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Solivagant said:
In that case, you would have made yourself clearer if you had used the words "sexual partner" instead of "romantic partner" in the OP, as "romantic" is very generic and not likely to be interpreted as "just sex". You might want to do that next time, just so people know what you're really talking about and can respond accordingly.
You are quite right, and that was definitely my error.

I was being a bit coy because I fear I might endanger my posting rights if I am too blunt with my language.

Speaking of which:


EveWasFramed said:
Im only going to say this once, so pay attention. Stop with the pics. I shouldn't even have to go into the reasons WHY, but I will.
Posting these kinds of things can make people feel bad about themselves, which is something we don't need on this forum. I see NO legitimate reason to continue to post them - you've made your point. Thank you in advance.
Understood.
 
Boring-Weirdo said:
I just want sex; not a trustworthy, sincere, and understanding woman.

I tend to value the following things in a partner:
1. Will have sex with me.
2. STD free.
3. Attractive.
4. Nice.

And the last two are optional. ;-)

Let's forget about escorts for a moment, esp. since you already said you don't want to go that route (and I don't blame you.)

The problem here is yet another case of wanting something you cannot have. I would think the only women who would be willing to engage in a generally shallow, mostly sexual relationship would also be the kind that have high standards. This is the kind that is looking more at the external (looks, status, etc.) rather than character, charming eccentricity, or whatever else you have beneath the surface.

If you're unaccomplished and have shaky social skills, then the women that would be best suited for you are those who want a deeper, longterm, committed relationship. Such women will not share your interest in the physical side of things, IMHO.
 
Batman55 said:
Let's forget about escorts for a moment, esp. since you already said you don't want to go that route (and I don't blame you.)

The problem here is yet another case of wanting something you cannot have. I would think the only women who would be willing to engage in a generally shallow, mostly sexual relationship would also be the kind that have high standards. This is the kind that is looking more at the external (looks, status, etc.) rather than character, charming eccentricity, or whatever else you have beneath the surface.
I agree. Women don't want my body! :D

Batman55 said:
If you're unaccomplished and have shaky social skills, then the women that would be best suited for you are those who want a deeper, longterm, committed relationship. Such women will not share your interest in the physical side of things, IMHO.
I can't seem to find any women who would want me in any capacity via dating sites. I messaged everyone in a 15 mile radius on 3 different dating sites over 2 years... Well over 500 women. No matter how old or ugly, no one wanted me.

Guess I gotta try to change myself then. :p
 
Wow...just wow. All I'll add is to what Eve has said, and to stop with the gender stereotyping as well. That doesn't fly around here either.
 
Boring-Weirdo said:
Guess I gotta try to change myself then.

I've read several of your posts in different threads, and that sentence is the only good and common sense thing you've said (from what I've seen)

By your own admission, you have few, if any, morals and would enjoy commiting crimes, if only it weren't for that pesky fear of getting caught. You have no interest in women other than how they might please you physically, and you speak as if that's all they're there for. This thread is about your need to place numerical values on how attractive someone is.

You sir, sound like a horrible person. Take that as an insult if you want, I don't really care, but I'm telling you this to assist in your efforts to change yourself. Is it really any surprise that no one wants to date you?! I'm feeling physically sick just from reading your posts.

Seriously dude, what the fresia?!

EDIT: I truly hope that you DON'T seek out an escort service! I wouldn't wish you on any woman, even if she was getting paid for it. You remind me of a comic book villian, I can totally picture you tying some girl to train tracks and laughing manically. Seek help.
 
Just my opinions, don't let them bother you. ;)


Locke said:
This thread is about your need to place numerical values on how attractive someone is.

You sir, sound like a horrible person. Take that as an insult if you want, I don't really care,
You don't like my efforts to articulate the judgement values we place on each other, so you have assigned me a low judgement value (labeling me "a horrible person").
 
Any woman I am attracted to is an automatic 10/10. lol.
I simply could never put the women I have been attracted to on a scale like that... It simply does not work like that.


People are attractive for all sorts of different reasons and it is far more complex than assigning a number like that to a person... Unless of course you are someone who is incredibly shallow and all you see and care about in a person is physical appearance. If that is so then you do not in any way deserve a partner, in my opinion.
 
ShybutHi said:
Unless of course you are someone who is incredibly shallow and all you see and care about in a person is physical appearance.
I am saying that people grade each other not only on physical appearance, but also social status, personality, money, etc...

Think of this way: if you were looking for a doctor you might hop on the internet and check out reviews of your options before choosing. If one doctor is known for botching procedures, that will (by most of us) be seen as a negative. Yes, some people may prefer the doctor who botches (masochists?), but overall that would have to be considered a fault, not an asset. I am simply stating the (what I thought was widely accepted) premise that people rate their potential partners in similar ways.
 
ardour said:
You're right, just let the inner beauty shine. That's what matters, along with being a good person.

That's lovely sentiment, but in reality it counts for nothing. Humans are vain creatures and the most attractive, popular or ruthless get the most. The "Good" people get nothing, regardless of how kind or sincere they may be. Ive spent my life being the good guy, trying to do whats right by people, what has it got me? Depression and a nonexistent social life.
 
Boring-Weirdo said:
Just my opinions, don't let them bother you. ;)


Locke said:
This thread is about your need to place numerical values on how attractive someone is.

You sir, sound like a horrible person. Take that as an insult if you want, I don't really care,
You don't like my efforts to articulate the judgement values we place on each other, so you have assigned me a low judgement value (labeling me "a horrible person").



I'm not shallow and simple-minded, so I'm not judging you based on your physical appearance. I'm judging you on your misogynistic views, your sociopathic and morally corrupt leanings, and your simple-minded statements in this thread and others.

Thanks for letting me know that you needed clarification. It's my fault, I should have known you wouldn't understand the difference.
 
Locke said:
Boring-Weirdo said:
Just my opinions, don't let them bother you. ;)


Locke said:
This thread is about your need to place numerical values on how attractive someone is.

You sir, sound like a horrible person. Take that as an insult if you want, I don't really care,
You don't like my efforts to articulate the judgement values we place on each other, so you have assigned me a low judgement value (labeling me "a horrible person").



I'm not shallow and simple-minded, so I'm not judging you based on your physical appearance. I'm judging you on your misogynistic views, your sociopathic and morally corrupt leanings, and your simple-minded statements in this thread and others.

Thanks for letting me know that you needed clarification. It's my fault, I should have known you wouldn't understand the difference.


I guess you haven't been reading my posts very carefully.
 
Boring-Weirdo said:
I guess you haven't been reading my posts very carefully

Boring-Weirdo said:
all I care about is sex. I will try not to be sexist, but I am a raging misogynist.

Boring-Weirdo said:
Because I am an unscrupulous hedonist? Other crimes that may bring pleasure seem unreachable due to their challenge and my fear of being caught. The one pleasure I am distinctly lacking in life is sex, and to acquire it I would gladly use "immoral" actions. Unfortunately my aspergers prevents me from being a good liar, otherwise I would totally become a sociopath. So I have the lack of conscience required to enjoy a life of debauchery, but not the courage, energy, or even desire to take advantage of it.

I've read your posts as carefully as I can. A good number of them make me want to throw up. I don't need to judge you as a sociopath, a coward and a sexist. You've already told us that's what you are.
 
a lonely person said:
For practical purposes fate doesnt exist
I believe in determinism. How do you think fate doesn't exist (for practical purposes)?

Locke said:
I've read your posts as carefully as I can. A good number of them make me want to throw up. I don't need to judge you as a sociopath, a coward and a sexist. You've already told us that's what you are.
I'm not a sociopath; I just wish I were.

Obviously people do not judge each other exclusively by appearance. But they do judge each other, just as you have judged me. Why is that such an offensive idea to you?
 
Boring-Weirdo said:
Locke said:
I've read your posts as carefully as I can. A good number of them make me want to throw up. I don't need to judge you as a sociopath, a coward and a sexist. You've already told us that's what you are.
I'm not a sociopath; I just wish I were.

Obviously people do not judge each other exclusively by appearance. But they do judge each other, just as you have judged me. Why is that such an offensive idea to you?

Your misogynistic views are offensive, and your need to place a numerical value on a person based on their physical appearance is disgusting. But you're right, you're too cowardly to be a sociopath, and you wish you were a good liar. I guess you think being cowardly and wishing that you could manipulate people somehow makes you better in your own shallow mind, but it really doesn't.

You are too unintelligent to understand that what you are is offensive, which is why (thankfully) you will most likely be alone forever.
 
Because it cannot be proven, and even if it was true there is no way you could make any predictions based on that belief taking into account the number of variables. So if this destiny or fate is not something you can predict look or analyze, for practical purposes, real tangible situations when you have to make a desition with consequences, you cant take it into account.
 
a lonely person said:
Because it cannot be proven, and even if it was true there is no way you could make any predictions based on that belief taking into account the number of variables. So if this destiny or fate is not something you can predict look or analyze, for practical purposes, real tangible situations when you have to make a desition with consequences, you cant take it into account.
Mmm... I see your point.

I suppose my real objection to the article is that it assumes if people work hard they can be successful; or that we make our own destiny.
 
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