CenotaphGirl
Under the dirt, that’s my home ⚰️
Well it exists to them… that makes it real enough to me. I have tried to be friends with guys, they like it at first then it makes them feel depressed which is the part I never understood.
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It depends. IMO, if I and the other person understand up front that it's friends only period no matter what. Then it works just fine. But, if the woman is being flirty and maybe friends maybe more if.... Then friendships can be a problem unless it comes with benefits.
I actually prefer being friends with women. I do enough macho crap myself. I don't need to hear some guy tell me how macho he is. I want to talk about stuff I don't know about or have access too. I think that's why your relationship discussions go over so well on here. It's different.
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CenotaphGirl
Under the dirt, that’s my home ⚰️
Did I miss this? Not like me hmm how could I do such a thing, naughty Ceno."Fragile Male Ego" kind of only applies to less experienced men that didn't spend enough time after a breakup dissecting themselves first, and then applying that dissection to why that breakup occurred. We're not taught to do that, that's a personal choice. Some guys figure it out and some don't. The weird thing is that I have just as much of a mixed relationship with women as I did before and after I learned how to do this, I just handle the rollercoaster better than I used to, that's all. You go on a Loop The Loop enough times, eventually you know what to expect.
Girls kind of, seem to half hate this about me and half love this about me.
I don't overthink it, because I'm creative and my creativity is the comfort zone that always pulls me through regardless of outcomes.
Don't get me wrong, I don't hate women at all, as a creative and a man that's not really in me to succumb to.
Actually contrarily I'm quite fascinated by women. Which is why it's so easy for me to get lost if I don't check and balance myself.
It's a matter of quality over quantity.
It's just that most of the time, women don't expect that, so I end up being this weird anomaly of an enigma that I don't intend to be at all.
I think that's the thing though: I'm not looking, I just Am.
And because I just Am, that strikes women as different, because MOST men are looking.
That's what I mean by like I get read wrong a lot of the time.
Sometimes I think men give us tooo much credit or not enough lol I think on the most part we are both as confused, fragile, and vulnerable buttt I wont lie, not all women but deffo me expects men to handle how they feel completely opposite to how I do, if they dont it gets weird fast.
I think the issue is, some women feed off being the apple to a guys eye, in the past I’d feel offended if a guy wasnt willing to leave his wife for me, I’d get it into my head that im this amazing person for being nice enough to let her keep her husband not a total ***** for trying to steal him in the first place lol its that warped psychology behind a lot of women I feel some men are complaining about and women who arent like that are sick of getting painted with the same brush, although im no longer like that, I also have to keep myself in check because being like that, life was way easier than this exsistence Im living… so I always wanna go back to that subconsciously, its only through hearing men say how much women like that have hurt them, is how i figured out it was wrong.
CenotaphGirl
Under the dirt, that’s my home ⚰️
My Finished darling, see my thing is how can it come up though that its friend forever, I thought it was implied. Not even like age matters I was friends with this 40 year old virgin he met me at group counselling and we’d just text about his brother and family trouble and my recovery from the attack. He was really nice to me he sent me songs on my low days and Idk randomly fell in love with me… still stalks me, messages me all the time. But I know i didnt do anything to imply anything that time.
Wow! I was going to say, yeah if you keep it only about non-sexual stuff. But, obviously not. Maybe my threshold is higher. If a woman doesn't give me the come get me look or continually say I'm awesome and touch my arm or something. Then I don't even consider that a possibility. If they say they are with someone else then I don't consider them a possibility either. They need to be single and signalling me it's okay to proceed if I want to do so. Maybe that's why I had several female work friends. But, my ex-friend would get attached with the least amount of attention. So, I don't know.
CenotaphGirl
Under the dirt, that’s my home ⚰️
Like I swear, this has never been the case for me Finished and im not even as attractive as someone like my sister. But I could really trust a guy to be there for me and I for him and then he hits me with the i love you blah blah.. I never understood that loneliness can cause that.
And this is why I stand correct on female compartmentalization. Meaning she knows exactly in what category all the men in her life are. What men are to date, to be friends, and a small "maybe" that usually doesn't change. And those men very rarely go from one category to another.
CenotaphGirl
Under the dirt, that’s my home ⚰️
Hmm yeah, this is true to me, not sure about the rest lol But I deffo know what guys could possibly have a chance with me and what guys never will in a romantic way.
Until you change your mind every five seconds or so. Ha! Ha!
CenotaphGirl
Under the dirt, that’s my home ⚰️
Thats the one and only thing I dont change my mind on lool I dont even have a maybe if he lost weight section its just either a yes or never section
What if your, at the time, BF dumps you and you need some companionship?Thats the one and only thing I dont change my mind on lool I dont even have a maybe if he lost weight section its just either a yes or never section
CenotaphGirl
Under the dirt, that’s my home ⚰️
Hmm I still have men in my yes i would section but im not friends with them at all, i dont talk to them unless im single. My never section that im usually friends with can give me an ego boost by telling me how dumb my ex is and how any guy would be lucky to have me blah blah if they wish but thats as far as any of that would go.
the roof looks goodAwesome!!!! Your stable is full. Mine looks like this:
good bones
you could do a lot with that!
QUICK!!!! Shut the barn door. I think I have one trapped!!!!
I think I saw a couple of holes in the wall...
maybe you should rely on the desire to stay.... go on, do something awesome
CenotaphGirl
Under the dirt, that’s my home ⚰️
I cant stop laughing 
have you tried painting it pink?
have you tried painting it pink?
Oh crap! This one is going to give me a honey do list. Open the doors back up. She's a free ranger.
CenotaphGirl
Under the dirt, that’s my home ⚰️
Yeahh I was thinking it could be pink, fluffy throws on some pretty chairs lool maybe a lava lamp for nostalgia
