VanillaCreme
Well-known member
Triple Bogey said:
Ah! So now you're okay with female friendships? That's good. One foot in front of the other, right...
Questions for the Men
- Thread starter Naleena
- Start date
Help Support Loneliness, Depression & Relationship Forum:
Ah! So now you're okay with female friendships? That's good. One foot in front of the other, right...
Triple Bogey
Well-known member
VanillaCreme said:
I might change my mind tomorrow !
JHK said:
No idea what you mean.
VanillaCreme
Well-known member
Triple Bogey said:
Friends with benefits. Sleep with each other, but aren't together in a committed relationship.
I've never meet a woman who can express friendship in an altruistic way. Friendship with a woman is like the friendship you have with your dentist or you accountant. You can get along and even have a good time, but the moment there isn't some kind of transaction behind it, they just forget about you. Female friends have never felt the need to defend some injustice against me (or anyone), they have never considered sacrificing their own comfort just that someone could catch a break. I know you're gonna say that that's a generalization. It's my experience and observation. To be fair, people in general are like this, not just women, but I find male friends much more trustworthy.
A
AmytheTemperamental
Guest
Xpendable said:
It sounds like you are looking for a mother more than a friend.
Triple Bogey
Well-known member
VanillaCreme said:
That's never going to happen to me.
VanillaCreme said:
Why are you offended that I don't really want female friends ?
I prefer to be by myself, I don't really want any close friends, male or female.
I prefer acquaintances and I have dozens of those.
VanillaCreme
Well-known member
Triple Bogey said:
It's not for everyone. Personally, I don't think I'd do friends with benefits either.
Triple Bogey said:
Umm... Did you not already reply to this?
Now, you're back to not understanding why female friends exists? Okay... if it suits you, I guess...
ardour
Well known loser
Women friends require a lot more awareness and effort. There's this subtext to conversation that women are well-versed, but most men are not and don't care about anyway. We just talk about what we're interested in and that's it. That and I've had experiences with female acquaintances suddenly turning on me so I'm wary about getting close now.
ardour said:
In a way that is true, I have female friends where it is strictly platonic and yes there is a difference in carrying on a conversation with a woman than a man. But, I have male friends where I've had very deep personal conversations with. Not as often but it's happened. Greatly depends on the person, I have female friends where conversations don't go that deep, feels like you are talking to a guy sometimes.
The only time the latter has ever happened to me is when it is a woman who has an interest in me and the feelings weren't shared. They seem to get offended and turn on you on a dime. They seem to take everything much more personally, even when after admitting to their interest in you and I made it clear that I don't have the same interest, they still hang on to that hope. That is in my experience anyway, happens every single time and it is very difficult to repair the friendship afterwards. It's like they still think in their heads that something might happen, or maybe in their minds you are in a relationship and they just make it up for their own needs. No idea. Could never figure that one out.
Oldyoung
Well-known member
- Joined
- May 11, 2012
- Messages
- 515
- Reaction score
- 4
Question for the men: the following question with genders reversed.
As for me. I would want to know this, more or less in this order:
Single? Shows interest in me? Does she like some sports? Does she like abstract discussions as much as I? Is she responsible or reckless? Kind to others or rude? Able to change her mind, easy to cooperate with? Flirty? Shares important values with me? Promiscuous or not?
And how I would try to find out: Meet up in real life. Go for a walk or do some activity where it's natural to chat. I would ask very soon if she was single. By her reaction to such a question from me, I would get a pretty good idea if she could be interested in me as more than a friend or not.
The rest I would find out throughout general conversation.
As for me. I would want to know this, more or less in this order:
Single? Shows interest in me? Does she like some sports? Does she like abstract discussions as much as I? Is she responsible or reckless? Kind to others or rude? Able to change her mind, easy to cooperate with? Flirty? Shares important values with me? Promiscuous or not?
And how I would try to find out: Meet up in real life. Go for a walk or do some activity where it's natural to chat. I would ask very soon if she was single. By her reaction to such a question from me, I would get a pretty good idea if she could be interested in me as more than a friend or not.
The rest I would find out throughout general conversation.
Oldyoung said:
This used to be such an easy question, back when one was young, dumb, and full of... Who the hell cares about anything except that she's hot and ready?!
Now I've grown up a bit... Single and interested are musts for all the obvious reasons. I don't really know who I am yet but for what I do know...
- Patient. I need someone with a lot of patience. More then is probably able to be stuffed into one person.
- Animals. They're a must. While I have none, I do a lot at shelters and rescues and vet clinics when I can. Preferably a lover of dogs and horses.
- Serious. I would, ideally, prefer something long term. So commitment.
- Music. It's a huge part of my life. Metal, yes? I would probably end up throwing myself out a window if she played Katy Perry all day.
Those are the three that really matter. There are ones that matter. And even music can be adjustable as long as she only listens to her crappy music in her own car... lol
The general rest - hopefully you prefer Dodges, indoors/outdoors, religion, hobbies, own house or with parents, cleanliess, etc... those are things you should be able to give and take in someone.
I found this and found it amusing. It's a bit gross and has alot of things about pee in it??? So fellas how many are true for you. Oh yeah and what is the nod all about?
http://www.knowable.com/a/20-things...2&tse_id=INF_8539704156e2494a8077df093b214224
http://www.knowable.com/a/20-things...2&tse_id=INF_8539704156e2494a8077df093b214224
1. Flush mid pee and race the toilet.
Never thought about it, maybe I should.
2. Fantasized about their female friends. Yes...all of them.
I don't have female friends, acquaintances maybe :s
3. When I'm in the shower, I like to cup the water to my chest then watch it splash to the floor.
Why?
4. Entering Beast Mode running up stairs while alone.
Only when you're 10.
5. Instead of using twist-ties to close bread, just spin the open end of the bag and tuck it underneath.
I don't have that type of bread.
6. Thought about freezing time.... and then doing naughty things to people.
Yes.
7. Every man has woken up with morning wood and had to do the leaning tower of pizza to hit the toilet.
Yes.
8. Checked online to see if their length is adequate.
Yes.
9. All men at one point in their lives have given The Nod TM to another man for one reason or another. They have also given it to a woman, only to receive a look of confusion.
Additionally, they were never taught The NodTM. It simply exists within them naturally.
10. Blow nose into hands in the shower.
A time saver.
11. Waft the bed covers to unsheathe a fart.
Women do this as well.
12. While peeing tried to cover entire surface of water with pee bubbles.
No.
13. When I write a comment on a girls Facebook, I re-read it a million times after sending it to make sure it doesn't sound dumb.
...and then it does.
I do first, but it's never dumb
14. Imagine how you would save your work place, school or whatever from terrorists.
Terrorists, a plane crash, a meteorite, zombies, war world III, monsters...
15. Looked at their poop when they finished. I mean sometimes you just need to enjoy the masterpiece you just created.
I have no talent to craft such art.
16. Watch romantic comedies alone. No one else can be present. No one can know.
I watched Sakura Card Captor and I'm not ashamed.
17. Take off my underwear and then kick it up into my hand and feel like a goddamn ninja master.
Yes.
18. Deleted their search history.
Icognito mode.
19. Aim your pee at the edge of the toilet water or higher to avoid people knowing your pissing
Only when you're in another person's house.
20. Tried to see how far away you can get whilst taking a pee and keeping it in the bowl.
About 3 feet.
Never thought about it, maybe I should.
2. Fantasized about their female friends. Yes...all of them.
I don't have female friends, acquaintances maybe :s
3. When I'm in the shower, I like to cup the water to my chest then watch it splash to the floor.
Why?
4. Entering Beast Mode running up stairs while alone.
Only when you're 10.
5. Instead of using twist-ties to close bread, just spin the open end of the bag and tuck it underneath.
I don't have that type of bread.
6. Thought about freezing time.... and then doing naughty things to people.
Yes.
7. Every man has woken up with morning wood and had to do the leaning tower of pizza to hit the toilet.
Yes.
8. Checked online to see if their length is adequate.
Yes.
9. All men at one point in their lives have given The Nod TM to another man for one reason or another. They have also given it to a woman, only to receive a look of confusion.
Additionally, they were never taught The NodTM. It simply exists within them naturally.
10. Blow nose into hands in the shower.
A time saver.
11. Waft the bed covers to unsheathe a fart.
Women do this as well.
12. While peeing tried to cover entire surface of water with pee bubbles.
No.
13. When I write a comment on a girls Facebook, I re-read it a million times after sending it to make sure it doesn't sound dumb.
...and then it does.
I do first, but it's never dumb
14. Imagine how you would save your work place, school or whatever from terrorists.
Terrorists, a plane crash, a meteorite, zombies, war world III, monsters...
15. Looked at their poop when they finished. I mean sometimes you just need to enjoy the masterpiece you just created.
I have no talent to craft such art.
16. Watch romantic comedies alone. No one else can be present. No one can know.
I watched Sakura Card Captor and I'm not ashamed.
17. Take off my underwear and then kick it up into my hand and feel like a goddamn ninja master.
Yes.
18. Deleted their search history.
Icognito mode.
19. Aim your pee at the edge of the toilet water or higher to avoid people knowing your pissing
Only when you're in another person's house.
20. Tried to see how far away you can get whilst taking a pee and keeping it in the bowl.
About 3 feet.
Triple Bogey
Well-known member
Serenia said:
What a load of rubbish !
Boring questions, nonsense, not remotely interesting or funny
