How many people over 20 are still virgins?

[Badjedidude]

I'd sweat all over, blush, get excited and end up saying something awkward everytime.

I wouldn't enjoy being with a woman who didn't make me feel like that.

Being nervous and excited is most of the fun! Don't worry about it! Really... when a woman sees that you're flustered around her, she'll think it's cute and she'll be flattered that she has that affect on you.

So don't worry about it and GET OUT THERE and get around the girls!

 

[Yukhi]

High Five to all the virgins here!!! xD

and also to those who were

 

[eris]

^^^ youre such a sweet guy

 

[Moaninglonewolf]

I'd sweat all over, blush, get excited and end up saying something awkward everytime.

I wouldn't enjoy being with a woman who didn't make me feel like that.

Being nervous and excited is most of the fun! Don't worry about it! Really... when a woman sees that you're flustered around her, she'll think it's cute and she'll be flattered that she has that affect on you.

So don't worry about it and GET OUT THERE and get around the girls!

The problem is, I act this way when I'm around ANY girl, even the ones to whom I'm not attracted in the least bit. It's like I have developed a phobia for girls.

And what you say about girls liking some shyness due to affection is right but only for some girls. Most of the girls I've encountered seem to expect their man to be pretty self-confident, stand cool and proud in any situation and be comfortable when talking to her. When I show signs of low self-esteem and self-respect, they lose their interest in me and treat me like a loser henceforth.
Nevermind, it's their loss afterall, missing their one chance meet Mr. "8 inch" Penishy(yeah, that's the name I gave it)
I guess you have every right to :club: me after this joke

 

[Snickers]

23 and still a virgin. I'm afraid of intimacy and the possibility of getting pregnant.

 

[Badjedidude]

Nevermind, it's their loss afterall, missing their one chance meet Mr. "8 inch" Penishy(yeah, that's the name I gave it)

I guess you have every right to :club: me after this joke

I honestly considered it.

But since you admitted it's a joke, I won't say anything.

 

[Misty]

When it happens (if it happens; I'm beginnging to suspect it may not), It cannot be cheap. It has to be deep, it has to be emotional, and it has to be LOVING. There aren't many guys who will understand this. If I were to discuss any of this with anyone in person, I'm sure the cries of "get over yourself" would be deafening. In which case I would need a pair of earplugs, because this is just the way it is for me.

Thank you SO much for sharing this Spare, it made me cry so much. I do understand completely. What you said here is very attractive to me.

At times my thoughts and feelings are, "you are just getting to old. Most people your age are already married and have kids. There aren't going to be any young men that have pure hearts at your age that you can even marry".

I am a 27 year old woman that is still a virgin. I have had MANY men want me, but I have never felt they were the right one. I have chosen to waited for God to show me who he wants for me.

I know it is SOOO hard to go against yourself in these areas especially in this day and age. But like what you said, Spare "it has to be deep, it has to be emotional, and it has to be LOVING." I feel exactly the same way, and I have always thought it would be the sweetest thing to give to my husband my whole heart and body. He deserves that. He deserves all of my heart and body. So I will wait patiently, no matter the pain and loneliness I feel right now. I will wait for him.

 

[dslegends]

I was a virgin until i was 21 and i found the right one for me we found each other! but yes its good that so many are still because I believe that it can cause issues if you lose it early especially if you are in a relationship, but wait for the right one believe me it is well worth it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[djr21co]

I'm 28, and I am also flying Virgin Airlines. Yeah, it kind of mess with you. You wonder, 'what's wrong with me? Why aren't I normal?' Not one single friend of mine from high school graduated a virgin (a few of them graduated pregnant). I was hung up on the same girl in high school, who just happened to be my best friend's girlfriend, and then after high school I just have never found myself in a position to meet women. I don't even know any single women. Not any at all. All of my friends are older than me, and married to boot, so I'm not going to be meeting anyone through them, despite all of their assurances of "don't worry, we'll find you someone".

I went through that phase of 'I just have to do it, I can't miss out on it anymore,' all the while terrified of the prospect (I just KNOW I would do nothing but embarrass myself in the sack). But then one day my mindset began to change. The idea of a one-night-stand, though never all that appealing to me, became downright appalling. I seem to have reached a point in my life where, if I ever do finally get to lose my virginity, it has to be with someone special. Someone I care about, and someone who cares about me. I won't even go to strip clubs, never mind the fact that I've never seen a naked woman in real life before.

I went out for Halloween last year with some friends, dressed (ingeniously I might add) as Santa Claus. At the last bar of the night I was sitting alone at a table, a sad, lonely Santa, watching all these people and happy couples around me having a good ole' drunken time. Then this girl in a slutty leather costume came over and from out of nowhere started rubbing up on me. I was, of course, all thumbs, mentally as well as physically. Eventually she tugged down my Santa beard and gave me a little peck on the corner of my mouth, then wandered off into the crowd. She told my friend a bit later that she'd just wanted to make me blush. What she did was make me feel like garbage. That was the physically closest I've ever been to a woman. It was the most sexual thing that has ever happened to me, and it happened in a disgusting, dimly lit bar filled with smoke and drunken idiots. It was CHEAP.

When it happens (if it happens; I'm beginnging to suspect it may not), It cannot be cheap. It has to be deep, it has to be emotional, and it has to be LOVING. There aren't many guys who will understand this. If I were to discuss any of this with anyone in person, I'm sure the cries of "get over yourself" would be deafening. In which case I would need a pair of earplugs, because this is just the way it is for me.

wow, its like you took the words out of my head... im 18 still a virgin and will be soon joining the navy as a hospital corpsman i just hope i dont die a virgin. and i know what you mean about how that women played with you, been there done that. sucks

 

[SophiaGrace]

Just so everyone knows. I am STILL a virgin.

Just thought I'd give more current information on that status.

That is all.

 

[Nightwatcher]

21 and still a virgin.

 

[A Desolate Soul]

20 and still a virgin here. had opportunities but didn't take them cause it didn't feel right. Friends mess with me about it all the time but i try not to let it get to me. It's pretty sad when people look down on you just because you haven't had sex yet.

 

[lonelyncold]

Im 26 and still a virgin and never had a girlfriend. It is a dreaded feeling being lonely, you get used to it but there are days it gets you down more than others. A lot of girls have fancied me though especially at school but due to having social anxiety ive never had to courage to ask them out even when ive been approached by them.

Ive got to the point where something needs to change drastically or i'll end up dying a virgin. Due to my anxiety i don't even have friends so 'going out with the lads' to meet someone isn't an option. My 2 best chances are probably either having sex with a prostitute or online dating but these seem daunting having zero experience.

 

[JAYtheMAGNIFICENT]

*cough* I am *cough*

What? I didn't say anything

 

[Drcynic]

22 and still a virgin... I won't have the oppertunity at the earliest until I'm 24 or older even...

 

[focused]

25 and still a virgin.

Has anyone here considered using adult escorts to have sex with a woman? There's stunning looking woman who are escorts and look literally like supermodels and the prices seem quite reasonable. Some services also provide outcalls so the escort will goto your home.

I know there is no guarantee of sex as they aren't prostitutes but the chances are high. A big problem is obviously lack of social skills as a lot of meet will involve conversation, i don't know if i could handle it but i might push myself to do it. After all, they aren't there to judge you as your paying for their company.

Meeting the special someone who you love then losing your virginity is the best way but as we all know it's damned differcult when you have no social network or social confidence and we're all getting older and having no fun

 

[njlonelydude]

25 and still a virgin.

Has anyone here considered using adult escorts to have sex with a woman? There's stunning looking woman who are escorts and look literally like supermodels and the prices seem quite reasonable. Some services also provide outcalls so the escort will goto your home.

I know there is no guarantee of sex as they aren't prostitutes but the chances are high. A big problem is obviously lack of social skills as a lot of meet will involve conversation, i don't know if i could handle it but i might push myself to do it. After all, they aren't there to judge you as your paying for their company.

Meeting the special someone who you love then losing your virginity is the best way but as we all know it's damned differcult when you have no social network or social confidence and we're all getting older and having no fun

That's a dumb idea because of the risks you take:

1) STDs. Yes, you'll be wearing a condom, but there are other things you need to worry about. This is the first time you're going to be having sex, so I'm guessing you'll want to kiss the gal (if the escort is okay with that) -- you can get oral Herpes this way.
2) Getting busted. If the cops are running a sting on this escort, your *** goes down too. Although I'm not sure how strict the penalty is (I doubt you serve any prison time), but it's not a risk I'd take.
3) You're paying to have sex. Look, I think prostitution should be legal and I don't give a **** if people pay for sex, but are you really okay with this? You have to remember that she doesn't care about you, she only cares about your money. The whole time she's moaning your name while you're sticking your thang inside her...she's ******* faking it.
4) You might like it a bit too much. Damn, that first time you cum while you're inside her you might like it so much that you'll do it again. And since paying for sex is so easy you might waste a lot of money seeing hookers.
5) You might realize sex isn't that big of a deal. So she made you cum and it felt pretty good...but that's it. You'll hate yourself for paying for it.

Yeah, I understand you want to get laid, but it seems like you want love too -- don't spend your money on a whore. I hope you meet that special someone who's comfortable with you being a virgin and makes your first time unforgettable.

 

[tal]

wow, this thread I started is still going strong. :O

Nothing's changed for me sadly. Still a virgin, but another year older.

I still get mornings where I wake up and the first thing that pops into my head is 'tal, you're a 26 year old virgin and you've effectively thrown away what should have been some of the best years of your life' and I have to lie there for a moment trying to decide if it's a nightmare or reality, but I guess I've come to accept it more now....or maybe I'm just giving up...I dunno. lol

Good luck to all of us who want to lose it sooner rather than later!!

 

[thecursedmary]

If I had to be honest I would say that I really respect people who are virgins... =] There's nothing more sweeter that a virgin partner because it's soo good to know that that person is waiting for someone special to give their soul and body ^^ Age is not imortant at all...
And I prefer virgin boys... ^^ I'm 18, and it's hard for me to find a virgin... But if I do, that boy have more chance with me that another boy who already had sex with other girl...
Soo dont be ashamed! Sometimes you must be proud... =]

 

[SmallTownLonely]

It's refreshing to know there are others out there. Just turned 40 and I too am still a virgin. Still looking for that meaningful relationship. In today's society it is extremely difficult to think you're "normal" for waiting.