packyourbags
Well-known member
DrMorlenheim said:
hey.
i do understand the feeling behind your words, and i do feel almost ashamed to belong to the female part of the population every time i hear about the way most non-******* guys are treated.
but well - all my friends are guys, (i have 2 acquaintances only that aren't), and yes, most of them are shy, and and sometimes lonely. (including my guy, a geek and mathematician, who was a virgin until the age of 26 himself). it's not that those are the criteria, it's just that usually the people i tend to have common interests with - music, philosophy, books, and so on - tend to be overlooked by most people, especially women.
i do understand why you would feel it to be mere hypocrisy, when a female (probably in a relationship), tells a guy - you're gonna find someone.
but in the end - what will you have us do?
say - yeah, you're gonna die alone? it's not true, and even less helpful
not everyone can find the right words to say, and not in every situation there are ANY kind of words that can solve, or even soften the pain.
but still, the feeling behind even those failing attempts is sometimes genuine and true.
please don't lose faith in everyone yet
. some of us do try to make this place just a bit better, and be there for others, as much as we can. we are the minority, but please don't add insult to injury, attributing (admittedly not always effective) efforts to hypocrisy
it's hard enough, trying to undo the amount of pain our friends, and we go through. shade.
