Jealousy...overrated?

[tedgresham]

... I NEVER said that. You don't even know who you're talking to anymore.

Sorry, I was talking about gypsytrip's remark. Does anybody on these things know what they're talking about?

Whatever, it's just opinions and ideas. Isn't that what a forum is for?

 

[Lollipop286]

Does anybody on these things know what they're talking about?

Yes. Quite a few people know exactly what they're talking about.

Whatever, it's just opinions and ideas. Isn't that what a forum is for?

Well...it isn't smart to post here if you have no idea what you're even talking about

 

[nerdygirl]

Does anybody on these things know what they're talking about?

Yes. Quite a few people know exactly what they're talking about.

Whatever, it's just opinions and ideas. Isn't that what a forum is for?

Well...it isn't smart to post here if you have no idea what you're even talking about

Sterling, my dear, you know none of us know what we're talking about. We're too young to have a clue. Never had any life experiences or anything. At least it isn't about genders this time.

 

[Lollipop286]

Does anybody on these things know what they're talking about?

Yes. Quite a few people know exactly what they're talking about.

Whatever, it's just opinions and ideas. Isn't that what a forum is for?

Well...it isn't smart to post here if you have no idea what you're even talking about

Sterling, my dear, you know none of us know what we're talking about. We're too young to have a clue. Never had any life experiences or anything.

Well damn -_-. It really is just irritating....when people from an 'older' generation complains about a younger one and think that they have the answer. It's funny, that your parent's generation was saying the SAME thing about you. There isn't anything wrong with our generation. Sure there might be some stupid people within it, but stupid people are in every generation obviously.

Anyways, back on topic...jealousy.

You know what you really need to do Gypsy? TALK TO YOUR BOYFRIEND. From the information you've gave us, it really sounds like he's just using you for a piece of ***, as well as having this other girl to use for the same thing. But, we might be wrong...you really need to talk to him and figure things out. If you truly think that there is something going on between them, you need to break it off. Not wait around 'to get to know him better'. There are plenty of fish in the sea, you just have to go catch one. Good luck.

 

[tedgresham]

Does anybody on these things know what they're talking about?

Yes. Quite a few people know exactly what they're talking about.

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Sure they do. For example?

Whatever, it's just opinions and ideas. Isn't that what a forum is for?

Well...it isn't smart to post here if you have no idea what you're even talking about

If most of the people here had a clue, including me, they'd probably not be here. Like every other forum or Facebook or whatever nobody on this thing is real, they're all user names. Is this forum a clique of people doing their own thing or is it a legitimate form? I haven't figured that one out yet. Whatever, I was just trying to enter into a discussion and sharing my views. And yes, I know exactly what I was saying if I got some names confused, whatever.

Would you prefer only psychological professionals respond? Do we mere mortals get a chance to reply?

Well damn -_-. It really is just irritating....when people from an 'older' generation complains about a younger one and think that they have the answer. It's funny, that your parent's generation was saying the SAME thing about you. There isn't anything wrong with our generation. Sure there might be some stupid people within it, but stupid people are in every generation obviously. [\quote]

...I just wrote a nice long rant but deleted it. Two words actually cover my response: ********.

 

[Lollipop286]

(hmm)....I think you messed up on the quoting process and posted some of your rant lol. Anyways, I'm not here to fight, so buh bye dear

 

[nerdygirl]

Dum de dum de doo...

Still glad the sweeping generalization was about age this time, rather than "all girls"or "all boys" we usually get around here...

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Chrysanthemum!

 

[SophiaGrace]

So, no one here is real? Thank god! I was beginning to think I *was* real.

 

[Lollipop286]

No.

Yous da fake.

 

[nerdygirl]

We are all koalas.

 

[Lonesome Crow]

I suffer from the I'll so you ***** sydrom. My fucken jealousy issue morph.

Cuz you aint all that *****...i can do better. I deserve better.
Ive been with nicer, prettier chicks than you.
Just becuase i love you and Im nice to you and go to the end of the earth for you.
Dosnt mean you can walk all over me.
We made a committment to each other...its not fucken rocket science or complicated.

And there's tons of babes that would love to have me. You know that you fucken *****.
You witness for you own fucken eyes many women would come on to me.

Living well is the best revenage, And I'll live well and be happy.
Do whatever the **** i wanna do. **** whomever I wanna ****.
It is this what you want me to be?
I'll be a **** of a fucken whore too...just so you know Im not better than you.
It easier this way...it was always easier this way.
I never said our love would be convient for either one of us.
So I'll make it easier for you to fucken hate me....
And Ill hate myself for everyone Ill **** for the rest of my life if that what you want from me too.
You dont fucken care. No one gives a **** oneway or the other what happens to our baby.
And I begged you and begged you whatever it is that I've done so wrong please forgive me.
It wanst all about you and It wasnt all about me.
and we cant just write her off anymore...

she hates you so fucken much to cover up her pains becuase she loves you.
Any blinde man can see....

 

[IgnoredOne]

I have expectations of myself, therefore, I have expectations of people.

I judge.

 

[gypsytrip]

Oh my. Some intense discussions going on here!

For one, I do not appreciate being lumped into the 'ignorant youth' category. We are all here speaking civilly/arguing about the way humans perceive and deal with jealousy. I fail to see where those who watch Disney channel and have sex are. I actually prefer to watch Disney whileee I have sex. In between, I am selfish and possessive of my lover and call him "mine". But you know...that's just how younguns are these days. Forget all the fancy book learnin', we're just out havin' sex, ya hear?

I agree jealousy is a natural human emotion, but it is not about being selfish. To me it deals with not feeling adequate enough for your mate. He is seeking other female attention, why was I not enough? I do not think this jeapordizes your ability to love them unconditionally. Unconditional love and jealousy can coexist.

Tedgresham, I do understand where you are coming from. If you analyze the human mind, many things about it appear silly. But that doesn't mean emotions can be discounted, no matter how unjustified they seem. I completely agree with a certain sex issue you brought up, however. Sex is one of the prime rulers of humans, isn't it? I know most people worry about their boyfriend/girlfriend having sex over "oh no, do you think they are having a deep and meaningful conversation at 3 in the morning?" You are wrong in saying it tends to solely affect the "younger generations" though. Aren't couples over 40 the ones who get bored/have mid-life crisis and take a mistress/lover outside their marriage? But that's okay to you since it was wrong to expect that your spouse would stay faithful. Hmmm.

Anyway, Sterling you are right in saying that I need to speak to my boyfriend. I feel that with long distance relationships though, since you haven't seen this person in so long, when you finally reunite you are on your best bahavior, right? Your time together is filled with excitement about being together again. Whereas in relationships where distance is not an issue and you see your significant other on a regular basis, you get to see the way they deal with everyday issues. But in a LDR, even though it has its own challenges, when we meet he'll be sweet and romantic since he'd technically only need to put on an act for a week or two. Basically what I'm trying to say is I will have a hard time knowing, even in person, whether he is committed to me. But that of course brings up the trust issue so maybe this isn't worth my effort.

I fail to see why a man would put in so much effort for some "booty" though, when he could get some where he is now. Why would he spend all this money in traveling for two booties when he could have as many as his heart desires for free!

Silly boys, the way they mess with our minds.

 

[nerdygirl]

Eh... X lived about two hours from me and had no car. He would get on the Greyhound and come to see me, but he was having sex with somebody else.

 

[Lollipop286]

Men will go to great extremes for some booty I assure you.

 

[Lonesome Crow]

Unconditional love.

Serously STerling...that includes droping one booty for another. (for me)
I had one fine booty at my finger tips..better looking and nicer than the
the one of seeking.

Sometimes i wonder how she feels about that. That I would leave her for another
woman. She loved me and really, really tried. For the most part she was a pefect GF.
I do take many things into considertion.I dont make my decisions off of impluse.
I wait up every other second guessing myself sometimes for the decision Ive made.

I'm not trying to de rail this thread. I m trying to understand all of this or understand myself.
The things I write are whats actaully happening my life currently.
There's just so many different aspects


Anyway back to Renae and the UNCONDITIONAL LOVE.
I guess she still loves me. I did a different version without all the fucken your a fucken
***** to her. She's still talking to me inspite of my ********.
I still love her inspite of her ********.

So much love...so much hate..So much dramma. So much forgiveness. So much sex
Everything about this relationship is on full tilt to the extreem.

Unconditional love. I love her very much and I've never loved any woman
in my life as I love her. It's also driving me unconitionally batty.
I've had never cried so much tears for anyone else in my life but her.
Even when we're together..I love her so much I'll cry. My heart explodes and I'll cry just holding her.
It's totally intense. No other woman had ever made me feel such way.
The thing about that is...she cries when she tells me she loves me too.

 

[VanillaCreme]

I don't get jealousy, in any form. I understand it for the most part when it comes to relationships, but jealousy in general doesn't make any sense to me. As far as relationships go, if he's with you, don't worry about it. He's with you - and not with the others - for a reason. Don't become paranoid about something and create issues that aren't even there. If he has a problem, I'm sure he'll talk to you about it.