Questions for the Women

[VanillaCreme]

Assuming the guy has adequate dental hygiene, how big a turn off is "bad teeth"? I'm considering going to an orthodontist.

It's not a turn off to me. Just as long as the mouth is clean and generally healthy, it's fine to me. I don't have perfectly straight teeth, and as someone whose mom thought she should have, the years of braces I had, then to get them taken off and have my crooked tooth back... I quite like my crooked tooth. The same crooked tooth runs in my family.

 

[ardour]

How severe are we talking? I assume it's crooked teeth, since you said ortho...

Yeah, quite crooked. Too many teeth for too small a jaw. The two top front overlap at inward facing angles and one at the bottom front is pushed forward from the others. Although I'm fairly thorough cleaning and flossing, since they’re so crunched together plaque tends to accumulate between them easily. They stain really quickly too. Almost everyone else these days seems to have perfectly aligned, almost excessively white smiles.

 

[TheRealCallie]

How severe are we talking? I assume it's crooked teeth, since you said ortho...

Yeah,  quite crooked. Too many teeth for too small a jaw. The two top front overlap at inward facing angles and one at the bottom front is pushed forward from the others. Although I'm fairly thorough cleaning and flossing,  since they’re so crunched together plague tends to accumulate between them easily. They stain really quickly too. Almost  everyone else these days seems to have perfectly aligned, almost excessively white smiles.

I know people with teeth like that.  Hell, my ex has dentures because he didn't take care of his teeth and I was okay with that, so yeah, I don't think I'd have a problem.  But, what plague are we talking here...black, bubonic, pneumonic? 

(Sorry, couldn't resist that one.  The teeth thing is plaque )

 

[ardour]

ha..I carry the plague between my teeth...

 

[EveWasFramed]

ha..I carry the plague between my teeth...

Do they concern YOU? Would you like a different smile? I had an overbite. It bothered me. I got braces in my 30's. 

 

[ardour]

ha..I carry the plague between my teeth...

Do they concern YOU? Would you like a different smile? I had an overbite. It bothered me. I got braces in my 30's. 

I'm not sure. A bit. The dental hygienist thought it was worth having an assessment, but since my jaw is  narrow teeth may need to be removed in order to get braces, which isn’t a good option. Guess I could upload a front-on photo of my teeth… if you can stomach the thought.

 

[DarkSelene]

Guess I could upload a front-on photo of my teeth… if you can stomach the thought.

I wanna see it!

 

[EveWasFramed]

ha..I carry the plague between my teeth...

Do they concern YOU? Would you like a different smile? I had an overbite. It bothered me. I got braces in my 30's. 

I'm not sure.  A bit. The dental hygienist thought it was worth having an assessment, but since my jaw is  narrow teeth may need to be removed in order to get braces, which isn’t a good option. Guess I could upload a front-on photo of my teeth… if you can stomach the thought.

Upload away.   
I had to have two perfectly healthy teeth removed to have enough space to bring in my overbite. 
Unless You count my teeth, no one would ever know.

 

[Serephina]

Crooked teeth isn't a turn off,as long as they are clean,and they don't have really bad breath

 

[Jafo]

Why is it bigger women want men on dating sites to realize that not every woman is a size 2 and to give them a chance. But yet they never give an overweight guy a chance. Such hypocrisy.

 

[Xpendable]

I think this questions are missguided. You won't get the same answers especially since the demografic is different. What a woman may need in their 20' is not going to be needed at 40', for example. So asking for an opinion on teeth to someone who already has an entire life with pains and rewards on relationships and with more experience is not the same as aking a 19 year old if she thinks physical attributes are important. Of course the less dating options a woman has, the less picky she can be (and vice versa). You get what you project, if you're really attractive, pretty sure you will get together with someone of similar attractiveness. This happens with intelligence, career wise, tastes, socio-econimical background, etc. It's pointless to ask questions that the other side would never ask either. Meaning if you have good or bad teeth, the other person won't care as long as she/he is in a point in her/his life where it actually matters.

 

[kamya]

Why is it bigger women want men on dating sites to realize that not every woman is a size 2 and to give them a chance. But yet they never give an overweight guy a chance. Such hypocrisy.

Probably the same reason even most fat guys still prefer thinner women. Fat is not attractive.

Throw in the dating advantages given to women and you have your answer :O

I feel more sorry for the short guys than the fat guys.

Maybe eventually a woman will respond.

 

[Jafo]

Why is it bigger women want men on dating sites to realize that not every woman is a size 2 and to give them a chance. But yet they never give an overweight guy a chance. Such hypocrisy.

Probably the same reason even most fat guys still prefer thinner women. Fat is not attractive.

Throw in the dating advantages given to women and you have your answer :O

I feel more sorry for the short guys than the fat guys.

Maybe eventually a woman will respond.

Guess if you're short and fat then you're honeysuckle out of luck.

 

[TheRealCallie]

Why is it bigger women want men on dating sites to realize that not every woman is a size 2 and to give them a chance. But yet they never give an overweight guy a chance. Such hypocrisy.

Probably the same reason even most fat guys still prefer thinner women. Fat is not attractive.

Throw in the dating advantages given to women and you have your answer :O

I feel more sorry for the short guys than the fat guys.

Maybe eventually a woman will respond.

Guess if you're short and fat then you're honeysuckle out of luck.

That's not really a woman question, but a human race question, as men do it too. 

But, no, you aren't honeysuckle out of luck, you just won't be dating certain people.

 

[EveWasFramed]

Why is it bigger women want men on dating sites to realize that not every woman is a size 2 and to give them a chance. But yet they never give an overweight guy a chance. Such hypocrisy.

Every "bigger woman" isn't like that. I've gone out with men who were very overweight. I'm sure that's been your experience, based on your post, but it's not the case every time. I did dating sites for several years, so I speak from experience.

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I think this questions are missguided. You won't get the same answers especially since the demografic is different. What a woman may need in their 20' is not going to be needed at 40', for example. So asking for an opinion on teeth to someone who already has an entire life with pains and rewards on relationships and with more experience is not the same as aking a 19 year old if she thinks physical attributes are important. Of course the less dating options a woman has, the less picky she can be (and vice versa). You get what you project, if you're really attractive, pretty sure you will get together with someone of similar attractiveness. This happens with intelligence, career wise, tastes, socio-econimical background, etc.  It's pointless to ask questions that the other side would never ask either. Meaning if you have good or bad teeth, the other person won't care as long as she/he is in a point in her/his life where it actually matters.

I'll be 49 in two weeks. I have the exact same opinion about teeth as I had when I was 20.

 

[DarkSelene]

I think this questions are missguided. You won't get the same answers especially since the demografic is different. What a woman may need in their 20' is not going to be needed at 40', for example. So asking for an opinion on teeth to someone who already has an entire life with pains and rewards on relationships and with more experience is not the same as aking a 19 year old if she thinks physical attributes are important. Of course the less dating options a woman has, the less picky she can be (and vice versa). You get what you project, if you're really attractive, pretty sure you will get together with someone of similar attractiveness. This happens with intelligence, career wise, tastes, socio-econimical background, etc. It's pointless to ask questions that the other side would never ask either. Meaning if you have good or bad teeth, the other person won't care as long as she/he is in a point in her/his life where it actually matters.

This is a small demographic but valuable, every opinion will be stimulating if the subject matters to you -- also, being in the midst of anonymous strangers makes it easier to let honesty gush.
Womens needs and preferences regarding such specific topics will depend on so many things, and might change throughout their lives, isn't that one more reason to get as much knowledge of their perspective as possible - even if by reaching a small demographic?

 

[VanillaCreme]

Why is it bigger women want men on dating sites to realize that not every woman is a size 2 and to give them a chance. But yet they never give an overweight guy a chance. Such hypocrisy.

I don't mind bigger dudes. I lean more towards bigger guys, but I have no preference. That being said, I'm a big girl. Maybe I just want someone to eat with.

 

[Xpendable]

I think this questions are missguided. You won't get the same answers especially since the demografic is different. What a woman may need in their 20' is not going to be needed at 40', for example. So asking for an opinion on teeth to someone who already has an entire life with pains and rewards on relationships and with more experience is not the same as aking a 19 year old if she thinks physical attributes are important. Of course the less dating options a woman has, the less picky she can be (and vice versa). You get what you project, if you're really attractive, pretty sure you will get together with someone of similar attractiveness. This happens with intelligence, career wise, tastes, socio-econimical background, etc.  It's pointless to ask questions that the other side would never ask either. Meaning if you have good or bad teeth, the other person won't care as long as she/he is in a point in her/his life where it actually matters.

This is a small demographic but valuable, every opinion will be stimulating if the subject matters to you --  also, being in the midst of anonymous strangers makes it easier to let honesty gush.
Womens needs and preferences regarding such specific topics will depend on so many things, and might change throughout their lives, isn't that one more reason to get as much knowledge of their perspective as possible - even if by reaching a small demographic?

I disagree with the honesty part. I think there's no reason at all to be honest when you're a stranger on the internet, for me is just more virtue signaling. People saying something and then doing the opposite is nothing new.

Nilla: adecdotal means nothing.

 

[user 139760]

I have a deeply philosophical question I've always wanted to ask women and it's bothered me since I first started this whole relationship pursuit. It's a deeply entrenched psychological facet that speaks volumes about the internal workings of the mind....

If your boyfriend convinced you to dress up as a chicken in a suit...would you cluck, and WHY?!? ;-)

 

[TheRealCallie]

I have a deeply philosophical question I've always wanted to ask women and it's bothered me since I first started this whole relationship pursuit. It's a deeply entrenched psychological facet that speaks volumes about the internal workings of the mind....

If your boyfriend convinced you to dress up as a chicken in a suit...would you cluck, and WHY?!? ;-)

A boyfriend would have to force me into a chicken costume and then I'd likely peck out his eyes.....