Men - do you feel yourself becoming an 'incel'?

[ardour]

I know this may be unpopular with the females, but...
Unless a violent crime is involved, females 100% make the decision to have sex.
A law abiding male is completely dependent upon a female saying yes.
Given the above, there are ABSOLUTELY circumstances where a male is "involuntarily celibate" because no female is receptive towards him.
I am not saying females don't experience misery in life.
Just saying this particular misery dwells within the male realm.

There are women who would struggle to find partners - so called femcels / foreveralone women - but only a vanishingly tiny percentage would struggle to find sex or some friends with benefits type arrangement.

And that's why there are times as many older virgin men than women.

 

[Unsigned]

There are women who would struggle to find partners - so called femcels / foreveralone women -

I agree but for them I truly do believe the issue is "pickiness".
I ROUTINELY see on a daily basis women I consider grotesquely obese with normally built, regular guys.
The overwhelming majority of females can "get a guy" if they really want.
Not true for very many males.


EDIT:
Not including myself in the above.
I KNOW I am messed up in the head and far outside the parameters of this discussion.

 

[okidoke]

Well for one reason or another, I can't attract a sexual partner, so call that whatever the heck you want because the terminology is not going to make a skint of difference.

 

[MysteriousTelephone]

So my issue yesterday wasn't a lack of coffee, it was the beginning stages of a migraine. I looked at my post yesterday afternoon and I can honestly say I don't even remember posting it. I was very confused.
Anyway, I think I was partially confusing you with someone else, because now that I can almost think straight (still have a bit of after effects of the migraine), I don't really know what your issues are. I believe you've said you don't have any particular preference for women, therefore you try all types of women and don't really get anywhere (is this correct?). While I do think you can fool yourself into thinking you project positivity, I don't know if the vibe you give off is your issue, but I also don't really think your looks are the issue. You are a conundrum to me. I don't know what you look like, so I can't really say if it's your looks, but I seriously doubt that, because SOMEONE would have given you a chance, IMO. So i think without actually knowing you better or seeing you in person and how you navigate day to day situations, I can't really give you any concrete opinion about what the issue is. I can only think you're not giving us all the information. That isn't meant to be offensive and I'm not calling you a liar, we all hold things back online or don't realize we do certain things so we won't mention them because we aren't aware of them.

That is correct, I do not have any particular physical preferences for women, I have liked women of all shapes, sizes & backgrounds. My only hard-line is that I won't date someone with children, but given that being childfree is exploding in popularity within my generation and younger, I don't consider that an obstacle that's impossible to surmount.

It's hard for me to sit here and try to convince people that I don't project negative vibes. All I can say is that I find it very easy to make friends, and people like being around me, so I have to assume my personality isn't THAT awful and that I must be on some level a positive person to be around. I don't believe I'm holding back information on you, if there is anything you'd like to know, please ask.