LeaningIntoTheMuse
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I know, it's ridiculous.
I agree with you on this one Sci-Fi. Celebs like toSci-Fi said:I don't like either of them. From what I heard Rihanna wasn't such an innocent little peach herself. There were reports that she hit him too a few times. Neither were very good at controlling their anger. He took it way too far and should have gotten a more sever punishment. It really urkes me when these celebrities get off with a slap on the wrist. Paris Hilton, Lindsay Lohan, grant you the former has been behaving herself more. Same with Halle Berry, can't stand that woman, she's had multiple hit and runs and gotten off with a mere slap on the wrist. It's disgusting that these people can just buy their way out of trouble. They need to start treating them like everyone else, isn't that what they all bitch about wanting anyway? We always hear how celebrities are just people like us, how come they aren't treated that way then? Why do we have such a messed up system where the rich and famous can do whatever they want and get away with it? It disgusts me.
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DesertWolf said:jjam said:SophiaGrace said:Chris brown was charged, serving 5 years probation and was allowed back at the grammy's 2 nights ago.
I don't think Chris Brown is a bad guy.
I think he's rich, has good looks, can dance and has a lot of women coming at him for those reasons. I think he is enjoying the life of a rock star. As far as hitting that woman goes, I think it's very possible she deserved it. I don't know the story in detail so I wouldn't judge him over it.
So is a poor, less attractive person who can't dance and doesn't have women "coming at him", a bad person? And since when has violence that's not in self-defense ever been excusable?
Wow... Just wow...
jjam said:DesertWolf said:jjam said:SophiaGrace said:Chris brown was charged, serving 5 years probation and was allowed back at the grammy's 2 nights ago.
I don't think Chris Brown is a bad guy.
I think he's rich, has good looks, can dance and has a lot of women coming at him for those reasons. I think he is enjoying the life of a rock star. As far as hitting that woman goes, I think it's very possible she deserved it. I don't know the story in detail so I wouldn't judge him over it.
So is a poor, less attractive person who can't dance and doesn't have women "coming at him", a bad person? And since when has violence that's not in self-defense ever been excusable?
Wow... Just wow...
To answer the bolded part, no. I didn't say that and I'm sorry if that's where your reading comprehension took you.
Look, just as people can THINK Chris Brown is a bad guy, I can THINK he isn't.
As for the second part of your post, again, I don't KNOW the story. I don't THINK you all know the story, and I don't trust that the MEDIA knew the whole story. But even IF that is the story, NONE of us are perfect. If this man has a major history of beating women, then show me. But if he struck a woman, hasn't a history of doing it, came out publicly to apologize, and is ACTING truly sorry over his misbehavior, then that's about as good as a human being can do given our imperfections. That is unless you're one of those who thinks once a bad guy, always a bad guy...
TheMaul said:I have a theory that sensitive men (a minority, frowned upon stereotypically by both genders) are in fact MORE prone to emotional abuse than women are because as a man, it isn't considered to be normal or cool to talk about your feelings, or what is eating at you inside. Where as women find it much easier to rely on their friends or anyone who will listen, and hence why break-ups are always secretly harder on these sorts of men than women.
Sci-Fi said:We always hear how celebrities are just people like us, how come they aren't treated that way then? Why do we have such a messed up system where the rich and famous can do whatever they want and get away with it? It disgusts me.
/rant
jjam said:DesertWolf said:jjam said:SophiaGrace said:Chris brown was charged, serving 5 years probation and was allowed back at the grammy's 2 nights ago.
I don't think Chris Brown is a bad guy.
I think he's rich, has good looks, can dance and has a lot of women coming at him for those reasons. I think he is enjoying the life of a rock star. As far as hitting that woman goes, I think it's very possible she deserved it. I don't know the story in detail so I wouldn't judge him over it.
So is a poor, less attractive person who can't dance and doesn't have women "coming at him", a bad person? And since when has violence that's not in self-defense ever been excusable?
Wow... Just wow...
To answer the bolded part, no. I didn't say that and I'm sorry if that's where your reading comprehension took you.
Look, just as people can THINK Chris Brown is a bad guy, I can THINK he isn't.
As for the second part of your post, again, I don't KNOW the story. I don't THINK you all know the story, and I don't trust that the MEDIA knew the whole story. But even IF that is the story, NONE of us are perfect. If this man has a major history of beating women, then show me. But if he struck a woman, hasn't a history of doing it, came out publicly to apologize, and is ACTING truly sorry over his misbehavior, then that's about as good as a human being can do given our imperfections. That is unless you're one of those who thinks once a bad guy, always a bad guy...
kamya said:Also I think when people get married a lot of times their social networks kind of die off. That is sometimes how the abuse starts.
jjam said:Thanks, but I think I'll pass. It's not that I'm uninterested in another perspective, it's just that I suspect that it's probably someone who feels Chris should be put on a cross, that the world should feel that way about it, and can't even share with his/her readers a FULL story that they'd be willing to bet with their lives is the full and true story in that tall glass of vitriol. Believe me, I already know of that kind of point of view. I try not to have it by default as it seems most women and even men do, which is unfortunate, considering this default pov is like an attack on us. The best I can do is remind myself that I don't know all of the story and reserve judgement. Nevertheless, when this story first came out, I TOO was one who immediately blamed Chris Brown. I didn't know jack about the whole story but I was thinking "oh, **** this piece of **** guy!" That's how we are all wired now, isn't it?
And again, even AFTER the truth of the story comes. Even IF Chris is THE BAD GUY and Rhianna is Princess Innocent, am I supposed to feel redemption is out of the question for him? Am I supposed to hate him? Dislike him for life? Heck, I don't even like the guy's work and I don't know him personally. But I know that I have done some things in the past that I wouldn't want someone to expect of me for the rest of my life, and think the worst of me for.
If you want to copy and paste it here, though, I might reconsider.
frey12 said:Sci-Fi said:We always hear how celebrities are just people like us, how come they aren't treated that way then? Why do we have such a messed up system where the rich and famous can do whatever they want and get away with it? It disgusts me.
/rant
The problem with the framing of how you talk about this. Is you think the solution to the justice system is to make it as unjust as it is for poor people. When everyone poor, and middle class should have justice.
You are talking about the two tiered justice system which is what the U.S. has. The rich have a different style of justice then the poor and middle class do. The solution is not to make things worse for those who are rich and powerful because that is neither plausible or possible. To make the justice system fair for us(poor/middle) is plausible albeit hard. This is through simple things like going through city council meetings, and setting up community organizing.
DesertWolf said:I guess I misinterpreted what you wrote: I thought you were explaining why you thought he wasn't a bad guy by stating that he's rich, etc. You have a point about the media; It doesn't exactly have a good record of being reliable and unbiased. I also have to agree that a few bad actions don't necessarily constitute a bad person. My apologies for the misunderstanding.
LeaningIntoTheMuse said:Listen to me. NOBODY deserves to be hit. Man, or woman.
LeaningIntoTheMuse said:I don't believe in punishing all men for the actions of a few.
oopsiedoop said:If a woman were to try to punch a guy's face in though she could easily be stopped by him.
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