Why try

[Gondwanaland]

Maybe I should just end it, as I am the problem of it all

No, that's not the solution. What makes you think a GF/spouse will improve your life???

because having a gf/spouse means some cares. That is what any of us want, someone that cares. If you disagree with that, you're fooling yourself.

Love's not intended to last forever. I've seen plenty of couples who end their marriages after 20 years together...

EDIT: You know something??? ignore what I've just posted.

 

[Rosebolt]

Then make yourself useful, what you're doing right now is radiating an aura of mass depression, how is that going to help people?

Even when i take the time to write a response and help you, you tell me you're just going to rub it in my face? What kind of person would like to be with someone with your attitude? Don't give me any ******** like "i deserve to be alone" you're alone because you're choosing to be. Believe it or not.

All you're doing right here and right now is not helping your state, you keep threatening suicide, what would you like to hear? You're right, Drew, your life is miserable, you deserve a girlfriend.

Well, that's not what i'm going to say. If you keep this attitude up, no one will want to be your friend. If you want people to care for you, take care of yourself, and fast.

 

[Drew88]

Maybe I should just end it, as I am the problem of it all

No, that's not the solution. What makes you think a GF/spouse will improve your life???

because having a gf/spouse means some cares. That is what any of us want, someone that cares. If you disagree with that, you're fooling yourself.

Love's not intended to last forever. I've seen plenty of couples who end their marriages after 20 years together...

Not true, Plenty of parents love their children till the day they day, and vica versa.

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Then make yourself useful, what you're doing right now is radiating an aura of mass depression, how is that going to help people?

Even when i take the time to write a response and help you, you tell me you're just going to rub it in my face? What kind of person would like to be with someone with your attitude? Don't give me any ******** like "i deserve to be alone" you're alone because you're choosing to be. Believe it or not.

All you're doing right here and right now is not helping your state, you keep threatening suicide, what would you like to hear? You're right, Drew, your life is miserable, you deserve a girlfriend.

Well, that's not what i'm going to say. If you keep this attitude up, no one will want to be your friend. If you want people to care for you, take care of yourself, and fast.

I have long since accepted the fact that no one wants to be friends on this thread with me.
You clearly do not know how to support and cheer people up and relate to them, thats one thing I can do and have done while meeting women.
And trust me there are PLENTY of "useless" people who are "worse" then me who have "more" then me.

 

[Rosebolt]

I have long since accepted the fact that no one wants to be friends on this thread with me.
You clearly do not know how to support and cheer people up and relate to them, thats one thing I can do and have done while meeting women.
And trust me there are PLENTY of "useless" people who are "worse" then me who have "more" then me.

You don't know **** about me, i've been suicidal for a long while but managed to get out because i looked at myself instead of others. All i've ever done was neglect myself to take care of my close friends. If you tell me that i do not have to ability to cheer people up, without knowing me at all, then you're really going too far.

You keep threatening suicide because you want to die. You don't believe that and i understand, but that is what's going on. When you crawl out of this abyss you're in now, you'll understand.

But right now just blaming other people is outrageous and suggest you stop immediately and look at yourself for once. What can you give society?

Right now, judging from this thread, all you give is trouble.

 

[Drew88]

I have long since accepted the fact that no one wants to be friends on this thread with me.
You clearly do not know how to support and cheer people up and relate to them, thats one thing I can do and have done while meeting women.
And trust me there are PLENTY of "useless" people who are "worse" then me who have "more" then me.

You don't know **** about me, i've been suicidal for a long while but managed to get out because i looked at myself instead of others. All i've ever done was neglect myself to take care of my close friends. If you tell me that i do not have to ability to cheer people up, without knowing me at all, then you're really going too far.

You keep threatening suicide because you want to die. You don't believe that and i understand, but that is what's going on. When you crawl out of this abyss you're in now, you'll understand.

But right now just blaming other people is outrageous and suggest you stop immediately and look at yourself for once. What can you give society?

Right now, judging from this thread, all you give is trouble.

Exactly, I worthless

 

[ladyforsaken]

Drew88, we've been through this before.

In this thread alone, so many people care to respond and give a **** about you - and you say you're worthless? You know why you think that? Because you make yourself feel worthless. Instead of accepting other people's thoughts on your post and trying to help you, you insult them? What's up with that?

Then make yourself useful, what you're doing right now is radiating an aura of mass depression, how is that going to help people?

Even when i take the time to write a response and help you, you tell me you're just going to rub it in my face? What kind of person would like to be with someone with your attitude? Don't give me any ******** like "i deserve to be alone" you're alone because you're choosing to be. Believe it or not.

All you're doing right here and right now is not helping your state, you keep threatening suicide, what would you like to hear? You're right, Drew, your life is miserable, you deserve a girlfriend.

Well, that's not what i'm going to say. If you keep this attitude up, no one will want to be your friend. If you want people to care for you, take care of yourself, and fast.

I have long since accepted the fact that no one wants to be friends on this thread with me.
You clearly do not know how to support and cheer people up and relate to them, thats one thing I can do and have done while meeting women.
And trust me there are PLENTY of "useless" people who are "worse" then me who have "more" then me.

To the bolded above - what? Dude, you're so wrong about Rosebolt. Clearly you haven't been paying much attention to his posts much around the forum. At least he rises above the **** he goes through and tries to be positive and help others.

What are you doing to make your life better? And for the record, meeting girls or talking to them or making them your girlfriend isn't a solution because you should be the one to make changes in your life for yourself.

And Drew, trust me - there are PLENTY of people , who are either worst off or better than you, who don't even have anything or have everything. Why should you compare?

 

[perfanoff]

He'll only compare when it's beneficial for himself. Everything he has is taken for granted.

 

[Regumika]

He'll only compare when it's beneficial for himself. Everything he has is taken for granted.

the OP is either looking for advice or looking for attention. I'm going to give him the benefit of the doubt by thinking he is looking for advice.

the homeless envies the man with a house, yes. But if all you focus on is what you don't have, you are going to be miserable, several people have stated that. Look at what you do have. -Should the autistic person brood over how he has no social skills? or shine using the ONLY thing he is good at? (be it art, crafts, math, or any other skill)

Look into yourself, see what you have, and start there. Scientific breakthroughs come about because of hundreds of failures. Relationship is obtained after many rejections. Friends are made after you stand up for yourself and by firmly rejecting those that are not worth your time.

Yes there are miracles. Yes there are those that are lucky. But there are always 2 sides to a story. They may LOOK happy, but are they really? (some really are, but some aren't) The glamour, rainbows, unicorns, shiny, or bubbles don't happen to everyone. But that doesn't mean you can't still make it there some other way.

 

[Nice But Dim Jim]

Why Try?

Because when you succeed it will be the best thing you've ever done!

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Also there is a time and place to try.

Many years ago, I used to be into the clubbing scene, never found love in it at all as I wasn't looking for that sort of person and they weren't looking for the sort of person I am.

 

[defenestrate]

Hi there Drew.
I really want to help you out. Just please keep in mind that the only thing I can promise right now is that I'm sincerely placing effort in this message. I know that what I have to say won't make things better. I just hope that it does help in some small way.

You defend your position of why you should not keep trying. That love is a joke. Finding it is an even bigger joke. What have we learned from you? You've tried and failed. Failing just simply hurts. It really hurts a lot. This pain is what stops people from putting themselves out there. You deserve better than that isolation Drew. If there was ever a moment where you felt hurt, or even hopeless, then should talk about it. Pain isn't something for you to hold onto. Pain is something to speak about. Depression has many forms and it often has no point of origin at all. You didn't ask to feel this way. It's not because your weak. But if your stuck on the emotions of sadness / loneliness / hopelessness, as found in depression, then you will feel that way regardless of the fact that each day is a new opportunity and is not hopeless.

So...
Why try?
Why even bother?

When I was in a very dark place I'd often ask myself those questions. The only comfort I ever had was that somebody took the time to ask something of me: How willing are you to accept that the fact that every time you have tried and failed in the past does NOT mean every time you try you will fail in the future? You can't see the future. You don't know for sure whether or not you'll be met with success or failure. The only thing that you do know is that you need to try in order to finally succeed. So ask yourself this; Is it worth trying for?

 

[ladyforsaken]

What Regumika and defenestrate said above has a lot of meaning. I hope you can understand and at least keep trying, Drew. If we here can care enough about you - shouldn't that be something to motivate you to keep trying? It's not about what you don't have, it's about what's there and how you make good use of it to make yourself content.

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He'll only compare when it's beneficial for himself. Everything he has is taken for granted.

Hopefully he will come to realise it sooner rather than later. Drew's still so young. :\

 

[defenestrate]

How are you holding up Drew?

 

[Rosebolt]

Heey, how are you feeling at the moment?

I'm here to listen, if you like.

 

[ladyforsaken]

Drew - *hugs*

 

[blackdot]

typical girls love to talk

where can I find one of these typical girls?
Every women I meet seems to despise talking. You would think that communication was disease that everyone was trying to avoid.

 

[perfanoff]

I've got no problems talking to taken women and women with who otherwise nothing can happen, the single-"available" girls tend to be way more cautious with me.

It's better that way though, I wouldn't want to have to guess if a girl likes me that way or not. I think it's a kind of sexual courtesy for a woman who is not interested to ignore me, so she doesn't waste my time.

Anyway, that's sleeptalk here.

 

[ucxb]

much respect for all who put themselves out there and try ... i have yet to embark on such endeavors

 

[Unwanted94]

Agreed. I was in my first relationship not too long ago. I was hesitant to be in it, but this guy liked me so much and so I finally said yes. We were together 2 months and I hated it. I don't think I will ever be in another relationship after that. My desire for one is practically gone now. I look at it as a learning lesson. **** it.

 

[LonelyLola]

So you complain that women don't want to converse with you more than one word answers, but all you want from them is for them to fulfill a need for you... You aren't interested in finding the right person for you, just any person. How do you think it feels as a woman to be approached by a male, not because you have stuff in common or to be valued for your conversation, but because you have a ******?

The best advice is to seek some professional therapy. Talk to a doctor or therapist. And get out and do stuff. Obsessing about your relationship status will only isolate you further.