Hows this for ugly?

[Doubt The Rabbit]

Whatever reason there is for the fact that you haven't been in a relationship is not related to your appearance. Perhaps you have other qualities wrong with you. I can certainly name being an introvert, which is what you seem to be. Also, the self loathing in itself. You can't possibly expect someone to like you if you don't even like yourself. It's draining and annoying for a partner. To blame loneliness on your looks is taking the easy way out.

 

[jjam]

I just came in to say this was a good bull**** post.

 

[VanillaCreme]

I don't think I want compliments. I think somehow I actually want the opposite. i think i want confirmation of my ugliness to validate my self loathing and give me an excuse to carry on with it

You ain't gonna get that, because you aren't ugly. Sorry

Hold on, I'll give him what he wants then...

You're ugly. There. Happy? What difference does it make if someone's ugly or not. Doesn't make a bit of a difference in the world. I'm ugly too. So what?

I got to nearly 31 years old without ever having a relationship, there must be some ugliness to me?

Yes, there is. And it's not your face. It's your attitude.

Whatever reason there is for the fact that you haven't been in a relationship is not related to your appearance. Perhaps you have other qualities wrong with you. I can certainly name being an introvert, which is what you seem to be. Also, the self loathing in itself. You can't possibly expect someone to like you if you don't even like yourself. It's draining and annoying for a partner. To blame loneliness on your looks is taking the easy way out.

I agree, Rabbit. Relationships don't solely depend on looks. You like someone, and love, regardless of what they look like, how much they weigh, what their background is, or anything else. You like them for them. And if you don't like yourself, how can you possibly ever think anyone else would like you? Being harsh and negative to yourself is probably the surest way to make sure you keep people at arm's length.

 

[S t r a y]

dude your fine, just lose the glasses and smile when you take a pic of yourself!

 

[Doubt The Rabbit]

I like the glasses.

 

[Callie]

I like the glasses.

Me too, actually

 

[SophiaGrace]

We aren't complimenting you, we are seeing you through our lenses, not yours (which is quite negative, and wants a confirmation bias)

 

[Doubt The Rabbit]

Whatever reason there is for the fact that you haven't been in a relationship is not related to your appearance. Perhaps you have other qualities wrong with you. I can certainly name being an introvert, which is what you seem to be. Also, the self loathing in itself. You can't possibly expect someone to like you if you don't even like yourself. It's draining and annoying for a partner. To blame loneliness on your looks is taking the easy way out.

I agree, Rabbit. Relationships don't solely depend on looks. You like someone, and love, regardless of what they look like, how much they weigh, what their background is, or anything else. You like them for them. And if you don't like yourself, how can you possibly ever think anyone else would like you? Being harsh and negative to yourself is probably the surest way to make sure you keep people at arm's length.

Absolutely. I find on days when I'm simply sociable, happy, and smiling, I get a bunch of men asking me out for coffee, dinner, or just flat out asking if I have a boyfriend. Granted I don't smile all that often because I, too, have a negative outlook on myself much of the time, but sometimes I just feel like, "I am as I am, good or bad. So the **** what? I'm not out to impress anyone."
On those days, the people around me don't seem terrible. It's because I, myself, don't seem terrible to me.

 

[VanillaCreme]

I like the glasses.

Me too, actually

I need to get my glasses fixed and wear them for you lovely ladies. (hello)


And yes, Rabbit, me too. When I smile more, I get guys asking about me. And I'm not pretty at all.

 

[S t r a y]

I like the glasses.

I like humans to look natural, glasses are not natural. But hey thats just me.

 

[Doubt The Rabbit]

(hello) Glasses!

 

[annik]

I like the glasses.

I like humans to look natural, glasses are not natural. But hey thats just me.

My mum looks like she's missing a feature if she hasn't got her glasses on. I used to scream down the house when I was a baby if I saw her without them.

 

[TheSolitaryMan]

I'm not fishing for compliments, I wont believe you even if you do say something nice which is unlikely. I find the sight of my face repulsive and sickening. I can be having a nice day but as soon as I catch the briefest glimpse of my reflection I feel my heart sink, a lump in my throat and i want to cry.

Your self esteem is screwed, that's the problem here, not your face.

Smile more next time! The expression you have looks miserable, which puts one negative on the pic.

Seriously though, your facial structure looks good. From the way you were talking, I was expecting an eyepatch, missing teeth and exposed skull, instead I see a normal, handsome looking human being

My personal opinion is you'd look better with smaller frames on those glasses, but that may just be me actually. With my last pair I went for a lighter frame and I'm much happier with the look it's given me.

I hope you manage to stop being so down on yourself in future!

 

[cumulus.james]

I got to nearly 31 years old without ever having a relationship, there must be some ugliness to me?

If your postings are any indication, this is probably because of your attitude towards yourself, and not your looks. I don't think you're ugly either, and I've seen soooo many guys way uglier than you being with very attractive girls. It's all in your head, and it all comes down to attitude and the way you look at yourself. If you let your self loathing shine through, others are bound to pick up on it, and THAT, my friend, is why they keep their distance.

I know, because I do the exact same thing.

Cant argue with that really. Not much to be done about that though. You would need someone to make you feel special in order to start feeling special in yourself which wont happen for the above reasons so there is probably not any chance of a relationship.

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I'm not fishing for compliments, I wont believe you even if you do say something nice which is unlikely. I find the sight of my face repulsive and sickening. I can be having a nice day but as soon as I catch the briefest glimpse of my reflection I feel my heart sink, a lump in my throat and i want to cry.

Your self esteem is screwed, that's the problem here, not your face.

Smile more next time! The expression you have looks miserable, which puts one negative on the pic.

Seriously though, your facial structure looks good. From the way you were talking, I was expecting an eyepatch, missing teeth and exposed skull, instead I see a normal, handsome looking human being

My personal opinion is you'd look better with smaller frames on those glasses, but that may just be me actually. With my last pair I went for a lighter frame and I'm much happier with the look it's given me.

I hope you manage to stop being so down on yourself in future!

Thanks