TheSkaFish
Jedi Guardian
TheRealCallie said:I'm not faulting you for saying that you don't think it's a good idea. Personally, I don't think it is either, but to each their own.
BUT, what I have an issue with is that you basically keep insisting that if you go to an escort, you will get a disease. This is not true. Aside from that, you can get a disease from anyone. Honestly, someone could get a disease from YOU (generalized you, not saying you have an STD here), unless you have been tested for everything. There are some STDs, such as HPV, that don't often show symptoms for men, but if a woman gets it, it could and likely does cause a lot of problems, such as cancer. This is what happened to my cousin.
Thank you for taking a less aggressive tone. I'm not so much saying that if you see a prostitute that you WILL get sick, I'm just saying, they are a higher-risk person. And it's the not-showing-symptoms thing that is exactly what I mean. I'm no doctor, but I thought I heard something about HIV in particular taking years to show up on tests, and that was one of the main problems - people didn't know they were sick, sometimes for years and years. And all the while they kept having sex with people, unknowingly spreading it. That's what I mean for these guys in the thread. If they think it is difficult to find someone now and if they think life is hard now, it will only be worse if they happen to get HIV. They will be even more avoided and the problem won't just be mental blocks they can unlearn, but a physical problem that for now still is without a cure. And the worst part would be, they might not have ever gotten it if they chose not to have sex with that one person, if only they chose a different solution to their problem.
To be honest, the idea of anyone having a disease is something that causes me some concern. I think, what if I meet someone great, but their sexual past is, shall we say, not quite virginal. Should I trust them and take a risk? Or not trust them, be wrong about their health status, and potentially throw someone who might otherwise have been a really good match away?
And I'm sorry to hear about your cousin. That's a serious issue I don't take lightly.
TheRealCallie said:As for a dating coach, IMO, it's not really any different from therapy. Dating coaches can teach you how to ask and all that ****, but what mostly comes from that is gaining higher confidence and self esteem, which everyone has, they just have to figure out how to cut out the negative and tap into it.
So, personally, if you have confidence and self esteem problems, the better method would be to get help for that and observe people (not in a creepy way, of course) and see what happens in day to day life for people who aren't so shy and lacking self esteem.
That's what I'm saying. A dating coach could help these guys realize there was a confident, attractive, fun guy inside them all along, who totally could get dates. All the issues they described are all the same ones I've seen in my own self-help research. I think it would be a far better use of one's money and time, especially towards solving the problems the guys here talked about.