I'm never ashamed to be in love. It angers me when others express shame for the feelings I'm not ashamed of, because I feel as though they believe mine are shameful as well. Maybe this is narcissistic of me but when others express insecurity or any negative feelings/opinions about their own traits, and I happen to share those traits, I feel like they're insulting me. I consider it a personal offense. Because if you think it's bad of YOU, then you must think it's bad of ME. If you consider it a weakness or flaw in yourself, then you must consider it a weakness or flaw in ME.
Even if it's actually a strength of MINE and a positive trait of MINE.
I guess I see now why I'm not the easiest person to talk to as a friend, in many cases. If someone criticizes themselves, I'm likely to get offended, defensive, and even hostile toward them. I demand that they show ME the respect of changing how they view themselves, to match how I view myself. Otherwise, I take it as criticism of ME.
Yep. I'm like this.