Questions for the Women

[Bam111]

never mind edited comment.

 

[Claudia1794]

I would imagine it's like Richard said. There have been people as young as 11 that I know of here, so it's just one of those things that you have to censor yourself. Maybe if you put it in code that we could still understand but a kid couldn't? You could also sneak into the chat room and discuss it, we have a room specifically for no one under 18 (no porn allowed, though).

Thank you Callie. I figured you would have an answer. I assure you it was not pornographic, about a sexual relationship, yes. While I am still interested in talking to women who have been in my situation I've accepted that this is not the place to do it.

 

[TheRealCallie]

Thank you Callie. I figured you would have an answer. I assure you it was not pornographic, about a sexual relationship, yes. While I am still interested in talking to women who have been in my situation I've accepted that this is not the place to do it.

Feel free to PM me if you want. Not sure if I've been in the situation or not, but I'd be willing to at least listen.

 

[ringwood]

^ Ditto to what Callie said. Feel free to PM if you want a listening ear.

 

[Azariah]

Did you know that a man can make love to a woman without using his private part?????

He just needs to get creative. Breathe up the spine, caress with the hands, make shapes on her back. Think intimate, erotic. I learned all this at a strip club.

 

[user 8428]

Did you know that a man can make love to a woman without using his private part?????

He just needs to get creative. Breathe up the spine, caress with the hands, make shapes on her back. Think intimate, erotic. I learned all this at a strip club.

****. you must be a pimp. Tell us more sensei.

 

[Azariah]

****. you must be a pimp. Tell us more sensei.

Introducing the love 'Dove', Caitlin V https://www.youtube.com/c/CaitlinV

 

[Cherubino]

Did you know that a man can make love to a woman without using his private part?????

He just needs to get creative. Breathe up the spine, caress with the hands, make shapes on her back. Think intimate, erotic. I learned all this at a strip club.

it could work for ladies in wheel chair ... https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Touch_Me_Not

 

[Finished]

Okay, here's a question.

How can a guy tell if a woman smiles at him as if to say.........
I would like you to come talk to me or I'm just smiling because I'm polite, please don't come over here?

Every once in awhile a woman will smile at me and we make eye contact. My hormones tell me that she's interested. But, my brain tells me she's just being polite. So, I just smile back and nod. Then I start thinking I missed an opportunity. Then the next day I'm glad I didn't approach her and everything goes back to normal. But, I still wonder if I'm completely missing opportunities.

 

[Claudia1794]

Okay, here's a question.

How can a guy tell if a woman smiles at him as if to say.........
I would like you to come talk to me or I'm just smiling because I'm polite, please don't come over here?

Every once in awhile a woman will smile at me and we make eye contact. My hormones tell me that she's interested. But, my brain tells me she's just being polite. So, I just smile back and nod. Then I start thinking I missed an opportunity. Then the next day I'm glad I didn't approach her and everything goes back to normal. But, I still wonder if I'm completely missing opportunities.

That's interesting because my son said the same thing about girls smiling at him. He had a little thing eye flirting, smiling and blushing at him at a restaurant the other night. When we got back in the car I asked why he didn't chat her up and his reply was she was just being nice. Ive mentioned going back to see if she is working and its good food anyway but he still thinks it was all out of politeness. My thing is, you will never know unless you ask. What's it hurt to ask? So yes, I'm going with its missed opportunities.

 

[Cherubino]

that's one thing I love about Europe and in Scandinavia so much more ... you are not culturally "compelled" to smile or make eye contact ... I think you should engage in a smiling&staring contest and if she holds it she's interested

 

[Cherubino]

oops now I see this is for women

 

[ardour]

That's interesting because my son said the same thing about girls smiling at him. He had a little thing eye flirting, smiling and blushing at him at a restaurant the other night. When we got back in the car I asked why he didn't chat her up and his reply was she was just being nice. Ive mentioned going back to see if she is working and its good food anyway but he still thinks it was all out of politeness. My thing is, you will never know unless you ask. What's it hurt to ask?

I would say your son is right. Smiling and being friendly is a mandatory part of most service sector jobs. If you're a regular they make extra effort as if you actually knew each other.

They have to do this or they could lose their jobs. Everyone knows it's fake but they have no choice but to go through the motions.

So unless he's getting unmistakable signals from someone in particular this isn't a good idea. Asking girls/women out who are working is deemed harassment these days.

 

[TheRealCallie]

That's interesting because my son said the same thing about girls smiling at him. He had a little thing eye flirting, smiling and blushing at him at a restaurant the other night. When we got back in the car I asked why he didn't chat her up and his reply was she was just being nice. Ive mentioned going back to see if she is working and its good food anyway but he still thinks it was all out of politeness. My thing is, you will never know unless you ask. What's it hurt to ask? So yes, I'm going with its missed opportunities.

Ardour has basically already proven my point. Certain guys will always just think women are being nice, so they won't take a chance. What they don't understand is, like you said, you lose out on 100% of the opportunities you don't go for. Maybe she will say no, maybe she was just being polite, but what if she wasn't?

The only difference between guys who do this is how long they continue to not take a chance. If they let fear of rejection/bitterness hold them back.

I have had several guys tell me they never thought they would have a chance with me, that I would never give them the time of day, but they took the chance anyway. Obviously, it didn't work out, since I'm still single, but it wasn't because of how they looked or what I was doing or any of that superficial bullshit.

 

[user 135671]

So unless he's getting unmistakable signals from someone in particular

Sorry I know this thread is ' questions for the women ' but I'm really curious, what are the unmistakable signals?.

 

[TheRealCallie]

Sorry I know this thread is ' questions for the women ' but I'm really curious, what are the unmistakable signals?.

Showing their boobs? Big sign on the forehead saying their name?

 

[user 139760]

Showing their boobs? Big sign on the forehead saying their name?

Do you speak out of personal experience?

 

[user 135671]

Showing their boobs? Big sign on the forehead saying their name?

Ah that's what that's about then, I thought it might be some kinda feminism thing so haven't been approaching them.

 

[ardour]

Sorry I know this thread is ' questions for the women ' but I'm really curious, what are the unmistakable signals?.

Asking personal questions. Trying to be funny. Embarrassment, nervousness etc. Dropping hints like what she does in her spare time (gives him an opening)

But certainly not a forced smile and "so how was your day?"

 

[Cherubino]

Actually conquering the girl is really the easiest part of the process, the tricky part is to keep her ... so the hesitation may come from the subconscious fact that you don't really know what you truly wish to happen further ... well besides sex