Being the other man...

[Badjedidude]

Well alrighty then! lol

Oh... by the way...

************* 10,000th POST, YA'LL!!!!

 

[Peter Lorre]

Ah, Vae Victis (or victo/victa). One of my favourite phrases from Roman history (Brennus <3).

 

[Callie]

Well alrighty then! lol

Awwww, your 10,000th post was to me... Now I feel REALLY special

 

[Peter Lorre]

Congratulations BJD

 

[Badjedidude]

Awwww, your 10,000th post was to me... Now I feel REALLY special

That's how I roll.

Congratulations BJD

Thanks!

 

[IgnoredOne]

Right, and you don't care about the girl; You just care about getting her. You just cared about getting your own. You weren't worried about the trouble in her existing relationship. You just wanted to know you could get her. Someone minding their own business is probably the best thing that can be learned.

That's ridiculous. Should I also 'mind my own business' if a girl is being beaten? Should I mind my own business if someone else is being robbed? I intervene whenever I feel like it is appropriate. Apathy and stupidity is the cause of far more evil than any malice. I've done so before and I'll do so again.

The very notion of 'minding you business' ins infuriating, on many levels beyond just what we're talking about. Let's best not touch that. So much evil has been done thanks to idiots who simply refused to report or comment or act when they saw someone being abused, someone being hurt, or suspicious behavior. And to think that someone would condone, or even advocate that malevolent passivity that has destroyed so much innocence, harmed so much that is good, and built entire monuments to evil....No. I've said enough about that.

But thank you for attempting to read my thoughts. Here are a few other thoughts I had regarding her: that I cared for her, that I worried about her feeling well and that I wanted her to be with someone who took care of her rather than the loser who ignored her.

Further, it makes it sound like a girl has no choice whatsoever but to succumb to pursuit, which is really rather belittling to her own intellect and ability to choose. Its a bit flattering, but no.

I did a perfectly fine thing. I put an end to a charade and I am friends with said girl to this day. If she had any objections, she would have let me known - beyond that, I'll kindly leave that between herself and me. If her ex had any objections, he had his chance to get at me and the coward didn't.

I've said my piece. Brennus be praised, indeed.

"If she'll cheat on him, she'll cheat on you."

I've found this little adage to be quite true when dealing with other men's women. That's why I don't.

This is far more relevant and practical than the incoherent moralizing above. And yes, it is true that past behavior is often repeated in the future, but also, if she is treated differently, she won't repeat the same behavior. I hardly have a long and steady history of breaking relationships to make my own, but in my experience, the adage isn't always true.

Of course, I suppose there's also a difference between outright cheating and making her leave him for you, which somehow has gotten conflated together in this thread. Outright cheating is simply duplicious behavior and is pretty much indicative of a personality accepting of deceit; jumping ship, on the other hand, indicates dissatisfaction with the current situation to find a presumably better situation with someone else.

 

[floffyschneeman]

Your situation was a specific case. But it's not reason enough to rationalize the act of cheating and treat it as a perfectly normal and harmless thing. Just like euthanasia in connection to killing. Given the situation that a couple is in love but is in a hard phase, as mostly all couples would get to that point specially those who had been together for a long time. the other one meets someone that makes him/her feel like high school romance again. does the third person have the right to argue his/her way out that that person in a relationship is in need of saving from a bad relationship? NO, that's cheating. Cheating = no respect for others, no respect to person you claim to love. No respect for yourself. If one is not happy with someone, let him/her get out of that relationship. then be with that person.

 

[Luna]

EVERY relationship is going to have its high and low points.

I've seen my parents hit that ultimate low...there was much screaming, knocking over household furniture etc. However - they made it through! They worked it out in the end.

Any mature adult should know that a relationship is not going to be ******* flowers and candy ALL THE TIME.

I recall when I had my first argument with my boyfriend; this male friend of mine tried to wiggle his way in my heart and pants by comforting me and trying to convince me that I should hook up with him instead.
Perhaps if I were weak in character and easily tempted with what seems like the easier path to follow - I would have! But that's not me and needless to say; people like that are not people I want to associate with myself.

I find that with most relationship break-ups that I know of - it isn't a case of where the two persons find that they are no longer compatible and end it there.
It is a case of where the couple is in a rough spot and one of them was seduced with what seems like the easier path.
I would hope that if there is a problem in my relationship - that I am given the proper time and respect to work it out! Afterall - there IS a reason why I am with this person in the first place.
I dislike how outsiders start foaming at the mouth and excite at when a relationship is going through a rough time and they see it is an opportunity to stick themselves in.

People who are easily swayed are fickle and loose are the people who try to interfere with the relationships of others.

I've told my boyfriend that if we ever must break up...the reason should be because we couldn't work it out. Not because either one of us acted like trash in our relationship by letting in a just-as-trashy third person in.

Note: As for women who are in abusive relationships and some "nice guy" that wants to come swooping in and save her from her abuser...my post is not referring to these type of situations nor am I justifying anything for these type of relationships. People who stay in abusive relationships are a whole other subject all together.

 

[Lonesome Crow]

As studly as I am...Ive never cheated.
Im not fucken desperate to hit on women thats not avalable.
She can talk to me as I friend but its a fucken line Ill never cross....

If you had ever been on the recieving end of the cheating ********. You might comprehend that cheating is not a good thing. Its something U not wish on any human to live through.

As many fine looking women Ive been with....theres always a prick
that going to try to steal her away from me...even when things are going good...

During hard times when shes vunerable...fucken wolves in cheap as clothing are fucken everywehre.

---

Theres plenty of bautiful single women available that dont wish
to get into relationship or just looking. They have high level of selfesteem and self worth

These women arnt EASY pray.. A fucken losser knows that cuz fuvken looser gets rejected by these women...so the losser move on to finding a vunerable women going through a rough time.

Its not that fucken complicated.

 

[EveWasFramed]

As studly as I am...Ive never cheated.
Im not fucken desperate to hit on women thats not avalable.
She can talk to me as I friend but its a fucken line Ill never cross....

If you had ever been on the recieving end of the cheating ********. You might comprehend that cheating is not a good thing. Its something U not wish on any human to live through.

As many fine looking women Ive been with....theres always a prick
that going to try to steal her away from me...even when things are going good...

During hard times when shes vunerable...fucken wolves in cheap as clothing are fucken everywehre.

---

Theres plenty of bautiful single women available that dont wish
to get into relationship or just looking. They have high level of selfesteem and self worth

These women arnt EASY pray.. A fucken losser knows that cuz fuvken looser gets rejected by these women...so the losser move on to finding a vunerable women going through a rough time.

Its not that fucken complicated.

---

Didnt you post (about a year ago) about swiping your ex back from her current husband? *scratches head*

 

[Lonesome Crow]

Yes...I posted about wives swapimg...
It was becuase some dumb *** asked me if I wanted to wives swap...
So I told stupid *** Hell NO...
Im a selffish ****...I dont share.
My wife was a total knock and his wifw was an ugly *****...

whats ur spin on this?

 

[tangerinedream]

Yes...I posted about wives swapimg...
It was becuase some dumb *** asked me if I wanted to wives swap...
So I told stupid *** Hell NO...
Im a selffish ****...I dont share.
My wife was a total knock and his wifw was an ugly *****...

whats ur spin on this?

No. She said "swipe," not "swap."

 

[Lonesome Crow]

Heck dude...when I was single. I even had a guy asked me to go **** his wife for him.. Some poeple are strange .
which is totally in reverse of ur stuff....
Never the less. I still told him "NO""
Just certain things I deem unacceptiable to me.

 

[tangerinedream]

Jesus H Christ, do you even read the posts to you? Carefully, I mean? For that matter, do you even bother following the topic before jumping in with your ********?

 

[Lonesome Crow]

Pople are going to do whatever theyre going to do... U dont need anyones approval... U did want u did cuase you wanted to and chose to..so why do you feel like U need to defend yourself? You want people to agree with you or give you permission? Sometype of justifications? so whats up with the deversion? You feel guilty or something?

welll yes I do...CTF..
Emtional tampons comes in all flavor...eveny once in a while one gets cuaght up in there..

I didnt bring up wives swaping
He did....
It bascis diversion tactics toxic people do.

 

[tangerinedream]

so whats up with the deversion?
You feel guilty or something?

1. Do you mean me?

and

2. Do you mean "diversion?"

It's no diversion. Eve read this post of yours in which you claimed never to be a cheater:

As studly as I am...Ive never cheated.
Im not fucken desperate to hit on women thats not avalable.
She can talk to me as I friend but its a fucken line Ill never cross....

If you had ever been on the recieving end of the cheating ********. You might comprehend that cheating is not a good thing. Its something U not wish on any human to live through.

As many fine looking women Ive been with....theres always a prick
that going to try to steal her away from me...even when things are going good...

During hard times when shes vunerable...fucken wolves in cheap as clothing are fucken everywehre.

---

Theres plenty of bautiful single women available that dont wish
to get into relationship or just looking. They have high level of selfesteem and self worth

These women arnt EASY pray.. A fucken losser knows that cuz fuvken looser gets rejected by these women...so the losser move on to finding a vunerable women going through a rough time.

Its not that fucken complicated.

---

Didnt you post (about a year ago) about swiping your ex back from her current husband? *scratches head*

---

Then you got all off-topic with your post about "swapping" instead of "swiping" and then more ******** from you etc.

No guilt, no diversions on my part, just wondering why you didn't answer Eve's question.

Guilt, maybe?

 

[Badjedidude]

Because gilt is what only guilty peopel feel.
U find every reason not to fly strait
U can't get gripp with whats in front of your face.

its like my daughter Jaycee
I told her to ignore what others say...
becuz only jealous people have soemthing to hide...
Theres no shame in a three some
I tell her its only about love.

You cant always askk for permission
Sometime you just gotta go for it.
and not worry if your guilty.
And sex.

 

[Lonesome Crow]

What dose the guilt stems from?

you cant save her?
you cheated with her?
or both?

 

[Badjedidude]

Theires always a fucken reason to not face up to it.
U can't always have what u wanten.

My exgirlfriend Kinzee says that one time...
guilt isnt worth the tiem you spend for cash
you agree?

dollers to sense, as they say.
One time my boss asked me for a blowjb...
I said "ok"" but it never happened...
Just goes to show you what guilt does.

Its called twelve steps.
first step is admiting ur gult..
Have to own the chevy blazer with thrity inch wheels, man
fukken sexy...

 

[VanillaCreme]

Ignored, I don't want to read your thoughts. Get your own relationship instead of trying to butt into others. Jedi said it best.