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Nyktimos
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I'm glad I'm a man when it comes to finding a partner. I have trust issues, and while I've known plenty of women who can't be trusted, among my male friends and colleagues the total acceptance of infidelity where-ever and whenever one can get away with it (as well as the acceptance of such a man's disgust with his partner when she is unfaithful) is distressing. I've known men leave their partners because they've cheated, while those same men have regular 'bits on the side', and also cheat with other women when opportunity allows.
I have! Just to end the ordeal. Am I a bad person? It's not that easy for a man to fake an orgasm without being found out.
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I have! Just to end the ordeal. Am I a bad person? It's not that easy for a man to fake an orgasm without being found out.
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As I am a female I cannot say whether or not males have it better. Although, putting yourself out there is one thing that I've found that works. If you dont put yourself out there and you run from any sort of rejection, there is no chance of acception.
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Nyktimos said:
I can't even imagine how a guy would go about faking it realistically. Women definitely have the advantage there. ha!
And no, it doesn't make you a bad person. Sometimes enough is enough and it's time to go to sleep.
Yeah I know. I am so going to Hell for that little comment....
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Anime girlboy pretty much nailed it on the 2nd page.
Even though it is considered "the man's job" to make all the effort with approaching etc, it actually looks much more acceptable for a woman to approach a man on the basis that she wouldn't look a creep and that they are least likely to get rejected. I find men desire female companionship more than women desire men. There is nothing more hurtful and deadly than being turned down by a woman you find attractive imo and if it was to happen at all to a female they deal with it alot better as they usually have access to other male networks and men in quite alot of cases don't have vice versa.
You also hear girls going on about there are no nice guys out there and all us guys wanna do is use them, **** them and treat them like **** but tbh niceness isn't where they are looking, from what I have seen they are subcontiously attracted to men with the attitude and the "I'm better than you" way of thinking. So they end up with the bad boy type guy and then they get hurt, simple as that really. Nice guys like myself are seen as boring but the truth is some nice guys just don't open up straight away and remain on a "experimental level" until they get to know the person abit more. This is pretty much normal behavior in alot of people because they remain wary of people they don't really know well, crush's and general friends alike. Why should I act all wild and crazy around someone I don't know very well when I know they could get a different and possibly negative perspective of me?
Now in majority of first meet cases, men are attracted more by the physical appearance of women but it doesn't have to be supermodel standard. It's just on a priotity chart physical attraction comes first for most men but we only judge if your relationship material by your attitude, but it has to be a nice, fun lovin attitude, none of that head buried in your arse trait like alot of women are attracted to, and because of this men don't suddenly move on and are more tolerant of girls opening up to them.
Alot of the time, the nice guy isn't given chances and you notice the girl moving on slowly but surely, to the next guy in her network who they think is more interesting and then the game playing starts and the cycle starts all over again.
Why do women feel they have to look just like the models in the magazines? Big ****s makes no difference to my perception of a girl. What do you think men are attracted to more, the woman who is conceited because she looks like something out of FHM and isn't her real self but a fake, thinks her **** doesn't smell bitch? Or the more average look who is nice and herself and is seen as more relationship material?
I'm not saying all women are like this but there is a definate majority of women who are.
Even though it is considered "the man's job" to make all the effort with approaching etc, it actually looks much more acceptable for a woman to approach a man on the basis that she wouldn't look a creep and that they are least likely to get rejected. I find men desire female companionship more than women desire men. There is nothing more hurtful and deadly than being turned down by a woman you find attractive imo and if it was to happen at all to a female they deal with it alot better as they usually have access to other male networks and men in quite alot of cases don't have vice versa.
You also hear girls going on about there are no nice guys out there and all us guys wanna do is use them, **** them and treat them like **** but tbh niceness isn't where they are looking, from what I have seen they are subcontiously attracted to men with the attitude and the "I'm better than you" way of thinking. So they end up with the bad boy type guy and then they get hurt, simple as that really. Nice guys like myself are seen as boring but the truth is some nice guys just don't open up straight away and remain on a "experimental level" until they get to know the person abit more. This is pretty much normal behavior in alot of people because they remain wary of people they don't really know well, crush's and general friends alike. Why should I act all wild and crazy around someone I don't know very well when I know they could get a different and possibly negative perspective of me?
Now in majority of first meet cases, men are attracted more by the physical appearance of women but it doesn't have to be supermodel standard. It's just on a priotity chart physical attraction comes first for most men but we only judge if your relationship material by your attitude, but it has to be a nice, fun lovin attitude, none of that head buried in your arse trait like alot of women are attracted to, and because of this men don't suddenly move on and are more tolerant of girls opening up to them.
Alot of the time, the nice guy isn't given chances and you notice the girl moving on slowly but surely, to the next guy in her network who they think is more interesting and then the game playing starts and the cycle starts all over again.
Why do women feel they have to look just like the models in the magazines? Big ****s makes no difference to my perception of a girl. What do you think men are attracted to more, the woman who is conceited because she looks like something out of FHM and isn't her real self but a fake, thinks her **** doesn't smell bitch? Or the more average look who is nice and herself and is seen as more relationship material?
I'm not saying all women are like this but there is a definate majority of women who are.
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I think women love the useless ******** because they feel "wow he's such a rebel, if i can get him to like me i would sure feel special" ha wow that sounds cruel, but i assume it has something to do with being like that.
I'm not overweight, look after myself and worry about my appearance and cloths i wear. But I'm no guy from those vampire chronicle things so I'm at disadvantage. Us males have the same media standards to live up to. But I think being a over weight girl would be ten times worse than being an over weight guy. As a guy i look for a healthy mate both mentally and physically. I can deal with depression and such because that can be over come. If I'm not attracted to her at all it's no more a relationship than what you have with a friend. I think inside you think "what if i had a kid with this women, she can't cook, doesn't clean, doesn't work....I'd have to do everything." I believe a relationship is a 2 way street, but i've met many women who can't do anything but go shopping and spend dad's money.
Moral of the story, if your a thin women with just a tad bit of shape to you, the world is your oyster. As for male, we can possess all these qualities and more, and still can't even get a women to look twice at us.
I'm not overweight, look after myself and worry about my appearance and cloths i wear. But I'm no guy from those vampire chronicle things so I'm at disadvantage. Us males have the same media standards to live up to. But I think being a over weight girl would be ten times worse than being an over weight guy. As a guy i look for a healthy mate both mentally and physically. I can deal with depression and such because that can be over come. If I'm not attracted to her at all it's no more a relationship than what you have with a friend. I think inside you think "what if i had a kid with this women, she can't cook, doesn't clean, doesn't work....I'd have to do everything." I believe a relationship is a 2 way street, but i've met many women who can't do anything but go shopping and spend dad's money.
Moral of the story, if your a thin women with just a tad bit of shape to you, the world is your oyster. As for male, we can possess all these qualities and more, and still can't even get a women to look twice at us.
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I don't know women have it better or not, but I voted for yes (I think, when this poll was open), so I would choose to become a woman and prove myself wrong that grass is greener on the other side.
That and I hope my genes are better off as a female, maybe it'll end with great effects and that I'd be a better female than a male (doubt it), being a dude is stupid crap anyway. I'd see what getting rid of those testosterone would do for me.
That and I hope my genes are better off as a female, maybe it'll end with great effects and that I'd be a better female than a male (doubt it), being a dude is stupid crap anyway. I'd see what getting rid of those testosterone would do for me.
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cheaptrickfan said:
I faked one once. I was having trouble reaching orgasm so I faked one. I don't know if it worked or not..I can "flex" down there to make it seem like I'm having orgasm. I just stopped what I was doing, flexed 6 or 7 times, and got rid of the condom before she could see it.
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Jesse said:
Oh, yeah. A condom would make it easier to conceal the evidence, so to speak.
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I think if you go by just pure ability to get with a new partner on the fly then yeah i would say females have it easier.
I wouldnt say that they dont have to put in any work in at all but i think if they flaunt themselves enough more guys are going to gravitate towards them than what a female would do to towards a male. Of course the quality of the 'guy' a girl meets will probably be on the less desirable side naturally if it was just one that got their attention because they shook their ass with a pouty face. Girls will still be restricted to their potential mates based on their current physiological appearance just like everyone else though. A fat girl isnt ever going to get with a guy that works out hours a day to build a body for himself. When people are in between partners and looking for a new one they generally start with high expectations and work their way down till they can get with someone that will actively put out for them. Someone might say "i thought you would never even go there with that girl" a response would be "i havent been laid in a month i really dont care who im having sex with atm as long as im having it with someone".
Sex wise i think guys are more inclined to do it at the drop of a hat while females are more situational in their mood waiting till the time is right to do it. As for performance in bed i think it all comes down is arousal level not the size of your partners dick. Penises dont have to be 6 ft long and have the ability to break a girl in half im sure the average size is enough to get the average girl off. Since girls are more emotional in their arousal level might be why they seem to have more trouble getting off to someone. And the fact that the girl is usually the one that just sits there and take it after foreplay is over will a guy just motorboat her to death till he orgasms. Probably why girls feel like they get the short end of the stick in bed. I say be active in bed just like your mate of course if you just lie their like a dead body every time during sex will you eventually feel less fulfilled. Be dirty with your genitals like your mate with each other take turns being the lead person during the copulative acts get yourself in the mood to have sex dont just have it to be having it. Almost always sex with a new partner is always hot if it wasnt then people would never stay together long enough to have kids because they would become tired with each other after their first lay. Arousal will dictate how any act of sex is ultimately from orgasm to everything that leads up to it. More or less the 'mood' you currently are in which seems more a mental thing for women than it is for men beyond what you are doing to them at the time. I think though that wemon my sometimes focus on the act of sex as something they just have to do more than a man does. Sometimes even more so than a man a woman might have the individual urge to just have it rammed between her legs no questions asked. When a girl wants to have sex a man will know it as she will flaunt herself more than she might usually if she were in fact in some sort of overly horney mood even more than a guy would.
Sex is sex why people think you need a phd to be good at it is beyond me. All animals on this planet have been having sex for hundreds of millions of years im sure nature would have figured out how to make it as easy as possible by now. Society makes sex to be some big thing that only a few of the 6, 5 porn stars in the world are good at. Actually out of all the porn ive watched in my life not once did I think the girl in the movie was actually getting off to it no matter how big the guys penis was that was giving it to her. So obviously is more physiological than anything.
I wouldnt say that they dont have to put in any work in at all but i think if they flaunt themselves enough more guys are going to gravitate towards them than what a female would do to towards a male. Of course the quality of the 'guy' a girl meets will probably be on the less desirable side naturally if it was just one that got their attention because they shook their ass with a pouty face. Girls will still be restricted to their potential mates based on their current physiological appearance just like everyone else though. A fat girl isnt ever going to get with a guy that works out hours a day to build a body for himself. When people are in between partners and looking for a new one they generally start with high expectations and work their way down till they can get with someone that will actively put out for them. Someone might say "i thought you would never even go there with that girl" a response would be "i havent been laid in a month i really dont care who im having sex with atm as long as im having it with someone".
Sex wise i think guys are more inclined to do it at the drop of a hat while females are more situational in their mood waiting till the time is right to do it. As for performance in bed i think it all comes down is arousal level not the size of your partners dick. Penises dont have to be 6 ft long and have the ability to break a girl in half im sure the average size is enough to get the average girl off. Since girls are more emotional in their arousal level might be why they seem to have more trouble getting off to someone. And the fact that the girl is usually the one that just sits there and take it after foreplay is over will a guy just motorboat her to death till he orgasms. Probably why girls feel like they get the short end of the stick in bed. I say be active in bed just like your mate of course if you just lie their like a dead body every time during sex will you eventually feel less fulfilled. Be dirty with your genitals like your mate with each other take turns being the lead person during the copulative acts get yourself in the mood to have sex dont just have it to be having it. Almost always sex with a new partner is always hot if it wasnt then people would never stay together long enough to have kids because they would become tired with each other after their first lay. Arousal will dictate how any act of sex is ultimately from orgasm to everything that leads up to it. More or less the 'mood' you currently are in which seems more a mental thing for women than it is for men beyond what you are doing to them at the time. I think though that wemon my sometimes focus on the act of sex as something they just have to do more than a man does. Sometimes even more so than a man a woman might have the individual urge to just have it rammed between her legs no questions asked. When a girl wants to have sex a man will know it as she will flaunt herself more than she might usually if she were in fact in some sort of overly horney mood even more than a guy would.
Sex is sex why people think you need a phd to be good at it is beyond me. All animals on this planet have been having sex for hundreds of millions of years im sure nature would have figured out how to make it as easy as possible by now. Society makes sex to be some big thing that only a few of the 6, 5 porn stars in the world are good at. Actually out of all the porn ive watched in my life not once did I think the girl in the movie was actually getting off to it no matter how big the guys penis was that was giving it to her. So obviously is more physiological than anything.
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eleven said:
Size matters in a different way than most would think. I know you're not giving the average answer here; I'm just adding a little bit.
Both men and women have different sizes of equipment- small, medium, and large. The size of the man's third leg doesn't matter as much as the match of the two partners, though that doesn't mean a man who's smaller than the lady can't please her. A man who's larger than the lady can hurt her though if he isn't careful.
To me I'd have to say women have it easier as far as getting into a relationship goes. Just look at how many males post on sites like these compared to women that they are 20 or older,still a virgin, and have never had a girlfriend. Although if women are looking for a deep relationship where the guy just isn't after only sex than I'd have to say its about equal in my book because there can be a lot of jerks out there. To be honest though I can't stand hearing that there aren't any nice guys out there that won't treat a girl like crap. There are plenty of us out there you just overlook us and go for the constant hot guy with an attitude.Sorry I do know there are girls out there who don't overlook these type of guys but it seems so few and far between just like nice guys it seems. Its like a no win situation for both sides.
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I actually kinda feel sorry for the guys... not all but alot of girls treat guys shallow like the nice guys when they dont deserve to be. When I watch those wedding shows and the girl is a total monster and the poor guy just standing in the background and will do anything to see her not complain and be happy and content for once, i just feel so bad for the guys you know that cant last eventually they are gonna prefer to be alone then to be hassled everyday then the girl goes and cries about it like its all his fault for being a jerk then like ten guys feel sorry for her and want to comfort her. I really dont get it. I would never want to be a guy cause if i was a guy i'd probably just go live in a mountain and have a pet dog for company haha its tough for guys to distinguish between real women and ******* cause ******* are like 75% and real like 25%. thats just my personal opinion lol i hope i dont make myself hated on here for saying that. Real women are great, they are my best friends, they have thier flaws and everyone is a bitch at some point but as long as its not a lifestyle then you're good. Personally I don't think emotional or shy guys are worth any less then anyone else, I love shy guys i think they are so cute but i barely ever meet any because im not bold enough to approach someone, maybe if i lose weight. I think its much easier for an overweight guy to find a girlfriend/wife then it is for an overweight woman to find a husband/boyfriend because of all the preassure on the guy, his friends will make fun of him for going out with the fat chick and his parents will tell him 'you could have done better than that' for the girl no one really pokes fun at her boyfriend unless he does something gross like pick his nose and eat it eww haha, at least not my friends wouldn't. I have to lose like a hundred pounds before any guy will look at me i guess thats why im on the lonely forum lol, i got dumped for being fat lol, im sad, i hope i dont regret posting this haha, im just really sad... cause theres guys at work that act like they really like me and are super nice and single and they smile and talk and are really cute but they are too embarrassed to be made fun of for being with the fat chick. When I say really cute i mean cause they have very nice personality and average looks just like all of you on the 'lets see the faces' page and thier personality just makes them so cute!!!! guys if you shower, brush your hair, brush your teeth, and wear clean clothes and be yourself you're cute!!! girls its like, gotta do your hair, makeup, cant eat mcdonalds cause you'll get fat, lol ok im done, im gonna stop typing now hahahaha
the nice thing about being a guy is you can just stop... its easy to start a new. lifes pretty unfair how sex, emotions, and society dont seem to weigh down on guys like it does women. i know women cheat. seems like men cheat more though. men dont seem to be as emotional. there arent as many hurtful words for men as there are for women. other then marriage and morals, theres little to bound a man to another. its pretty lonely and easy to become runner from problems. women get another rush of hormones for nurturing after child birth. guys dont get anything during the process. would be the same as masturbating... youre not really involved. because of that. most courts give the child to the mother during divorce because shes better suited. i know of many men in their 40s and 50s with children by another woman who they 'visit' but now have a new family that he lives with. its a shame. but less stressful. i can understand why women wait. what i cant understand is women who dont wait... im pretty sure sex isnt that good, to risk so much for it casually.
