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[EveWasFramed]

How do you know if glasscell found it funny or not? Are you glasscell?

He even repped you for your comment. Stop lashing out at me because I pointed out that you didn't even watch the video you commented on.

Edit: And if it WAS a joke, it was a tasteless one. Some might say you were objectifying women.

 

[LeaningIntoTheMuse]

How is dating 4 guys at once not objecting somebody? Jesus christ!

 

[EveWasFramed]

How is dating 4 guys at once not objecting somebody? Jesus christ!

You didn't WATCH the ******* video! It's not about "dating four guys at one time." Had you WATCHED it, you'd know that. It's not about having "four steady boyfriends" as you said in your earlier post. Stop arguing about something you didn't even watch.

 

[LeaningIntoTheMuse]

You're taking this way too personally.

I basically said the same thing VanillaCreme did. In fact, Vanilla said more. But you took it personally, I guess because it's me?

I never wanted an argument, please stop trying to argue with me. I already said I was done.

 

[EveWasFramed]

You're taking this way too personally.

I basically said the same thing VanillaCreme did. In fact, Vanilla said more. But you took it personally, I guess because it's me?

Quit putting words in my mouth, and quit putting words in glasscell's mouth. Just because you're a mod doesn't give you that right. I am a member here, it is a free forum.

I haven't taken anything personally. I have no idea why you'd think I would. Also, I haven't put words in anyone's mouth - what the hell are you talking about? What does me being a mod have anything to do with me expressing my opinion here? I also didn't tell you not to express your opinion. It's MY opinion that you're arguing about something you didn't even watch. Most of what you just said didn't even make any sense.

Edit: I see you edited your post. I recall you saying you needed to think about what you say before you post. Maybe you need to give yourself a waiting period before you post.

 

[LeaningIntoTheMuse]

I edited it, because I felt that that would go over badly.

Nevermind, this thread was a ticking time bomb. Felix was right. I'm done...now I'm done.

 

[EveWasFramed]

I edited it, because I felt that that would go over badly.

Then why post it to begin with?

But you are targeting me, when VanillaCreme, Locke, Felix, and theglasscell have already said what I said. I made a private joke, which was never meant to be serious.

That wasn't a "private" anything - you posted it in a thread.

And you latched onto that as a reason to bully me.

I haven't bullied you in any way. I've pointed out that you're arguing about something you didn't watch.

I guess I need to PM it to guys now, because some people are way too sensitive.

You being one of those people, apparently.

It's nothing you wouldn't hear in the men's locker room. In fact, I've heard much worse than that...things that I would be banned instantly if I were to share.

This is a forum, not a men's locker room.

The difference between men and women...gah!

This isn't a gender issue. Why would you try to make it into one? You're the one passing the insults here, not me.

 

[LeaningIntoTheMuse]

I'm done, Eve. Let's move on.

If the video was about something else, then the OP needs to post a link to a video that is NOT on a server that crashes constantly, at least through Google Chrome. I'm starting to believe it's that website, and not my computer after all.

As far as thinking about what I post, I need to do that, definitely. I have a thin skin, even friends have told me (and these are people who like me enough to hang out with me.)

 

[EveWasFramed]

I'm done, Eve. Let's move on.

If the video was about something else, then the OP needs to post a link to a video that is NOT on a server that crashes constantly, at least through Google Chrome. I'm starting to believe it's that website, and not my computer after all.

As far as thinking about what I post, I need to do that, definitely. I have a thin skin, even friends have told me (and these are people who like me enough to hang out with me.)

I'll let it go, however, the video seemed to work OK for some people. Maybe it's not the server.

 

[LeaningIntoTheMuse]

I'm done, Eve. Let's move on.

If the video was about something else, then the OP needs to post a link to a video that is NOT on a server that crashes constantly, at least through Google Chrome. I'm starting to believe it's that website, and not my computer after all.

As far as thinking about what I post, I need to do that, definitely. I have a thin skin, even friends have told me (and these are people who like me enough to hang out with me.)

I'll let it go, however, the video seemed to work OK for some people. Maybe it's not the server.

That's weird.

This is a Desktop computer that is only 5 years old. It has all the current software on it (Windows 8, updated drivers, updated browsers, etc.) I even just updated the RAM.

This is the only website I've gone to in the past week that has refused, absolutely refused, to open. It acts like it's loaded, and there is nothing there. Now it's either my PC, or it's Google Chrome...and I figured it was the server, because I haven't had hiccupping from other websites.

If you go here, for instance, the whole website loads in a millisecond. It's super fast. This makes me believe that something is wrong with that server.

Eve, can I ask...are you running a Windows, or a Mac? Or Linux?

 

[EveWasFramed]

Im running Windows.
Something that might have caused you an issue...err....the site (I think) had a bug of some kind on it. My Windows security picked up on it.

 

[LeaningIntoTheMuse]

Actually, my avast prevents me from loading pages with viruses, so that makes sense.

 

[theglasscell]

I watched twenty minutes into the video. This lady is a moron.

She seems to split men into three different categories: losers, badboys, and husband material. As if men aren't human beings but just prizes that you need to try and win.

 

[LeaningIntoTheMuse]

Whoa. I know I didn't watch it, but that is ridiculous.

I'm going to try to find it on YouTube. There has to be a link that isn't being blocked by my antivirus.

 

[EveWasFramed]

I watched twenty minutes into the video. This lady is a moron.

She seems to split men into three different categories: losers, badboys, and husband material. As if men aren't human beings but just prizes that you need to try and win.

She didn't do any such thing. At one point, she asked the audience members for what people call "deal breakers." I think "loser" was one of them. I watched the ENTIRE video and if anything, she encourages women to give ANY guy a chance - not just ones that meet some sort of "criteria" other than basic things, such as he can't be gay (for obvious reasons) for example.
Again, watch the entire video before commenting.

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Whoa. I know I didn't watch it, but that is ridiculous.

I'm going to try to find it on YouTube. There has to be a link that isn't being blocked by my antivirus.

Watch it before you take someone else's word for it.

 

[LeaningIntoTheMuse]

I can't find the video, Eve. Can you point me to a link that is not full of a virus?

 

[EveWasFramed]

I can't find the video, Eve. Can you point me to a link that is not full of a virus?

And it depends on what a "loser" is. I don't know anybody who would go out with someone they defined as a loser, but that word gets thrown around, even to guys who are fine on paper but just socially or physically awkward, and you can see why guys HATE that word.

And I'm tired of hearing about bad boys. It should be illegal for that to come out of anybody's mouth. That and nice guys.

No one defined what "loser" was - it was just something an audience member threw out there. It was a TINY piece of the video - it wasn't really related to what the video was actually about.
In fact, the lady in the video said that the only three things a woman needed to look for in a guy was honesty, caring and something else I forget...it was along the lines of the first two. She said that anything else was just gravy.
As for a link to the video, I could only find snippets, not the entire 75 minute video.
I don't agree with 100% of what she said, but the basics of what she said really makes a lot of sense and it could just as easily apply to men.
There's nothing wrong with going out with different people as long as you aren't in a committed relationship and that's made clear up front.
She even points out that you need to be honest about it if you're not looking to commit to any one person at the moment, but rather "looking" so to speak. She even points out that you shouldn't sleep around, etc.
Maybe some people might find her annoying, but she really is funny, due to the way she kind of makes fun of stereotypes.

 

[LeaningIntoTheMuse]

Okay, the way you describe it sounds like common sense.

And that's exactly what I said. I said that people, men OR women, should be dating multiple people at one time. Of course, if the sex is after one date (and the way the dating world is today, that kind of scares me), this is nonsensical, but generally you should look around and have multiple options before you settle down with one person.

 

[EveWasFramed]

Yup...and that's pretty much what she's saying IMO. She just uses a "formula" to describe it.

 

[LeaningIntoTheMuse]

Isn't that what everyone does, though?

I just don't see this as different. I've never dated, but even I know this.