy me.

 

[Restless soul]

Oh, I would get therapy. That would destroy me.

Amy are you being serious? I can never tell with you

 

[AmytheTemperamental]

Seriously...If you can look at your own head and see that your hair is not falling out, wtf are you worried about?

 

[Restless soul]

Seriously...If you can look at your own head and see that your hair is not falling out, wtf are you worried about?

Because here is a woman. Telling me to shave it off.
Thats what you tell someone who is really thining and balding. Eventhough it's not true. The fact she said it..

 

[AmytheTemperamental]

A woman, who has no significance whatsoever to your life.

Get the hell off of dating websites and get some damn therapy.

 

[Restless soul]

I know. Amy..she has no significance. But when someone who doesn't know you tells someone who already obbsess about thier appearance it kinda gets to you. Whether what they said is true or not. Like the eminem comment they are sorta related these things

 

[nibbysaurus]

If she doesn't know you, she doesn't know you obsess over stuff. She won't know how anything will affect you at all. I'm not sure I understand why the hell you would ask a total stranger these things anyway

 

[Restless soul]

If she doesn't know you, she doesn't know you obsess over stuff. She won't know how anything will affect you at all. I'm not sure I understand why the hell you would ask a total stranger these things anyway

Ask  total stranger where?? Here?

 

[AmytheTemperamental]

I know. Amy..she has no significance.  But when someone who doesn't know you tells someone who already obbsess about thier appearance it kinda gets to you. Whether what they said is true or not. Like the eminem comment they are sorta related these things

No, it gets to YOU. You are unable to handle interactions with people when it comes to your appearance. If you are so hell bent on being miserable over opinions on your appearance, you might as well stand in a mirror and make the comments yourself. No sense bringing others down with you.

 

[Restless soul]

Who did I bring down amy? I post here to find out
Why i have in issue. How to deal with it better.

 

[nibbysaurus]

the direction of this thread

 

[AmytheTemperamental]

Exactly, Nibby. It doesn't really matter what advice you give him, he just goes back to doing the same damn thing anyways. It must be nice for his only issue to be that his hair looks out of place or he looks like some famous person.

 

[Restless soul]

Exactly, Nibby. It doesn't really matter what advice you give him, he just goes back to doing the same damn thing anyways. It must be nice for his only issue to be that his hair looks out of place or he looks like some famous person.

Amy -- really?? Why you trivializing my issues to these two?

No its not nice. And they  are problems.  You even suggested therapy a moment ago

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" only two" riiihht amy right

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And what did Nibby say on the matter?

 

[Restless soul]

Maybe I should sum it up. So you can give me your best answer. And not talk down to me for having this problem. 

When and if someone says something to me regarding my apperance that makes me doubt myself and self esteem
What is the best approach on how not to be bothered by it.
And not think because of what that person said its automatically true. 

There I summarized it best I can to make it clear.
Please be gentle with your reply

 

[Restless soul]

I am a very nice guy amy. Ok?