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If there's one thing I'm good at, it's being a thorough weed man. I had several areas spotless of weeds last year...then it rained like once, and there goes all my hard work! :LOL:
For a sec… I was thinking Skafishy smokes!!?! My life is a lieee lol
 
For a sec… I was thinking Skafishy smokes!!?! My life is a lieee lol

I used to, actually. From 2006 to 2012 I smoked weed on and off. Sometimes I wouldn't smoke at all for a while, and then there would be times where I'd smoke every time I went out, several times in a row. And cigars/cigarettes/hookah at random times as well - though never regularly.

But apart from a few mess-ups (literally a few, like only two or three times that I can think of), I pretty much quit smoking of any kind,10 years ago from this year.

I don't know if I will never smoke weed ever again. It's just kind of been an indefinite hiatus, and the time has never felt right to go back, I haven't felt the need, and haven't been in the mood. But either way, I don't see myself going back to smoking anything with any regularity. Tobacco I'm pretty much going to avoid, unless there's something really special that I have to try once. Just not worth the health risk otherwise.

Beer on the other hand, I kind of miss - both the taste, and the buzz. I don't miss all the empty calories, though.
 
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I used to, actually. From 2006 to 2012 I smoked weed on and off. Sometimes I wouldn't smoke at all for a while, and then there would be times where I'd smoke every time I went out, several times in a row. And cigars/cigarettes/hookah at random times as well - though never regularly.

But outside of a few mess-ups (literally a few, like only twice that I can think of) I pretty much quit smoking of any kind,10 years ago from this year.

I don't know if I will never smoke weed ever again. It's just kind of been an indefinite hiatus, and the time has never felt right to go back, I haven't felt the need, and haven't been in the mood. But either way, I don't see myself going back to smoking anything with any regularity. Tobacco I'm pretty much going to avoid, unless there's something really special that I have to try once. Just not worth the health risk otherwise.

Beer on the other hand, I kind of miss - both the taste, and the buzz. I don't miss all the empty calories, though.
Well you are full… of surprises Mr Ska lool thats so interesting, I feel so boring I have never smoked anything lol people always assume im totally up for it though must be my im so tired look 😅

Yeahh I miss alcohol too… I miss the super sweet cocktails 🥺
 
Paying excessive attention to/nitpicking the slightest things I do, that don't ******* matter in the least.

I always want to sarcastically respond with "bored?", but I hold my tongue to keep the peace.
 
Excessively cheery people who are always seemingly happy and smiling and laughing and. . .ugh! "Shiny, Happy People" as I call them (and the R.E.M. song by the same name equally sucks).

They just come across as fake to me, and unrealistic and not in touch with their true emotions - always putting on a happy, positive face no matter what. OK, I get it - you want to be a positive person. Great. But everyone has a bad day once in a while - it's not going to kill you if you show up with a frown on your face. Embrace it!
 
Excessively cheery people who are always seemingly happy and smiling and laughing and. . .ugh! "Shiny, Happy People" as I call them (and the R.E.M. song by the same name equally sucks).

They just come across as fake to me, and unrealistic and not in touch with their true emotions - always putting on a happy, positive face no matter what. OK, I get it - you want to be a positive person. Great. But everyone has a bad day once in a while - it's not going to kill you if you show up with a frown on your face. Embrace it!
ugh yeah, the "good vibes only" folks. Some of them I noticed are into the secret/ the law of attraction thing and may be taking it too far in my opinion.
 
Excessively cheery people who are always seemingly happy and smiling and laughing and. . .ugh! "Shiny, Happy People" as I call them (and the R.E.M. song by the same name equally sucks).

They just come across as fake to me, and unrealistic and not in touch with their true emotions - always putting on a happy, positive face no matter what. OK, I get it - you want to be a positive person. Great. But everyone has a bad day once in a while - it's not going to kill you if you show up with a frown on your face. Embrace it!

I find most of those people to be vapid and annoying but it's commendable that they don't give in to bad moods. It's no different than staying disciplined about your workout or diet or whatever. I'm gonna make an exception for today turns into giving up for most people.
 
Excessively cheery people who are always seemingly happy and smiling and laughing and. . .ugh! "Shiny, Happy People" as I call them (and the R.E.M. song by the same name equally sucks).

They just come across as fake to me, and unrealistic and not in touch with their true emotions - always putting on a happy, positive face no matter what. OK, I get it - you want to be a positive person. Great. But everyone has a bad day once in a while - it's not going to kill you if you show up with a frown on your face. Embrace it!

Sorta playing Devil's Advocate here, and not really disagreeing with you, but I kinda had an opposite thought this morning -

I feel like people who try hard to be "edgy", offensive, cold, dark, mean, etc., "don't f with that guy!" etc., are a pet peeve of mine.

Not even just tough guys either because it's not just them that does it. A lot of, I guess, Internet nerd/hipster-y people act like that too. Only with them, it's less about physical toughness, risk taking, partying hard, and more like they're just too "good"/"cool"/cultured/sophisticated/elite, to be nice and friendly.

I just find it to be needless, this cold hard hostile attitude for no reason. Like I just saw some random FB profile that listed, for name pronunciation, "go fresia yourself". Idk, to me, that's not funny or clever, it's just spite for spite's sake.

Same with sarcasm, it's like, sure, a little is OK. But some people just do it too much, where it's almost all sarcasm all the time. I guess they are just too "cool" for everything. Which is sarcasm about too much sarcasm. But you get the point.

I also feel like casual meanness, is just boring. Would it kill these people to just, I don't know - be nice? Even a little? I didn't like it as a kid, I didn't understand why it was elevated as "cool" and the people that acted that way were considered "superior". I didn't care what they were good at or how much money or looks they had. I didn't like them then and I don't like them today.

OK rant over 😆
 
Sorta playing Devil's Advocate here, and not really disagreeing with you, but I kinda had an opposite thought this morning -

I feel like people who try hard to be "edgy", offensive, cold, dark, mean, etc., "don't f with that guy!" etc., are a pet peeve of mine.

Not even just tough guys either because it's not just them that does it. A lot of, I guess, Internet nerd/hipster-y people act like that too. Only with them, it's less about physical toughness, risk taking, partying hard, and more like they're just too "good"/"cool"/cultured/sophisticated/elite, to be nice and friendly.

I just find it to be needless, this cold hard hostile attitude for no reason. Like I just saw some random FB profile that listed, for name pronunciation, "go fresia yourself". Idk, to me, that's not funny or clever, it's just spite for spite's sake.

I also feel like casual meanness, is just boring. Would it kill these people to just, I don't know - be nice? Even a little?I didn't like it as a kid, I didn't understand why it was elevated as "cool" and the people that acted that way were considered "superior". I didn't care what they were good at or how much money or looks they had. I didn't like them then and I don't like them today.

OK rant over 😆
Yeah, I get that. Like the excessively cheery people, this is at the other end of the spectrum and equally comes across as fake. I think in both cases, these people use their 'public attitude' like a shield - it's done in order to protect themselves. Of course, some people like this really are ******** though. . .
 
Yeah, I get that. Like the excessively cheery people, this is at the other end of the spectrum and equally comes across as fake. I think in both cases, these people use their 'public attitude' like a shield - it's done in order to protect themselves. Of course, some people like this really are ******** though. . .

Yeah it's like, "look at me, I'm so cold and aloof, you can't approach me, you're not good enough". It's not cool to me, it's like, oh great, another egotist, with whom genuine connection is going to be impossible unless they deem me "good enough". Nothing to see here. Disappointing.

I think it's a little of both - a shield against potential problems, or also just that they're stuck up and full of themselves, just because they were dealt a high card or two (or just think they were).
 
Excessively cheery people who are always seemingly happy and smiling and laughing and. . .ugh! "Shiny, Happy People" as I call them (and the R.E.M. song by the same name equally sucks).

They just come across as fake to me, and unrealistic and not in touch with their true emotions - always putting on a happy, positive face no matter what. OK, I get it - you want to be a positive person. Great. But everyone has a bad day once in a while - it's not going to kill you if you show up with a frown on your face. Embrace it!
These type of people to me in my opinion,have not a care in the world and think that their lives are absolutely perfect.
 
I'm listing this because of it recently happening to me. When I'm being strung along, getting mixed signals and the person I'm dating not being completely honest with me. I'd be happier if they'd just be honest with me than waste my time. That way I can move on and perhaps meet other new guys in my life. Getting mixed signals is very cofusing and can mess with your head.
 
I'm listing this because of it recently happening to me. When I'm being strung along, getting mixed signals and the person I'm dating not being completely honest with me. I'd be happier if they'd just be honest with me than waste my time. That way I can move on and perhaps meet other new guys in my life. Getting mixed signals is very cofusing and can mess with your head.
Is it that you're wasting your time or is it upsetting that the person you want may not want you? Like they've drawn you in just enough to have hope(or some less depressing/desperate word). For me at least I feel like the whole wasting my time is like rationalizing. Like trying to find a reason that seems like something you're allowed to be mad at them for. Rather than the situation just sucks and you're powerless. I'm sincerely asking because I've recently had to come to terms with this as well. If I'm being honest with myself all of the wasting my time stuff is more like I wish I didn't have these feelings.
 
Non-rich conservatives. These people are just so ignorant and stupid.

With rich conservatives, it's like, I hate your views and think you're a smug, arrogant ******* that things just so happened to work out for, and could just as easily not have, and I hate even more that they will never admit it, because they are extreme individualists/egotists that think they are inherently superior beings and blatantly don't care to understand people's experiences and viewpoints outside their own. But at least it makes sense to me why you'd think that way.

With non-rich conservatives it's like, what are you even doing? What are you defending? The people and things that actually cause the conditions that make you miserable? Why? Some un-evolved, ass-backwards appeal to machismo? They keep working hard, keep being miserable, yet somehow still think THEY are the "chosen one" that things are somehow going to be different for. It's got to be that these guys are egotists too, they're just not successful ones like the rich conservatives. I think it's that Dunning-Kruger Effect again - these people are incompetent, but they don't realize it, and think they're actually competent, despite not getting anywhere.

I saw some random person today online talking about how "socialism is just for people that want free stuff" and "how no one who busts their ass would want it".

And I can't help but think, I don't know...

Have you ever noticed these days that you have to bust your ass MORE than you used to, just to have even LESS than you used to? If you have to bust your ass more, just so you can have less than you did before, doesn't that mean things are getting worse? And that maybe MORE busting your ass, isn't going to work, and isn't the answer?

Have you ever noticed how things seem to be getting worse and worse, faster and faster? And it's not a Republican or Democrat thing either, I've seen more than one of both now, and the result has always been the same - the middle class is left even more beat up than they were before. I can't remember a president since Clinton, where I've felt like things were better at the end of their term than they were at the start of it.

Do you remember how things weren't always this bad? How you used to be able to have a work life balance, and still get paid enough for a normal life? It's like people today don't remember the 90s and before, when things weren't as bad as they are now.

What if you had to bust your ass less? Don't you think you'd enjoy life more?
What if the people that say "you have to bust your ass more, that is the only solution" are lying, for their own benefit? What if they benefit from the conditions that cause your misery?

It's like they think that capitalism can't and doesn't fail people, only socialism does.
It makes sense that the people who suffered under communism don't like it - I don't blame them for that, I wouldn't like it either. It was really just brutal dictatorships that didn't care about its citizens either, and the top party people were just as bad as capitalists - it was just trading one bad guy for another. But people suffer under capitalism too. It's pretty bad, actually, unless you just so happen to be the "right" kind of person. But you can't tell these people this, because capitalism is more than just "the way it is" to them - it's their religion, and if you criticize it at all, to them it's blasphemy and they won't even consider it. Part of me thinks deep down, they know they're probably not going to get anywhere, but if they cling to capitalism hard enough, it will give them enough false hope to keep facing another day of bullshit. But if you criticize it, it's like you're taking their last shred of hope away, the last thing keeping them from total despair. So of course they fight for it. I wouldn't like being told I was hopeless either. I constantly struggle against that feeling that life is probably hopeless for me, too. That why would things be any different for me, than they are for everyone else, when I haven't been good at anything or had anything come to me naturally or easily either? Why would I think that somehow I'm the anomaly?

And another thing, I don't even consider myself a communist or socialist - I think what the Nordic countries have going on though, is pretty nice, from my admittedly cursory understanding of it. What I would like, is a bigger social safety net, and a society that actually supports self-actualization. Maybe then we'd see a reduction in crime, violence, and mental illness, if more people had lives that they actually cared about losing - cause clearly, this "bootstraps" bullshit isn't working for more and more people every year. Life's just becoming too much to handle for most people, unless you have considerably above-average intelligence to be able to do something highly skilled, or you're an A-list athlete, entertainer, or celebrity. It's like, I don't know, can't we make life LESS competitive? Wasn't that what technology was supposed to do, to free us from the brutal competition of survival of the fittest, and allow us to actually have lives? Can't we make society, a little more, I don't know...civilized, or nice?

And if that's too much, I'd at least like a return to how things were in the post-WW2 era through the 90s, at least economically (not socially).

It's really frustrating to see that people just don't get it. They think MOAR "hard work", MOAR competition is the answer, but I really think that all it's going to get them, is more stress, frustration, tiredness, and misery as they work harder and harder, only to be less and less able to keep up with the hamster wheel they're stuck on.
 
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That brings me to another pet peeve:

Being told that "I don't want to work hard", by people who do work hard, and still get nowhere anyway.

It's like, you do work hard, but still get nowhere and have nothing to show for it. You work hard, but all you get out of it is treading water in the same shitty situation, IF that - sometimes these people work hard, and still can't even hold where they are, but instead fall further and further behind despite their efforts. It looks like life isn't working out too well for you either. It's like, don't lecture me, because you clearly have problems of your own.

A question I've always had in life, is why do so many people not get anywhere, even though they're hard-working, have a positive attitude, do all the things like "time management" and scheduling, get up and go to bed early, almost never have any fun, etc. On paper, they're doing all the things they're supposed to do for success. But it practice, it's not working, because they're not getting anywhere. They're still stuck in crappy lives.

honeysuckle like this makes me afraid that life is all about what you were born with, inborn talent, natural strong traits, and dumb luck - and if you don't have any of that, like me, or like these people that work hard and get nowhere anyway, then it feels like your life is hopeless. I don't see how I can "hard work" my way out of being dealt no cards - they don't seem to be able to do it either. And especially because I'm not good at smooth-talking, lying, exaggerating, bullshitting, and making myself seem superior, which is how some people manage to get by in life despite not being that good at anything. Again, like cards, these people, usually guys but I guess some women can do it too, are good at bluffing about their competence and substance, and that's how they get by in life. But you have to have that competitive, antagonistic, cunning, manipulative mind to see things that way, though. I feel like I wasn't dealt the cards, AND I'm not good at bluffing, either.
 
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