In my own research, I came across a guide to suicide. The guide went into some great detail I believe on how and when to go about such things. I don't remember much of it except one thing stuck out. The writer stated that no one under 24 should even consider suicide. You need to be at least 24 to decide if it's what you really want to do, end your life.
I think some one who is 92 can tell some one who is 60 and in good health they are still young. Hell, I've met 92 year olds with more pep and spunk than I have, lol. It's kind of like how you treat a dying person. When some one finds out they have cancer and all that, even on their death bed, we all come up with these absolutely crazy and stupid things to say, but in the end, the person is dying, they know it, and everyone else knows it. It's just hard to actually "say it".
This is where phrases like, "you are still young", come from. It happens a lot in recovery circles as well, such as AA and such. The older and wiser try to cling to the younger people, trying to stop them from doing what they did because they have regrets. It may seem on the surface they are reaching out to try and help you because they actually care about you, but what they are really doing, on a psychological level, is trying to go back and save themselves. I've had this happen to me so many times.
People in general are nice, so they try to think of the right thing to say, when most of the time, there really is nothing you can say that will, do[/] anything. It's all about your demeaner and the way you come off to people, and there is only so much time anyone is really going to devote to your stupid ******* problems. I say stupid ******* problems because EVERYONE or mostly everyone everyone has some sort of HUGE lingering problem that they haven't dealt with yet, or are constantly dealing with.
So when some one says, "you are still young", I think what it really means is, "yeah I haven't figured, 'that', out either ('that' being the 'problem' that is almost completely universally relevative), but I've survived, 'that', for longer than you have and I think you can too.
It's kind of a nice way of saying, "**** if I know." heh
I take it very hard when some one says these things to me as well, but I actually am getting older and have heard it so many times and seen how little has changed over the years, that i realize, most of these people have actually probably dealt with even bigger problems, the only difference being that they may have been better suited to handle them and they are tougher than me.
It's kind of like how the strong man benches 300lbs effortlessly. Ask him how he does it and what does he say, "I just lift it". lol
...but don't worry, your going to die and so are they.
