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TheSkaFish said:
Got a message today from a friend, wanting to set me up with her friend. She had tried to set me up with someone in the past but I shot that idea down and I don't want this person to think I am just mean to them and disregard their ideas, but without having my life together I don't think it's something I can consider. Also, I'm still in love with who I'm in love with. I don't ever want to give up on her, no one will ever be the same. I just couldn't meet this new girl, whoever she is, with any enthusiasm at all. So I let it go. Sigh........

I´ll say what some other one said. Just try. Maybe you´ll meet a new friend, maybe not. But still...
I would recommend being honest about your feelings with your friend and the one she is trying to set you up with.
But still, go for it, even having no expectations.
If it turns out meaningless, you will be exactly where you were, so no loss, right?
 
The last time i held a hand help electronic device was in the 70s. A hand held video game. and now im forced to own a cell phone and have noone to talk to about it. maybe i should start knocking on strangers doors for advice.


And the majority opinion is the correct one according to a lot of people.
 
Its like the calm before the storm and i am in the middle of the ocean..its going to hit me with raging waves and strong wind, hail and rain...and all i think about is the sun and the highway after....if i survive..
 
VeganAtheist said:
Ah man, just go out with her. You don't have to make any kind of commitment. Just hang out. You could make a new friend or something. Or just have fun for a night.

Mr.YellowCat said:
I´ll say what some other one said. Just try. Maybe you´ll meet a new friend, maybe not. But still...
I would recommend being honest about your feelings with your friend and the one she is trying to set you up with.
But still, go for it, even having no expectations.
If it turns out meaningless, you will be exactly where you were, so no loss, right?

Eh, I see what you mean but at the same time, there's just no way whoever this girl is could measure up to these other girls that I used to know, who were all very pretty, very smart, and shared a lot of my interests. I imagine that whoever it is my friend wants to set me up with has probably nothing wrong looks-wise or personality, but at the same time, nothing right either. I wouldn't feel very excited or lucky to go out with such a person. Instead the whole time I would wish I could have just gotten one of the ones I truly wanted. It's kind of like how life would have been if I'd gone into accounting - it would have been safe, but oh so boring and the whole time I would have simply wished I could have been good enough to do something exciting, fun, and conversation-worthy instead.

I don't have any money to actually go on dates anyway.
 
TheSkaFish said:
Eh, I see what you mean but at the same time....

If you are stuck in the past then you'll only ever stay there, wondering 'What if...'

You've posted you want to get your life going, so why not start now?

Who knows, this girl may be even more awesome than those other ones, and what have you got to lose?

Otherwise we may see a post from you in a few weeks/months, 'oh why didn't go on that date with that awesome girl, all other girls seem so blehh now...'

You say you want adventure? Well here's one!

Lose that 'it'll be crap' attitude and make a night everyone involved will talk about for years, make that girl have the best night she's ever seen, I am 156.86% certain if you decide to do that, go all in on the night with that attitude you'll feel good, even if she's not the one for you in the end.

Adventure is knocking buddy - Go get it!!!! :D
 
I wish I could see what other people see in romantic relationships, so I wouldn't feel so alienated all the time.
 
WildernessWildChild said:
user 130057 said:
I think I might buy myself a backpack and go walking for a few weeks.

Holy honeysuckle Dude, I've been having that same desire lately!

I'd love to do it, but who knows if I will. I seem to spend so little time at home these days, that I may as well be doing a bit of backpacking!
 
I've got a serious inclination to book a return flight to Costa Rica for next November, prebook a room for a night or two (on the beach of course) then spend a couple of weeks bumming around.
 
WildernessWildChild said:
I've got a serious inclination to book a return flight to Costa Rica for next November, prebook a room for a night or two (on the beach of course) then spend a couple of weeks bumming around.

I've got a serious inclination to stow away in your luggage. :D
 
TheRealCallie said:
WildernessWildChild said:
I've got a serious inclination to book a return flight to Costa Rica for next November, prebook a room for a night or two (on the beach of course) then spend a couple of weeks bumming around.

I've got a serious inclination to stow away in your luggage. :D

It's kinda hot there BUT a porter who comes equipped with a club could be useful....it's a deal :D
 

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