Worst new year ever!!!! - for me

[Niteeyez]

Hi guys

i really f****d up new years eve. We all went out and got mega pissed. I was up drinking, and the wife (who has a history of violene), came up behind me and grabbed my hair from behind and was yanking me backwards. I didnt realise it was her and swung around and lashed out (this was at her mates house). I end up waking her in the nose giving her a massive nosebleed. everyone turned on me and i ended up getting kicked out and having to walk home at 4am. The next day her sister goes to her parents and tells them i beat her up, so now all her mates, and family hate me. I ant remember any of it, just what i am told. The unusual thing being she has no bruising or anything.

I no there is no excuse for it, and it is a shameful thing to do, however she does have a history of getting violent and abusive when drunk (i have suffered this many times in her ruining: our engagement meal, our wedding, my 30th, my passing driving test), and i have always forgiven her and never retaliated. I make 1 drunken mistake, and i have been totally ruined by the family.

Really dont know what to do!

 

[evanescencefan91]

*hugs niteeyez*

well first it ussualy isn't a good idea to hit someone in the first place even if they are messing with you, was your wife being vioent or just trying to be silly? i donno that could be either way do you know what got her so pissed off in the first place?

ant remember any of it, just what i am told. The unusual thing being she has no bruising or anything.

do you mean you were black out drunk, and you can't remember it? Then how do you know why you hit her?

anyways for alcohol I've usually heard that you want to stop before you get blacked out, ( sorry I don't mean to be a goody two shoes and give you a lecture)
but I think maybe both of you guys should try to lighten up on the alcohol intake

have you tried asking your wife to stop drinking? that would probably help some, maybe both of you guys would be better sobber, you guys could do that together and help each other out,


It sounds like you really didn't mean hurt her, if you haven't already you could try apologizing and explaining what happened,

but if your really unhappy with each other, you guys might want to try a divorce maybe

but I really don't have much relationship knowledge I'm really sorry you got the year off to such a bad start, I hope things get better

 

[jjam]

And there you have one of reasons I don't drink!

 

[sunny]

And there you have one of reasons I don't drink!

you are a very admirable example


i'm against drinking too if you don't know what is your limit

 

[Badjedidude]

i'm against drinking too if you don't know what is your limit

Only one way to find your limit.

lol DRINK UP!!

 

[Brian]

This is why I can't tolerate drunks and look down on alcoholics.