Just a curious question for single women

[Alonewith2cats]

Where do you go to meet guys? What does it mean to "put yourself out there."

I don't know why it's so hard to meet people these days. You can't date your co-workers, yet you spend probably about 80% of your life at work, just because you leave your house to go somewhere doesn't mean dates just fall out of the sky. What is the secret these days? On-line? I'm not even comfortable with that and it's not really working for me either.

 

[Veruca]

Hey Alonewith2cats,

Some ideas;

1. Sitting at the bar and not at a table; easier to strike a conversation with the person sitting next to you or for a guy to come over
2. Bookshops; Smile, ask for suggestions
3. Charity events/drives
4. Bootcamp/runner's group
5. Clubs; hardest place to meet a decent guy though
6. Supermarket/farmer's market; I saw a movie once where the main character suggested looking into the trolleys of patrons, if it has groceries for one, then the guy is probably single
7. Concerts/performances/jazz bars
8. Hobby groups/classes
9. Ask friends to set you up

I'm not sure if the above helps. I guess at the end of the day, one can meet men anywhere really, and its more a question of striking up a conversation with someone, or having that person willing to converse with us back.

Perhaps you can start by just smiling at anyone you meet in cafes or bookshops (anywhere you frequent) whom you think seems alright and see where it goes

Good luck!

 

[ladyforsaken]

6. Supermarket/farmer's market; I saw a movie once where the main character suggested looking into the trolleys of patrons, if it has groceries for one, then the guy is probably single

That is so interesting! Never heard of that one.

 

[Veruca]

I know! But pretty smart though right? I don't recall the name of the movie, but I thought that was genius.

Not taking into account guys who love to cook of course, bet their trolleys would be full.

Hmm, maybe we should just smile at everyone lol

 

[ladyforsaken]

Not taking into account guys who love to cook of course, bet their trolleys would be full.

Hmm, maybe we should just smile at everyone lol

Rofl! Guys who love to cook lol yeah probably have a lot of stuff in their trolleys.

Smiling at everyone? Wouldn't people think you're nuts if you do that? Lol - I tried that, people stared at me as though I was crazy lol.

 

[LonelyInAtl]

You can't date your co-workers, yet you spend probably about 80% of your life at work,

How do you figure 80% of our time is at work?

 

[Alonewith2cats]

You can't date your co-workers, yet you spend probably about 80% of your life at work,

How do you figure 80% of our time is at work?

Just an estimate, maybe it's not 80% because after the 40 hour work week and daily commute to and from work, we also have to calculate the time we spend sleeping. But with all the time spent at work what I find frustrating is getting crushes on male co-workers, particular those on my team and knowing that he cannot be a dating prospect because we work together. The one I have a crush on now, not only works on my team but is highly allergic to cats. 2 strikes against the possibility so that means no. But I'm not meeting anyone else I like that way. My attraction radar is either messed up or Cupid is an a**h*le.

 

[perfanoff]

You can't date your co-workers, yet you spend probably about 80% of your life at work,

How do you figure 80% of our time is at work?

Just an estimate, maybe it's not 80% because after the 40 hour work week and daily commute to and from work, we also have to calculate the time we spend sleeping. But with all the time spent at work what I find frustrating is getting crushes on male co-workers, particular those on my team and knowing that he cannot be a dating prospect because we work together. The one I have a crush on now, not only works on my team but is highly allergic to cats. 2 strikes against the possibility so that means no. But I'm not meeting anyone else I like that way. My attraction radar is either messed up or Cupid is an a**h*le.

What's wrong with dating a guy you know from work? I don't get it.

 

[LonelyInAtl]

What's wrong with dating a guy you know from work? I don't get it.

If it doesn't work out, there could be resentment on both sides that could be detrimental to the workplace since you would still see the person every day. Just like when I was in a fraternity I never dated any of the Little Sisters since they were always around.

 

[duff]

Where do you go to meet guys? What does it mean to "put yourself out there."

I don't know why it's so hard to meet people these days. You can't date your co-workers, yet you spend probably about 80% of your life at work, just because you leave your house to go somewhere doesn't mean dates just fall out of the sky. What is the secret these days? On-line? I'm not even comfortable with that and it's not really working for me either.

it's a million times more easy for women than men.

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Hey Alonewith2cats,

Some ideas;

1. Sitting at the bar and not at a table; easier to strike a conversation with the person sitting next to you or for a guy to come over
2. Bookshops; Smile, ask for suggestions
3. Charity events/drives
4. Bootcamp/runner's group
5. Clubs; hardest place to meet a decent guy though
6. Supermarket/farmer's market; I saw a movie once where the main character suggested looking into the trolleys of patrons, if it has groceries for one, then the guy is probably single
7. Concerts/performances/jazz bars
8. Hobby groups/classes
9. Ask friends to set you up

I'm not sure if the above helps. I guess at the end of the day, one can meet men anywhere really, and its more a question of striking up a conversation with someone, or having that person willing to converse with us back.

Perhaps you can start by just smiling at anyone you meet in cafes or bookshops (anywhere you frequent) whom you think seems alright and see where it goes

Good luck!

dress nice, walk into a pub or bar. Wait 5 minutes !

 

[perfanoff]

I get it, thanks

 

[BrokenInside]

Cupid's arrow can strike you anywhere, anytime. Sometimes it takes time!

 

[duff]

Cupid's arrow can strike you anywhere, anytime. Sometimes it takes time!

when I'm 80 ? lol !

 

[ucxb]

Hey, this crosses my mind too, since I do not go to clubs or bars...
Veruca you have provided a good list of ideas.
Now I just need let go of my hang-ups and ready my self to be available for meeting people

 

[perfanoff]

Cupid's arrow can strike you anywhere, anytime. Sometimes it takes time!

when I'm 80 ? lol !

Don't. Make. My imagination. Work.
:club:

 

[Veruca]

dress nice, walk into a pub or bar. Wait 5 minutes !

If only that worked!

 

[painter's radio]

Try dressing down a bit. These poor betas are probably not approaching you because they think you're out of their league.

 

[Veruca]

*hugs* Painter, you just made my day

Though it seems to me that both alphas and betas seem to prefer the gorgeous girls :/.

 

[duff]

dress nice, walk into a pub or bar. Wait 5 minutes !

If only that worked!

well yeah I was joking. I think the men approaching women in pubs would probably be horrible. I have seen it, drunk blokes going from woman to woman pestering them if they want a drink or a dance

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*hugs* Painter, you just made my day

Though it seems to me that both alphas and betas seem to prefer the gorgeous girls :/.

pretty women do get my attention but I soon lose it if I find they are boring, ignorant or arrogant.

I like women who are interesting and interested. Smiles go a long way too !

 

[Veruca]

pretty women do get my attention but I soon lose it if I find they are boring, ignorant or arrogant.

I like women who are interesting and interested. Smiles go a long way too !

I've just been unfortunate to meet men who are more interested in looks than anything else, but being on this forum has certainly reminded me that awesome people exist