Then perhaps you misunderstood me. It's not my fault that there are too many scammers, bots, catfish, liars, fakes and psychos, or that the sites pursue your money as best they can, or that there is a misuse of reporting users and an unfairness in penalising users. That's a site issue.
How? If you don't mind my asking.
How did I attract them? I'm guessing they might've liked my picture and then were happy with our conversation.
I saw your picture in the picture thread.
That picture is too recent to compare in my opinion, but I can't say what women like as far as looks goes. For the amount of work I did on such sites, my hit ratio was barely worth mentioning, but like anything, you throw enough hooks in the water you're to get a bite eventually. Today I don't use any apps or sites or bother with trying to meet women for dates, but I have worked on myself a great deal, mentally and physically, and I have found that I'm engaging with women a lot easier than I have in the past. Also, getting a date doesn't mean you're starting a relationship. The very few dates I did have never went beyond a second date except for one, but I called that one to an end myself due to her being a bit nuts. My advice - get yourself in order first and let the world come to you.
Agreed, but it does mean they have that initial attraction.
Well, there’s many people in the world and each of them have a variety of things they are attracted to, so mathematically speaking, eventually there has to be someone that finds something about you attractive. The thing is, you have to make sure you’re putting your best foot forward, whatever that takes; better dress sense, better hygiene, tidying up your appearance, getting fitter, talking more coherently, being more charming, being less confrontational, and so on and so forth. Ask yourself honestly what you could work on and then work on it. If you can’t be honest with yourself then ask someone to be honest with you.
- better dress sense - In the 90s I wore $400-$500 suits to work every day. I had about 10 suits in my closet back then. And even after the "business casual" thing took over, I still to this day wear a shirt, tie and dress slacks to the office.
I just don't have any desire to seek out anyone for a date at the moment and my situation is too tricky currently to accommodate it to be honest. I'd rather work on myself some more first. If an interaction occurs, I wouldn't dismiss it, but I wouldn't chase it. I would let it grow organically if anything. It's still good to practice your communication skills and engagement with people. Let them like you for who you are without any perceived intentions.
Absolutely yes, I am "shallow".
I do understand and don't condemn you for it.
I agree I dont like men who I find too “submissive” I like some aggression
but has to be to everyone else but me
talk to me nice or dont speak at all 
I'm highly defensive...probably the worst and least "attractive" form of aggression...I agree I dont like men who I find too “submissive” I like some aggression
Lol as long as its not to “her” i dont see why its a issue
It's the difference between a charging lion (the "chad" types) vs a badger who's been backed up against a cliff (me).Lol as long as its not to “her” i dont see why its a issue
Well you can be shallow re a womans looks, up to you, but dont complain when they are the same re your age, looks or bank balance. Bank balance is not even shallow, as a serious relationship usually leads to living together or marriage and if a guy cant afford to take care of his woman he has no right to date her. I know some very hard working, smart, wealthy ladies. But none that would take on a guy who wants to be kept. lol. I chuckled at the bit about you are not rude to ugly or plain or overweight women. They may be the same with you based on how you talk, looks or other stuff. We have a very old man who lives near us who must be the ugliest man in the world. He dresses terribly, he smells, there is nothing whatsoever positive about him. The other day he told me that he is very picky about women and wont talk to any who are over 50 or plain! He should be so lucky. I Choose who I talk to for more than twenty seconds based on common sense, intelligence, knowledge and wit. We are all different.
