LiLeila said:
You can't be shy and quiet. You must talk with people without any problems. You should be funny. You must have a job. Show that woman can feel safe with you. You should be strong, least a little, for sure stronger than her. You should know what do you want (in future or even what do you want to eat for a dinner). You can't complain. You can't have addictions. You have to be assertive. You should be brave.
Well, there is many ways without being a cock.
Women are too complicated for any questions I think. You must always play games with them. They are unpredictable. And evil as I said.
And I hear the whip crack.
Not sure if it is just me, but I sure find it odd that you describe a big, tough dominate male when it seem's like you have such a alpha personaility.
Not that I know anything. I can't decide if I think you really are the dominate or just really need to be dominated for some reason.
I should think we should all be able to express how we feel ("complain") or need guidance ("know what we what") or not be perfect nor feel the need to be a complete waste ("addictions").
I'm not saying we shouldn't be strong and brave and all the things a male typically is for a women - there isn't much I wouldn't do or haven't done and probably still will... But I'm not all that.
I get that I'm too needy and insecure. I'll try my hardest but I know that there is no way she'll stay with me. I've always been the sad beaten down addict. You raise a hand to her and I'll rip you apart but sometimes (most times) I need more assurance that I really mean something because I am just that - quiet, sad, indecisive, addict.
Would it really matter that I was raised to be seen and not heard, that what I am and what I doesn't matter. It won't ever change because I won't be good enough. For them, or anyone.
So it starts okay until I start to become too much because it isn't easy to change my mindset and I see her giving up on me and it reinforces it all, but I let her play it along until I get left behind again because it seems that's where I'll always be, because I just can't find someone who can stay with me long enough to help me prove me wrong. Because maybe they can't.
But it's hard always being strong for someone else all the time. That was my point.
TheRealCallie said:
Mhm, you and your unnecessary u's....
A bit off topic, but I couldn't help but notice this candour dialouge and I had to direct a question to you, Callie.
This neighbour put an awful lot of labour lately into being the new crime watch leader. His behaviour has changed, and it is hard to gauge where his head is. We have been keeping a catalouge of his new "flavours" of the week - which seem to be getting really colourful.
None of that makes sense and there is no question - just some spelling that is correct.
We also add a lot of L's and E's...
Tranquilluze, saleable, counsellor, cancelled, acknowledgement, brunette, gruelling...
But you know it is marvellous.